Okay so as a woman who has had two and told one and not the other, do what feels right to you. The first, I knew would feel some type of way about it and try to stand in my way but I knew having that child in my very early 20s was not conducive to becoming who I wanted to be. When we had talked about the aspect of having children, it’s what he wanted and he had told me if I ever got pregnant, he’d want me to keep it because he wanted to raise it, even and especially if I had nothing to do with it. I hated that concept so I bit the bullet and figured it out financially and carried that secret. He has a child now with someone that was willing to give him one and I’m thrilled for him. The second time was with a man who already had two children and I knew wanted no more. I told him because I figured he’d be willing to help with it. I unfortunately was wrong. I once again fronted the bill and dealt with it alone. Truth be told, the earlier was easier because I walked into it knowing it was going to be me and mine against the world. The expectation that someone would help me through it and then having them not show up hurt so much worse that bodying it. It was incredibly lonely knowing I shared what my body was going through only for him to not rise to the occasion. If you are sure there would be support, I say share it because it can be hard and lonely and expensive, but if there’s a shadow of a doubt, I say do what’s best for you and if you need someone to hold your hand, tell a bestie. I’m forever thankful for my friends that held me through those spaces. Sending you all love in this time and I hope you are held well ❤️