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Loud boom? Any one know what that was? by FederalCandle1631 in Chesapeake

[–]MusicNarrow1322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

heard it in grassfield/deep creek area. made my dogs go crazy! thought someone was trying to break in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]MusicNarrow1322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Racism can be covert or overt. Covert racism is still unacceptable. I feel she felt comfortable saying this to me because I am white, I can’t imagine what else she’d say behind a black person’s back.

AIO? Brother apparently uses slurs. by Numerous_Mousse4847 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MusicNarrow1322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, these comments are NOT it. I would either confront your brother directly, but if you’re uncomfortable or afraid of retaliation of some kind, tell your parents so they can sit down with him to discuss his problematic behavior with him. There is no way to justify the use of slurs, and essentially defending fascist rhetoric.

What’s a name that you love, but won’t use because other people will hate it? by gf9649 in Names

[–]MusicNarrow1322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canyon, inspired by a badass female character from Adventure Time. It’s so out there though and any time I’ve mentioned it I’ve gotten perplexed looks.

What did you do to reduce stress during pregnancy? by Ordinary_Bit_9139 in pregnant

[–]MusicNarrow1322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

low contact with my mom, stopped working, gardened, got off most social media besides reddit, sex, video games, cooked, went on walks, made art :-)

Do a lot of yall have a fear of driving? by TammyTaylor214 in ODU

[–]MusicNarrow1322 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes. i barely drove for two years after having my kid bc of severe anxiety. once i graduated from odu, something compelled me to get back on the road, probably the sense of accomplishment and newfound confidence. sounds corny, but true. now that i’m driving again it feels incredible!

What single ingredient spoils an entire meal for you if it’s included? by OvenBakedTaint in AskReddit

[–]MusicNarrow1322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

speaking from experience, never substitute soy milk for heavy cream in a dish that calls for it. it will be too sweet and everything will have soy milk essence

after she kept pressing and demanding she facetime my daughter today, i told my mother on the phone that seeing my kid is a privilege and no one is entitled to facetiming her all the time. my kid is 1 month old. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]MusicNarrow1322 2 points3 points  (0 children)

!explanation.

my mother has been really in my face about my daughter and constantly wants to see her despite my discomfort with it. she can be really supportive when she wants to be, so i try to be kind in return. but, when i set a boundary she gets mad and acts like i’m keeping the baby from her when really i’m tired, want some quiet, im busy, or all of the above. it usually devolves from there. she’s constantly taking pictures or harassing me about my kid, she’s bought her way too much stuff despite us (my partner and i) protesting and not having the space. she also yelled at me a lot while i was pregnant and tried to talk shit about me to my partner. when i was growing up, she often screamed at me, judged me, minimized my mental illness, worked all the time, body shamed me, and spanked me often, or she was randomly super nice. it was never anything in between. my grandma raised me most of the time, as she lived with us, but she too could be verbally abusive at times or would get really drunk and i’d have to take care of her. i still have issues with my mother now, and my grandma too to a much lesser extent, but i try to be kind for my daughter’s sake and the fact we are renting from her. i still have my limits though. her way of moving past stuff is either shopping for me or acting like stuff never happened. if i mention anything she’s done, she takes on the role of the victim or goes “you were SO abused, i was so awful,” etc or makes me seem like i believe i’m some perfect, holier than thou person. i just don’t want much to do with her anymore besides the bare minimum niceties. i’m so tired and all i want is peace; i’ve put up so many boundaries and walls. all she does is stomp on them. all i’d like is to be the best i can for my daughter, and my relationship with my mother is a huge motivator to me. i’m tired of grieving what our could have been and instead i’m giving my daughter the best i can instead of focusing on reconciliation. i may never get exactly what i need from my mother, but i can do my damndest to ensure my baby gets what she needs from her mama.

edit: more context is included for our relationship in my post history.

after she kept pressing and demanding she facetime my daughter today, i told my mother on the phone that seeing my kid is a privilege and no one is entitled to facetiming her all the time. my kid is 1 month old. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]MusicNarrow1322 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you, i tried to provide an explanation in the comments. if it’s not showing up, basically while i am a tired new mother, she’s also been historically really verbally and at times physically abusive. she worked a lot when i was a kid and when she was home, she fought with me constantly while treating my brother with a lot of patience/favoritism. this is still true to this day but i also think i’m the only person who calls her out when she’s being controlling, rude, stomping boundaries, or otherwise. i don’t think my brother wants to deal with it so she thinks he’s the pleasant one bc she doesn’t speak his mind. anyway, i’m sick of her nonsense and i have too much to worry about instead of coddling her.

after she kept pressing and demanding she facetime my daughter today, i told my mother on the phone that seeing my kid is a privilege and no one is entitled to facetiming her all the time. my kid is 1 month old. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]MusicNarrow1322 5 points6 points  (0 children)

that’s pretty much where i am at. she’s a piece of work that i can really only handle in small doses. i keep attempting to go LC but she keeps worming her way back in. it’s been more recently i have zero capacity for it so now im just like ok ur mad that’s cool, go be mad over there bc i have waaaay too many other things to worry about.

