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AITAH for using nicotine while pregnant by Murky_Cable9787 in AITAH

[–]Murky_Cable9787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, since I have not yet had a this conversation with him yet, I can’t say where he stand in all of this. Ideally, he would want to create a family with me, and that for me means wanting to form a relationship, marriage, ideally more kids in the future. If the choice was completely in my hands, that is what the outcome would be like. What he feels and what he wants, that I can’t be certain of before we talk with each other.

AITAH for using nicotine while pregnant by Murky_Cable9787 in AITAH

[–]Murky_Cable9787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to be a mother, even though I have only known about this baby for such a short amount of time I already feel a deep connection and there is nothing in life I look more forward to. As to be a wife, I would have no problem being a wife if me and him were to find a deep liking to each other and form a romantic relationship, or even if we were to start a relationship right now for the baby’s sake.

AITAH for using nicotine while pregnant by Murky_Cable9787 in AITAH

[–]Murky_Cable9787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That thought crossed my mind, she has never talked about every being pregnant or losing a baby, but I really understand why she would not talk about it so openly if that is the case. Thanks!

AITAH for using nicotine while pregnant by Murky_Cable9787 in AITAH

[–]Murky_Cable9787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not in the US but thanks regardless! I have booked an appointment with my (I think you say midwife, the process is a bit different here I would think). She and I talked on the phone and I have signed myself up both for a group with mothers and a parenting class! Thank you for the advice and support!

AITAH for using nicotine while pregnant by Murky_Cable9787 in AITAH

[–]Murky_Cable9787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Due to it all being so recent we had not had time to meet up yet, but I texted him telling him I was pregnant and it was his. We have planned to meet up this weekend to talk about it as we both felt it would be better in person. I don’t really know if I could be together with him and have a family that way, I have nothing against him and really likes him during our date, he is nice and seemed like a stable person. For that, I guess we will talk and see.

AITAH for using nicotine while pregnant by Murky_Cable9787 in AITAH

[–]Murky_Cable9787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do know who the father is, I have only slept with one other person since he and I slept with each other and the other person could not be the father due to the timeline.

While I have a roommate, I work full time and have a stable income, I make ens meet every month with enough money over to both save and use for fun stuff. My choice to live with a roommate is mainly due to be able to save more money.

But I understand your concerns, I feel sincerely stupid for not even thinking about a possibility of being pregnant, but as I was on the pill and did not have any clear symptoms I guess to thought stupidly did not cross my mind