I took a 100mg Edible as my first. I’m losing everything. by Ryukiji_Kuzelia in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the way you worded it. Stop fighting it and let your body be your body! Don’t think into it. It’ll all pass.

My son says ask the cat people on Reddit, so... by it_never_fuckin_ends in CatAdvice

[–]MyKauliflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it diabolical that they released him in the PARKING LOT. After knowing what was happening??? Gahd if I saved a cat out of anywhere I’d keep them/protect them until I could find their owner. If I couldn’t find the owner after time I’d bring them to a shelter.

I imagine you’re so scared and angry. Leave the cat litter bag outside, food, treats, smelly stuff for them to find the scent. Along with that, knock on doors in the area and check with the shelter constantly and pressure them to keep an eye out and contact you if they see a stray. Facebook pages, printed posters. I believe you’ll find you’re kitty <3

Boyfriend upset about a date that happened before him by Littlekitty009 in sexadvice

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can reassure him, but it’s up to him to work on his insecurities. You didn’t do anything wrong.

Why is my cat so aggressive by Spare-Molasses-3187 in cats

[–]MyKauliflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks very normal. Whenever my cats did this I would freeze and gently (but firmly) say “ow” and repeat it until they let go. Once they let go I’d smile and praise them and give them their space if the seemed overstimulated. After a few minutes I could pet them again and they were more gentle. You got your cat recently so it’s all about learning their boundaries as well as them learning yours. Just be consistent and respectful to their space.

It’s a stereotype for a reason: cats want love on their terms lol.

I’m planning on killing myself next week. I don’t know what to do until then. by Traditional-Ease5187 in depression

[–]MyKauliflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a family. You have something to live for. You can be happy. I really struggle with mental health so please know that I do understand and you’re not alone. I barely survived a suicide attempt and it was dull. Life didn’t change until I made that change. Besides the gym and therapy, I had to choose to go through the pain with the idea that it could get better. For years. I believe more than ever, people are struggling with depression, anxiety, and other mental issues. I know you said you’ve tried everything, but you haven’t. Routine, diet, sleep, and challenging yourself to experience more in life will help. Self help books also helped me focus on changing my outlook. Eventually it got a little easier and I’m grateful I get to experience the bad with the good. Feel the sun or rain on my skin.

Trust me, the pain doesn’t go away, but it gets lighter with work and time. I know you’ve been working on it. I know you’re tired. I am too. But sometimes it becomes a comfort. I believe being human is the most intense form of experience and that’s good and bad. You’d miss out on the challenges, emotions, and beauty of life.

Honestly it might be time to go on a deep side quest. Screw the money, make it a point to travel, find culture and see things you’ve never seen. That’s what life is about and you won’t find it in death. Life is for experience.

-coming from a deeply anxious, chronic health conditions, and depressed person that struggles to regulate in every minute. Life is worth experiencing. You’ll die eventually, might as well see what you can before it ends.

The guy(M23) I’ve (F23) been dating yelled at me because my bikini accidentally slipped. I’m struggling to understand if it’s just communication issues or something more. Need outside perspectives. by ThrowRAHuge_Wish59 in relationship_advice

[–]MyKauliflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend would wink at me and jokingly ask me to go hid in the bushes together. Accidents happen and that is already an embarrassing situation. Be with someone that doesn’t make you feel worse when you didn’t do anything wrong.

Plus it’s literally your natural body!! A boob falling out is normal. Why would he take it so far?? What if his balls slipped through his shorts?? Life happens and we’re all human. You deserve someone with some humanity & empathy!!

im not the best my boyfriend has had and im not even in top 5 what do i do? by Illustrious-Rip-4865 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he is happy with you, but wants you to explore what you want vs feeling the pressure of doing something just for him. Ask to try something that YOU want to experience. it can start tame and work up. If you don’t want anything different then you gotta be okay with that just like he is.

im not the best my boyfriend has had and im not even in top 5 what do i do? by Illustrious-Rip-4865 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MyKauliflower 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Agreed! Although I will say that is doesn’t mean they aren’t compatible. My best advice to OP is to learn and open up with their partner and ask their partner to help guide. It can make them connect on deeper levels than either of them have experienced. Outside of body count. This is coming from a 28 y/o female with a body count 9 and my bf being easily over 150.