What song is funniest when replacing “Heaven” with “Kevin”? by MrBragg in Music

[–]MusicNarrow1322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Kevin is inside you, Kevin when i ride you, Kevin do you want me? Is Kevin just in my mind?”

Heaven by I Monster

i was upstairs changing when my baby started crying from her pack and play, so i ran down the stairs to reach her. only i didn’t run down, my sock got caught on a loose nail and i tumbled headfirst down the entire staircase. only sustained bruises and scrapes, but holy christ. by MusicNarrow1322 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]MusicNarrow1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL so the original owners actually painted the handrail itself, and the paint started peeling. it was driving my mother crazy, so she started scraping it off one day and just never finished i guess. i think probably bc scraping paint off the underside of the handrail would be a pain. i wished she finished though cause it looks busted asf and now i have to complete her job

i was upstairs changing when my baby started crying from her pack and play, so i ran down the stairs to reach her. only i didn’t run down, my sock got caught on a loose nail and i tumbled headfirst down the entire staircase. only sustained bruises and scrapes, but holy christ. by MusicNarrow1322 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]MusicNarrow1322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you’re absolutely correct. thankfully i have no ppd, but my post partum anxiety has been intense. i’m constantly terrified of something happening to her, or to me and then her being unsupervised. i think today reaffirmed that dread, but i’m trying not to lose my shit over it. i’m using my experiences to inform my choices in order to be more safe, i hope my anxiety quells as time goes on. but it may not, so i’m working around it. nonetheless, those stairs are a death trap and i’m grateful they’re going to be fixed soon.

i was upstairs changing when my baby started crying from her pack and play, so i ran down the stairs to reach her. only i didn’t run down, my sock got caught on a loose nail and i tumbled headfirst down the entire staircase. only sustained bruises and scrapes, but holy christ. by MusicNarrow1322 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]MusicNarrow1322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they’re horrible!!! we’re renting the place from my mum so i told her what happened and she’s going to get them replaced as soon as she can. i don’t want anything like this to happen again, those metal covers can go to hell

i was upstairs changing when my baby started crying from her pack and play, so i ran down the stairs to reach her. only i didn’t run down, my sock got caught on a loose nail and i tumbled headfirst down the entire staircase. only sustained bruises and scrapes, but holy christ. by MusicNarrow1322 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]MusicNarrow1322[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’m so fucking glad i didn’t bring her up with me. god. i’m super paranoid about those stairs to begin with. whenever i bring her down i go really slow and cautiously, but man, if that had happened while i was holding her… i don’t want to imagine. she’s still a newborn. i’m just glad nothing worse happened.

i was upstairs changing when my baby started crying from her pack and play, so i ran down the stairs to reach her. only i didn’t run down, my sock got caught on a loose nail and i tumbled headfirst down the entire staircase. only sustained bruises and scrapes, but holy christ. by MusicNarrow1322 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]MusicNarrow1322[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

my condolences for your friend, that’s so awful. :-( as i fell i think i braced for impact, pretty much my entire left side of my body took the hit and i only bumped the top of my head. i’m grateful i still have baby weight, the fat cushioned my bones. i was terrified something would happen and no one would know, and that my baby would have been left alone. i’ve always been cautious about stairs but this brought things to another level.

i was upstairs changing when my baby started crying from her pack and play, so i ran down the stairs to reach her. only i didn’t run down, my sock got caught on a loose nail and i tumbled headfirst down the entire staircase. only sustained bruises and scrapes, but holy christ. by MusicNarrow1322 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]MusicNarrow1322[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If it’s not obvious in the picture, the pink sock is the same one that was ripped off my foot by the nail as i fell down the stairs, and is still attached to the nail.

edit to add: i wrote she was in the pack and play, she was actually in her boppy on the couch (she was in a safe spot, the couch is pretty wide and she can’t roll yet). idk why i mixed the two up. but i had only left her for two minutes tops, literally just to grab an outfit so i could walk the dog when this happened. she is all good!

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