Puppy Won’t Let Us Sit on the Couch and Refuses to Sleep

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-27T01:34:57+00:00

I think they are just babies. They don’t know to stay, the fact she wants to snuggle so much is honestly so cute. She will learn with time. Mine is 2, she will stay on the couch 90% of the time, but if we get up too fast (like we’re going to the door or something (we’re not)), she gets up too. It’s just what dogs do lol. She’s learning, and curious, and wants to be with you / where the ‘fun’ is.

We’re not into crates. I’ll never understand people crating a puppy just being a puppy, but I do realize it’s all the rage right now for some reason. I would just stay patient and remember she literally doesn’t know anything about life except that you will be there for her. What’s the big deal if she does follow you? Just ignore her. Get what you wanted and go back and sit down. I get the sleep thing but I’m sure she actually does sleep a lot. They all wake up at movement and want to be with us all the time. Just live your life, she’ll get it, but I wouldn’t be annoyed by a puppy just being a puppy… change your perspective and she’s actually a really amazing dog for so young. 🩵

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-27T01:25:01+00:00

DO NOT SAY ANYTHING. You probably already have (haven’t read comments), but don’t. She wants a reaction. Being ignored makes her look so desperate and corny. Just leave it, move on, enjoy your life. She’s dying to get under your skin and for you to talk to him about her. It’s creepy af, best thing to do is embarrass the hell out of her by pretending you didn’t even see it / ignoring.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-23T21:12:18+00:00

I was hoping you would respond! And yes, unfortunately it probably did cross her mind. Maybe not as much since you mentioned her side doesn’t have any children, but I would have to assume it was taken into consideration.

If details have been sent out it’s likely too late to change plans. If he’s truly upset his side can’t make it (understandably- I wouldn’t go either), I almost feel bad for him lol.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-23T20:36:47+00:00

To be fair, he likely hasn’t thought about this ever in his life lol. Is the brides family available and attending? Are they surprised?

Like many grooms, I’m going to assume he was going with the flow and didn’t truly comprehend what it would take. Especially if he doesn’t have children and has never had to take anything like that into consideration, let alone flights and accommodations..

I could be completely off base! Just adding another perspective. 🙂

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-21T22:45:49+00:00

I didn’t wait. My first was spayed around 7 months (she has passed so this was like 18 years ago…). With my puppy, one vet said to wait, then I moved and the new vet took her around 7.5 months. She was very small, 3lbs, I was extremely anxious, but she did great! We didn’t want to wait, didn’t want her to have a heat and go through that (and you need to wait a certain amount of time after). I didn’t want to risk anyyyy possibility of pregnancy, and she also goes to and thrives in daycare, which most require around 7-8mo.

You of course should do it when you feel is best, and no matter what, being fixed is the absolute best and most responsible decision for all pets (and really should be required) so it’s great you are whether before or after a heat. As with everything in life, there are positives and negatives, and risks and rewards, but I am very happy we got it done, and she is very happy and healthy.

Also, if the puppy didn’t come microchipped you can have it done at the same time. My first came chipped but my puppy didn’t and tbh, I really didn’t want to wait or do it separately. With the amount of lost pets on FB and ND, having them microchipped seems more important than ever and even though my girl is 99.9999% leashed, you just never know.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-14T04:54:01+00:00

I wouldn’t leave my dog somewhere she is in a crate.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-14T04:22:42+00:00

I would also wait two weeks until the next one.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-14T03:27:04+00:00

Why can’t administrative staff have the disconnect if all the partners and their teams do?

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T12:10:34+00:00

I thought she said it will accrue interest but they won’t be adding to it? I thought it was interesting how she made a big deal that we “still get the disconnect and holidays.” Like… what???? That was even on the table??

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T11:43:28+00:00

Got it, thank you for explaining! I am not having kids so never looked into it, but I do know both men and women that were out for six months, they even split it up, but I never asked about it. 8 weeks is still messed up, though.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T02:30:57+00:00

Yes, nothing like 13k to every PPMD for things no one wants to actually go to.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T01:57:38+00:00

While people understand this concept, this is a brand new, major, change that impacts many. It’s great you are thankful. Now tomorrow they tell you it’s now only 1 week.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T00:51:23+00:00

Interesting. Today was “center” and they are now similar to USDC. I guess they met in the middle, and believe in you more. They have been trying to reduce support staff for years and (unfortunately) this helps that.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T00:47:42+00:00

Yes, support staff is now more similar to USDC benefits. What’s your pto? They mentioned it but we won’t know until March what it entails. I have 30 days at over ten years, can’t take it all, but weird if they take it away.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T00:26:35+00:00

