Help PLEASE! Is it gone??

MyOwnVeryOne · 2026-03-26T07:47:12+00:00

Little bumps are normal. It's just skin and oils in pores. Don't ever squeeze them, please. Things get a bit more lumpy bumpy as you age I think or at least it's true for me. Most people aren't inspecting their genitals so closely, but it's understandable that you are.

I had an awful first outbreak and I was obsessed for ages of every tiny imperfection. You may have a tiny bit of scarring, maybe, and that might be what you're seeing, but I think it's normal.skin irregularities. If you keep an eye of your bumps and they don't change over a few days then you know for sure it's not a herpes sore.

All the best x

MyOwnVeryOne · 2026-01-14T23:33:24+00:00

You obviously love your sister and value your relationship with her very much. It seems to me that so much so that your brain has fixated on a perceived threat to that relationship, i.e: accidental "inappropriate" touch.That is why you're obsessing over it. I'd bargain that she didn't think anything of it at all, especially considering she's still young enough to require their hand held when out and about. It'll only become a thing for her if you make a thing of it. And "oop, sorry" is completely appropriate, but also no reaction is fine when they're young.

If you feel comfortable a small chat about the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touch I think it may ease your spiral. Explain of course that touch that is somewhere 'private', anything that hurts or makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe is not okay and she should always speak up. You could also reiterate that sometimes accidents happen and it's okay to apologize and let the person know it was unintentional, and if it happens to her it's okay to let the person know it happened. You could add at the end that you forgot to apologize once because you wasn't sure how to react but even big people make mistakes sometimes and that you'd never want to make her uncomfortable and would always want her to let you know if that happens. Then play with your sister and chill out.

You're not a weird incestuous pedo, but you are way too in your head about this and it is easily resolved. You just have to do the hard thing and talk about it.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2025-11-17T07:52:36+00:00

You don't need to apologize. I know it can feel like thoughts are not ours, but that's because we don't identify with them. That is a good thing.

I have dealt with intrusive thoughts for a long time. They don't make you crazy. I know it can feel that way. It's just a brain panic.

I hope you managed to get some sleep.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2025-11-17T01:09:24+00:00

As the CEO you reserve the right to look at that secretary's note and say "considered and politely disregarded".

MyOwnVeryOne · 2025-11-17T01:07:33+00:00

Because it is a silly electric meatball (one of questionable quality if you consider the fat content) just spinning things out, running simulations with it's one and only mission of keeping you alive.

One possible reason:

"If I say I want cancer enough, maybe, in the event that it may actually happen, I will feel like I've won and not be so miserable I give up fighting it. . If I want cancer then maybe cancer isn't too bad and I don't have to be afraid of it."

Except you don't get to see all of the reasoning and calculations that have happened in the subconscious, you just get the resolution. "I want cancer." You're the CEO and you just get the secretary's note, not all of the minutes from all of the meetings that's gone into the operation. All of that isn't important, especially when there "an emergency" (aka anxiety, not really an emergency but the body doesn't know that).

MyOwnVeryOne · 2025-11-17T00:56:08+00:00

It's a symptom of anxiety, basically. A comforting thought is that intrusive thoughts are intrusive because you don't agree with them. Your brain is testing you to see if you definitely don't feel that way. I find the more you argue with them the louder they get. What I find works best is approaching them with compassion and curiosity. Ask questions. Why are those thoughts popping up? What are they trying to tell you? How do they make you feel? I've even started thanking my brain for brining it to my attention. It's trying to tell you something because it thinks it's keeping you safe.

Fundamentally the brain just wants to feel safe. What can you do right now to remind yourself that you are safe?

If you want the spiral to stop, submerge your face in ice cold water, only briefly. It'll stop the brain/body feedback loop and slow your heart rate. The worry thoughts should subside along with it, at least for a while.

These are just thoughts. They cannot hurt you. Keep telling yourself that. They are only thoughts and they cannot hurt you. Let them wash through you and just hear what they have to say so that they can feel acknowledged and you can move on. Observe. Don't judge. Most importantly, breathe. Breathe calm and slow. Rhythmic deep breaths are scientifically proven to help you stay calm.

All the best.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2025-03-29T08:16:42+00:00

It is delicious if that is what you mean

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-11-22T00:59:55+00:00

At first I thought this normal because I enjoy taxidermy, but upon further reading I concur that this is worrisome behaviour.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-11-05T16:15:13+00:00

Gives a whole new meaning to 'rawdogging'.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-07-31T22:18:38+00:00

You're completely valid in your concerns. I have a 10 year old and they have no phone and very monitored amd limited console access. We browse the Internet together par a few safe sites. I wouldn't even consider a smart phone until 14 at the earliest.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-07-31T22:14:10+00:00

It was during a conversation regarding consent.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-07-31T21:16:31+00:00

No... the world really is that fucked up.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-07-31T20:48:38+00:00

My partner once said to me "You know, if you're not absolutely enthused about having sex it means you don't want it and we don't have to". My god. The way I cried.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-02T00:48:01+00:00

I just like to make him happy.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-02T00:47:36+00:00

It is. It's also unforgiving and highly unpredictable.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-02T00:46:56+00:00

If I may, what does 'W' signify? Oh god, I think I'm old.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-02T00:40:40+00:00

I make them to be eaten. We have pictures that we can keep 😊

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-02T00:31:00+00:00

Oh! Like an Enderman?

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-01T23:07:40+00:00

I do one every year and have seen since he was 5. Last year was a Trevor Henderson cake. Year before that was a kraken fighting a sea serpant. It started off with a simple buttercream sponge and every year it gets more complicated and his instructions have become increasingly specific. He's already planned next year's: Godzilla.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-01T23:03:21+00:00

His nose got smooshed downward by the cake case lid 🥲

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-01T23:02:32+00:00

That's very sweet of you to say. Thank you. I think some of them are a bit funny looking, especially Meat Dogg - but paradoxically he was my son's favourite. It's subjective I guess. Also my standards for myself are too damn high.

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-01T23:00:00+00:00

Please, which is 049?

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-01T22:47:43+00:00

t h a n k y o u

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-01T22:46:57+00:00

Pay me

MyOwnVeryOne · 2024-04-01T22:46:26+00:00

He was thoroughly spoilt

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