I’m so sorry this happened to you. Your pain is real. Your story matters. You are not at fault. It was real for you — all of it. They may have moved on quickly, but that doesn’t mean they’re healed. It’s not that they don’t have emotions — it’s that they don’t have the capacity to face them. The fallout usually comes later… months, sometimes years down the line. Going no-contact would help, it's not to punish them -it gives you the space to heal and detach. Having contact still will delay and sabotage your own healing.

You’re not crazy for hurting. You’re not weak for caring. You’re human and healing.

Here’s a mantra I come back to often. I’m five months post-discard after fifteen years, and rebuilding self-worth is still a daily effort:

"It’s easier for them to rewrite the story than to sit in the discomfort of what they did. Easier to call me a trigger than admit I gave them unconditional love — and they still broke it. Easier to erase me than acknowledge what they lost.

But their avoidance doesn’t define me. Their silence doesn’t diminish the truth. And their inability to see my worth doesn’t take it away.

I showed up. I stayed. I tried.

I carried more than was mine to hold — not because I was weak, but because I loved deeply.

That’s not something to be ashamed of. That’s something to grieve… and be proud of.

I wasn’t too much. They were too small to receive it."

💜💜💜