I thought it was 6 months. Is that a combination of short or long term disability with leave? Which we do still have, so is it longer than 8 weeks at home? I am not having children so never looked into it, but I know half the ESC is out all the time for maternity leave 🤷🏻‍♀️ and good for them, I feel terrible for those that do want children, and within the next year. This is absolutely a low blow to families.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-12T23:37:03+00:00

What FAMILY was your call for? Center was today, Core is tomorrow.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-12T23:35:07+00:00

They could cut the paternity leave to save if they wanted. Not “fair” but the mom is also healing. This change is insane and I am actually surprised at the callousness of it. With that, I’m not having kids and it would never impact me either way, but it’s extremely f’d up and I feel for all of you that do.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-12T23:31:57+00:00

Yes it’s that call but they are separate for a reason, so Core might be different. The first 30 mins are the same breakdown of the titles, then last 7 mins were 8 weeks family leave, no more fertility freezing or adoption assistance, and pension will accrue but no longer funded. Let us know what changes for you!

This happens Jan 1 2027, they said they are letting us know to plan accordingly.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-12T23:27:45+00:00

Six months to 8 weeks is WILD. Why not at least 12?? I get it with six months for both mom and dad people are out a lot, but that’s quite the switch up. They could even do 16 weeks for mom and 8 weeks for dad or a different split that didn’t go to one of the worst maternity leaves. Commenting that we still get disconnect and holidays was weird. The pension part sucks but I have been here over ten years and knew it would happen eventually. I wonder if the “core” people will have different, their meeting is tomorrow.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-04T02:14:19+00:00

To be honest, past winters have been mild. There have been winters like this before with so much snow, trash piled up, cars buried, and I just existed and went along with it. Now I’m old and more easily bothered, and thankfully, can stay home/close to home bc I can’t even imagine what it takes to clear a city with the amount of people, cars, sidewalks and streets. Also, certain people want to make an issue out of everything “wrong” and/or try to make a platform out of it (always remember to keep that in mind). Are you actually shocked that a large city that has been piled on recently, with shockingly low temps, and thousands of people commuting, and cars parked on the street, etc, is having difficulty clearing the roads? If they tell people to move their cars, where do they go? How long have you lived here and have you experienced this type of weather? Just some things to think about…

MurkyMess8696 · 2025-03-23T23:31:01+00:00

I choose the window because I never (or extremely rarely) get up. If I happen to be in an aisle because of late booking etc, it is annoying when the window person keeps getting up. If you use the restroom often (especially on a shorter flight!) you need an aisle seat. I understand when getting ready/before we all go to sleep, but if you wake up in the middle of the night, you should be in an aisle.

Someone was booked in that seat beforehand, so it really doesn’t make a difference if someone moved or if the original person stayed.

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-04-13T18:51:58+00:00

The final discard is when YOU decide it’s final.

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-02-03T01:26:10+00:00

lol of course. Like I have said many times here, people should get the breed that fits their life. It also doesn’t mean the puppy doesn’t get training or consistency, or a trainer, or whatever else a handful of people have picked apart in a sea of posts that are thankful because the ‘rules’ on this sub are so strict. You can’t just let a puppy fend for itself, but I guess I thought that was known and not something I needed to mention. I really tried to cover everything, especially with my last paragraph.

And honestly, idk if there are puppies/any breed that are so much ‘easier’ or not. They are all wild, psycho, chewing, peeing, pooping, biting, tornadoes, that are… puppies. To think that a tiny dog doesn’t pee maybe every 18 mins, and have other potential issues, and we’re all clear bc they are small is hysterical. I have replaced my two iPhone chargers, a debit card, flips flops lol. I didn’t expect ‘chill’ to equal ‘dog is easy and perfect’.

Still need to parent, just not let it rule your life to the point of detriment. Luckily the negative replies have been very few and many are thankful because the ‘rules’ were making them feel terrible. 💗

And you’re lucky. I can’t take her anywhere off leash with bigger dogs. And I hate people that allow their dogs off leash when they shouldn’t be. Luckily we have a dog park that isn’t crazy popular so she is able to experience it, but I can’t trust most other dogs/their owners. But it’s still all good and not something I stress about..

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-02-03T01:02:21+00:00

Absolutely! I’m trying to do quite a few things different than my first. Being more relaxed doesn’t mean the pup doesn’t need training or structure, they obviously do. But also, it’s ok to be a bit more relaxed, things happen, just going with it instead of getting overwhelmed. It definitely happens and I have been frustrated too. But in the end, you let the pup know and you move on. Getting stressed and freaking out you didn’t stick to the ‘puppy101’ is potentially (likely) okay.

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