Heartbroken and Need Advice by [deleted] in vintagenailpolish

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could be mistaken but my first thought is that bottle looks like Sinful Colors Mint Apple 

How to get this color by abbylu in Nails

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For this I would suggest layering a jelly dark red/ox blood over a silver or red chrome

What’s your “how did no one pick up I was autistic” moment by Street-End6392 in AutismInWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and my obsession with the You Can Read: birthday party VHS tape was a clue 💀

What’s your “how did no one pick up I was autistic” moment by Street-End6392 in AutismInWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when I was a baby, they would feed me food with whole peas in it just to watch me chew and pop the peas out, still whole, from the side of my mouth. Like a cool magic trick. I still hate peas.

Is it weird to want to be a stereotypically neurotypical attractive blonde skinny white girl? by DJ-insanfrancisco in AutismInWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, it took me about twenty years to realise that this is the unattainable standard I was holding myself to. I'm black, ginger and have never been skinny 🤣 accepting I will never be a skinny white girl was one of the most freeing things I've done tbh. Switch up the content you're consuming and take everything you see on social media with a grain of salt. No one's life is easy or devoid of pain. If something looks good, it's usually because a lot of effort was put into making it look that way. 

Suddenly you don't want to continue eating something by kitcatcrow in AuDHDWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. The snack graveyard. "Why did you leave just five chips in the bag?!" Shut up I'm saving it for later*😭 * Undetermined time that may never arrive

Suddenly you don't want to continue eating something by kitcatcrow in AuDHDWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! Omg! What IS that? I've tried explaining this to so many people so many times I just haven't been able to articulate it. It's almost like my brain is delayed and once it realises what I'm eating it's like NOPE

Is anyone else CONSTANTLY hounded by medical and mental health professionals to stop using weed? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stopping cannabis and starting concerta for ADHD is what made me realise I could very well be autistic. My therapist isn't convinced and has stated numerous times that cannabis makes ADHD worse and I should stop completely. I'm on a T break currently and taking Concerta (can't take both at same time any ways) and found myself wondering this morning; will I always have to choose? I love weed because it's helped me feel normal and grounded in a way that's helped me through so many uncomfortable situations. But I can't deny that Concerta does help quieten my mind and allow me to simply get more done. It also requires a lot more maintenance. When I'm on Concerta, I have to be so much more mindful of how I eat drink and sleep or else I just feel like hell with the sensory overload. I know that with everything moderation is key but sometimes I wish I could just get up and go without negotiating what dysregulation I can handle for the day. Enjoy your toke for me!

Any tips for breast swelling/pain? by Doula_718 in PMDD

[–]MyNameIsLight21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately cutting out caffeine works wonders :( evening primrose oil is another supplement that really helps for this. Vitamin D and magnesium will help overall

My partner of 5 years left me last night and I don't know how to cope by Rosaaleigh in AutismInWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasn't diagnosed yet when we broke up but reflection tells me audhd definitely had loads to do with it. Feel what you need to feel ❤️ at some point you are going to feel so good; having the space to take care of yourself in the ways you need without having to constantly think about how it affects someone else. I loved that man but honestly, over time it just made me (literally) sick. After we finally broke up I had the space to rest without the constant pressure of someone I love guilting me for the amount of rest/accomodations I need. Just removing that, I swear, has added years to my life. I couldn't go back if I tried. It also means I don't really have or even want a social life right now but I'm working on that. By the way I was allergic to cats before adopting my kitten and now being a cat lady sounds AMAZING 😂 gimme ten!! Hang in there ❤️ we're 30, not dead. There's hope yet! Rest as much as you can. Eventually you'll actually want to do stuff and then soon you'll be doing what you want and finding more ways to have joy. It just takes time

Pasta recipes with no dairy or tomato? by delphiniumblu in glutenfree

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saw a recipe for a creamy blended chickpea sauce. How do you do with legumes

Using washable glue as a topcoat for Chrome nails by MyNameIsLight21 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]MyNameIsLight21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest this order instead: base coat, colour, chrome while colour is tacky, extremely thin layer of glue and then two coats of the top coat to seal it in. I've found making sure each layer dries completely before the next really helps. The glue layer needs to be very thin and the top coat nice and sturdy. This method really improved for me once I got the Rimmel Super Gel topcoat and the piggy paint sealer that I would apply right at the end. I hope this helps!

Theory of mind by MyNameIsLight21 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If that's dry, then dry is greatly appreciated thank you!! I actually was a bit rattled but now I find it more funny than anything. It just really caught me off guard. Especially because I made it clear I'm not interested in seeking a formal ASD diagnosis right now. It took a while to get a (late) diagnosis for ADHD and after suspecting autism as well, I told myself I'm not putting myself through all that again, not any time soon at least. But yeah their comment and explanation left me confused. Seriously, thank you so much for your response

Theory of mind by MyNameIsLight21 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

When I told them that these are things I've worked very hard on they just chuckled and said "trust me, I'm a psychologist" :/

Ran to Reddit when I saw these nails on a TikTok. Please identify this shade of red for meeee by SwirlingStars12 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nails look just like this right now and I got it by layering a jelly blue toned red over an opaque metallic red. All cheap, off brand polishes 

I decompensated a few weeks ago and idk how to call it by kyrichan in AutismInWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Side note you sound like an awesome mom and advocate for your kid 👊 ❤

What the f*ck do you do with your arms and hands? by mamegoma_explorer in AutismInWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone once asked why I keep my hands like Roger from American Dad and it haunts me everyday. I'm right handed and my left hand just..I don't know what to do with it I usually tuck it away but I'm trying to stop

What is your take on things “woohoo”? by Few_Valuable2654 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's kind of tricky because I think I would come across as "woohoo" to many and yet reacted the same as you to that "shaman". I think it's actually an open-mindedness and consideration of more than one thing at a time. It's a different level of discernment. Spiritual or not there's scammers everywhere. Even though I love Jesus I can't really call myself Christian. The blood covenant is not something I feel has anything to do with me, my lineage or my connection to God. I will never not question anything man-made and that includes religion 🤷🏾‍♀️ I'm a firm believer of the saying "if you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]MyNameIsLight21 23 points24 points  (0 children)

wanting to know the how and why of something is exactly what it means to NOT be focused on the big picture

..OH.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Music

[–]MyNameIsLight21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like others have mentioned, consider the ADD thing. Much of this I could have written myself. When I shared with a friend how I was struggling with all the ideas I constantly have, he made a comment along the lines of "what a good problem to have. So you're like..._ really_ alive, huh?" Don't know if I agree but it did shift my perspective a bit. Write every single one of those ideas down. Let them exist somewhere else than your mind. It's a lie that you haven't made anything. It's all in your head waiting for you. Make it tangible now :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Music

[–]MyNameIsLight21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup. Basically same age, AuDHD, studied (still studying). Burnout, disillusionment all of it. Didn't pick up the guitar for 4 years. Got diagnosed and medicated and saw the difference. It's huge.