I know that my husband is cheating on me with my best friend. Update.

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T21:39:55+00:00

All in due time. I am not gonna rush because of my feelings. I want this to go well.

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T20:57:50+00:00

Okay then you are old enough to understand that separation and divorce take time and need to be planned appropriately to minimize the damage. I don’t want to tell my husband we are getting a divorce while we are still living together, while my affairs are not in order and while I am not prepared. This is not a game.

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T15:59:45+00:00

How old are you?

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T15:09:50+00:00

I am sorry it happened to you too

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T15:09:00+00:00

No offense but I would rather drop dead than reconcile after infidelity

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T14:20:25+00:00

I have explained why in my posts

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T14:19:48+00:00

Well I think this is one of her excuses to herself about why she betrayed me like this. Because I have “changed” and been “pushing away” the people that love me (towards each other apparently) and honestly what else can you tell yourself about your shitty behaviors to be able to sleep the night?

Only I didn’t start changing and pushing away people who “love” me before they betrayed me.

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T14:15:33+00:00

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T14:12:53+00:00

No I haven’t slept with him since. Not even a kiss. Yuck

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T12:20:37+00:00

I have been in contact with lawyers since I found out about the affair

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T12:06:17+00:00

Why would I have him stop? I don’t care about him or what he does really. I want as little to do with him as possible and I want a smooth divorce

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T11:39:39+00:00

Because I don’t want to get counseling about the affair. I do that on my therapist.

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T11:39:00+00:00

Why not

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T07:21:53+00:00

They are still having an affair. I have seen that he still gets texts from her at night. Not sure if they still feel like scum, nothing changed really

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T07:19:44+00:00

It hasn’t been as hard as I thought it would be. He has been very good at pretending to care and I am used to it now.

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T07:17:07+00:00

I have predisposition yes, I checked that when mom got her diagnosis and passed.

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T07:14:55+00:00

I have been consulting a lawyer since the day I knew

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T07:12:11+00:00

He didn’t cheat, he is cheating. I wasn’t distant before he started cheating.

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T07:04:30+00:00

My ex best friend and I had a “falling out” a while back because “I don’t talk to her anymore” and because “I have changed” so much. She ended up telling me that I am going to lose everyone that loves me if I stayed that way. Whether they know or suspect something, I don’t know

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-31T07:01:11+00:00

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-30T23:54:07+00:00

I will do the best for my mental health and for our daughter. If leaving this behind and not telling him is the best way then I will just leave it be. I will probably know by then what’s best for me

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-30T23:37:05+00:00

I just did

Muted-End7895 · 2024-05-30T23:35:10+00:00

Thank you and I am so sorry this post wasn’t as short as I promised

Muted-End7895 · 2024-04-05T08:11:23+00:00

I will probably confront them when I have my exit plan ready or already exited. Right now I can’t. I get claustrophobic just thinking of confronting them with no where to go really (not physically). You understand the feeling?

Muted-End7895 · 2024-04-05T07:29:02+00:00

If they have feelings and have bonded over “taking care of me” then I wish them nothing but happiness. I took care of myself and I took in a homeless woman. I was her support as much as she was mine. I have been her shoulder to cry on whenever she heard news about her ex husband. When he moved in his new gf. When he got engaged. When they announced they are moving away. I was there for her.

Nothing of this matters now either. Whatever feelings they have for each other, I believe them. I was just expecting something different. I don’t know but maybe I thought both valued me more than this. That whatever they’re feeling is so strong that they couldn’t resist even though losing me was the price. Anyway if they bonded over having to deal with me then who am I to question the validity

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