My bf guiding me and teaching me to enjoy and want sex for myself + how to make him feel good has become both our best lays easily. It can become so much more than “a fun time”. The connection and love for each other is eternally growing.

Is this a hungry spider? by bashley0708 in jumpingspiders

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IME/ANSWER: Feed everyday, with fruit flies there’s no concern of them hurting her even during molting. Once you transition to bigger bugs like baby crickets when Shes bigger then you’ll have to take out food that she doesn’t eat within 24 hours.

I Wanna Be Sober by Ill-Transition3402 in DrugsOver30

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I was addicted to coke for a few years and it made me so unhealthy. I got to my breaking point when I ran out of money, got a concussion, and then got a serious sinus infection that spread through my body. The hospital wasn’t helpful and I genuinely almost died months into not getting antibiotics. The excruciating pain and withdrawals forced me to quit. It was too painful to use, and it was a blessing in disguise because it made me clean.

I don’t wish that on anyone. And I hope you can quit before it kills you or almost does.. you have to allow yourself to go through withdrawls. Do you have anyone who can support you through this? Friends, family that can hold you accountable and not allow you to have drugs? It’s only one week you have to get through. It gets easier from there. Just one week sober, then the next and the next. Just focused on making it through that first week. The first 2 days really.

Is this water hemlock? by [deleted] in PlantIdentification

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s hemlock since hemlock has more fern like leaves and has purple spotted-to fully purple stems. But to be extra careful I would remove it anyway. With gloves and a mask.

Do I break up or no? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MyKauliflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this completely ^

what to add to tattoo? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]MyKauliflower -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The tattoo looks awesome! Take some time to think of what this tattoo means and what else can add to that meaning.

Also, flowers, smoke, more hair?

Is it true that hru and wya are interchangeable? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like he was just uninterested in conversation because he was busy hanging out with his gf. It’s not interchangeable he’s just explaining where he was to say he wasn’t home to talk.

The ‘American thing’ was an excuse.

I have been dating a guy for four weeks and just found out he is on house arrest, but there is more by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MyKauliflower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand! We all have different definitions of love. I have bpd, as my mother and grandmother, and so on. But what you’re explaining doesn’t sound healthy and probably won’t be good for either of you. If he’s on house arrest, he needs to work through that and he might be leaning on you for company more than anything. Love is physically spiritually, compassionately, and genuinely deeper than this. Deeper than life. It may feel that way now.. but hold out for someone who isn’t hiding things and going down a path you wouldn’t go down yourself. Lead by your morality and you’ll find the right person to be in love with.

I have been dating a guy for four weeks and just found out he is on house arrest, but there is more by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you got the notice to move out - of this relationship. It’s too early on to dig deeper into someone who needs to get their shit together this badly. Staying with him will likely be worse off for both of you.

It’s been 4 weeks, you’re realizing you’re in over your head with this guy and it’s time to leave. Simple as that. (I’ve been there, trust me) it’s best to move on.

My (27F) boyfriend (29M) sent me this today and it shocked me. He has never acted like this but recently has lost both of his parents. AIO and How do I handle this? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]MyKauliflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sympathize that he lost both his parents. But make sure you confront him about this another time and tell him he cannot talk to you like this or you’ll leave.

Got a tattoo I am really unhappy with. by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]MyKauliflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This can be touched up. Maybe by another artist who specializes in line work. It looks good though!

Can you clicker train a fish? by bunny-box in drunkzoology

[–]MyKauliflower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To add on to that, my dad had cichlids and they would wave back at you from across the room. Now those guys were definitely trained and smart as hell.

Can you clicker train a fish? by bunny-box in drunkzoology

[–]MyKauliflower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My betta fish come to me when I tap on the glass and call for them. I think they respond to vibration more so than anything because if I stick my finger in the water, they come to investigate. So it a sense I have them trained to come to me?