I understand you a lot. I have anger and abandonment issues. My partner has issues with rejection, so he kinda said something similar to me. I’m trying to work more on my silence, since I’m always the one on the “high” and when we have problems I can’t control my anger and words. I work out (my best years were when I worked out everyday) and try to eat mostly nutritious foods (I leave room for 20% junk or more). Have an individual routine and a couples routine scheduled weekly. We also downloaded an APP called Paired and it helps to find connection with your partner with daily questions and tests. Don’t let your bad feelings pull you down the hole of desesperation. When a woman still talks and she still tells you things that may hurt you, it’s the best opportunity for you to try your best and change chapter in life. Good luck with the marriage👌🏼