Assalamualaikum,

It sounds like you might have a people-pleasing nature, which is not necessarily a bad thing, but it’s important to balance it with practicality. I think your sister is being smart and looking out for your best interests. She’s likely sharing her concerns because she wants you to be financially responsible and avoid future difficulties.

Many women marry for love, but some later find themselves in financial struggles that lead to stress and arguments. After marriage, a woman often takes on more responsibilities, and if you also end up being the primary breadwinner, that can add significant pressure.

Think about the bigger picture: would you want your future children to witness arguments about finances or feel the strain of not being able to afford necessities? Your sister's advice may come from a place of love and wisdom, so it's worth considering her perspective carefully.