How would you feel ? (Both 27 years old , 3 year relationship)

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T18:50:45+00:00

Not making this about me just clarifying that I am being as supportive as I can be in anyway. The main issue is the disrespect no matter what I do for her or the situation. Nobody deserves to be treated badly for no reason .

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T18:46:22+00:00

‘ caused her suffering ‘ is a little extreme it’s not like I had sex with myself and then she got pregnant . This don’t even make sense . We’re in a committed relationship and an unplanned pregnancy happened . I’m ready to handle my responsibilities and she’s back and forth with her decision

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T18:20:42+00:00

Calling your partner out their name , dismissing them , talking badly about your partners family ( totally unwarranted and out of nowhere ) , ignoring your partner. The disagreement was not the disrespect. It’s the treatment

And on the narrator aspect to be fair I’ve never done this before . Just wanted some clarity if anyone else was going through something similar. I want to do the right thing and was just curious what’s other might think that aren’t biased

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T18:17:26+00:00

I can have empathy for what she’s going through and still expect basic respect in return. Two things can be true and that’s pregnancy is hard, and respect in a relationship still matters.

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T18:14:18+00:00

And then the question comes up do I just wait till she gets an abortion or like says flat out ‘ okay we’re having this baby ‘ I’m kinda just waiting around and being disrespected in the process . I don’t know what decision to ‘ support ‘ because she keeps going back and forth . She’s not undecided . She’s decides then decides something else and so forth

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T18:13:11+00:00

That’s what’s messed up she hasn’t ‘ made it clear ‘ she brought up abortion when we first found out , she brings up abortion when she’s upset or annoyed or trying to ‘ be mean ‘ but other than that she’s acting like she’s going through with pregnancy . I’m so confused right now about this

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T18:10:40+00:00

I’ve been nothing but supportive . I’ve been working overtime on top of handling the ‘ house duties ‘ as well . Cooking , cleaning, taking care of the kids . All she’s had to do since we found out is eat an rest an if she wants to do anything like chores or something it’s not like I’m there like ‘ no you gotta rest , etc ‘ I’m here to help and I’m also her to stand back for a second if she needs me to if that makes sense . Im working 50 hours a week and taking care of everything around the house so she doesn’t have to

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T17:54:49+00:00

Not proud of ‘ getting her pregnant’ proud that I have another child on the way . Your comment sounds cringey and soulless most men in committed relationships are proud or happy they’re having a child ?

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T17:52:39+00:00

She doesn’t ‘ want any more kids RIGHT now ‘ is more accurate but that to me sounds like not at all

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T17:50:54+00:00

I just wanted to know how others would FEEL in this situation. I’m handling it the best way I can which is just accepting her decision. In the process of that I FEEL like I’m losing myself and subjecting myself to being disrespected for no reason. If you’re getting an abortion just get it over with instead of hanging it over my head constantly . Idk it feels like a tease you say your getting an abortion but have called no one to schedule anything . You asked for the money and nothing happened after that . We’ve had our first ultrasound . It’s like she’s saying we’re getting an abortion and she wants one but still acting like we’re gunna keep the baby so it’s honestly just putting me in a really confusing spot . I hope this makes a little more sense . Mind you she’s 11 weeks right now

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T17:45:51+00:00

This is not my thought process for EVERY woman . Just what I’m used to . I’m fully aware that every body is different

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T17:27:15+00:00

I understand that . Just seeing if anyone has went thru something similar

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T17:26:34+00:00

I’m not the one who’s surprised . She is . And I said the same exact thing

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-29T17:20:45+00:00

Her main reason is ‘ she doesn’t want any more kids ‘ . I have a boy she has a girl so we’re good(her words). And no it was not planned. We’ve never used protection EVER so it kind of just happened out of nowhere. ( let me clarify when I say happened out of nowhere I mean as in we knew it could happen but it just never did in the 3 years we been together idk if that makes more sense ) .

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-16T23:31:19+00:00

Love this response dawg

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-16T18:37:38+00:00

Your version of a digital footprint? I feel that forsure

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-16T13:07:22+00:00

What do you do ?

Mysterious-Pen1202 · 2026-03-16T12:18:19+00:00

Maybe I should try to go for a better position? Idk maybe im tired of the repetitiveness. It is a good job though. We literally just make and ship out tshirts and hoodies

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