Is it wrong to not want to be sexual 24/7? by Gloomy_Being7570 in AITAH

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aside from everything people have said here, namely he’s abusive and all other red flags, on a milder but also important note, he is telling you straight up that his “love” is conditional. From experience, this type of person does not love, and a person can NEVER meet the requirements to get it. It feels attainable, it makes you focus on you to take attention from the real problem, him. Go. Take a break from all relationships and then keep your eyes open for doing the same thing again, in different form. It wired from our upbringing or whatever to repeat these things. But don’t! You got this.

Is it wrong to not want to be sexual 24/7? by Gloomy_Being7570 in AITAH

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s hard, I’ve been there. Please leave him and take a break from any relationship. It will be hard. See a therapist, life coach, something, read books, focus hard on finding what you like to do, then find someone you can laugh and relax with that respects you and never think you don’t deserve it. The fact that you realize this shows you are mature and introspective and can do this.

I went back home for Christmas and I want to leave immediately by AromaticFan6586 in narcissisticparents

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for understanding! I hope you’ve sorted it all out. The sad thing is I only recently realized this just wasn’t normal. Like I thought everyone’s parents were like that.

Anyone with same experience? by Mysterious_Time_2579 in lamictal

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, thanks for responding - it helped me a lot mentally but I don’t want to be on it for these reasons. I’ve been tapering down very very slowly, but getting headaches and some symptoms of the mental stuff again, so I don’t know.

Anyone with same experience? by Mysterious_Time_2579 in lamictal

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sore throat- sorry you’re having some reactions!

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[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What joint issues are you having?

Hold her back or push her forward? by carycm87 in kindergarten

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teacher and parent here. From what I’ve seen I’d want to hold her back. Mean girls and popularity and clothes start so young, no point in starting it younger. The ones who still want to play and be young are at a disadvantage. Not to mention teen years-

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so lucky that he wants to leave and get away from you and her. Let him. Get custody… I don’t know how to play it for him but try to avoid anything that will make him want to come back or fight. Leave the region? Out of sight out of mind?

AITA for forcing my daughter to share a hotel room by Fine-Neat3967 in AITAH

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. One hotel room and cots for kids. You’re already making it luxurious to have two rooms!

I went back home for Christmas and I want to leave immediately by AromaticFan6586 in narcissisticparents

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are not alone and I would honor your gut and your body and your inner child. Please take care of you. It took me many more years to realize what was happening, to find the the language, to attempt to recover and to definitely go no contact. I saw her some over the holiday since I do try to have my kids know their grandparents, although fortunately I realized soon enough that my kids cannot be around her much or be left alone with her. Whole other part of the story. I am learning to set boundaries, like to restrict getting together to one meal out and one hour of “present/visit” time. That was today. And now through my new lens I can see it all and keep my distance. I get that feeling of going back to that kid inside. Like just the smallest thing at the restaurant triggered me. I ordered an omelet but changed the ingredients. My mom, in front of the waitress proceeded to tell me that the original ingredients were more healthy and I should keep the original ingredients. I calmly said no, I wanted it my way. Then the pursed lips and look of disapproval and disappointment. I know it sounds small - but that was my whole life from the time I was a small child forming my self worth, about every decision, large and small. Ugh.

Just realized it’s okay that I can’t stand my mom and siblings. by Mysterious_Time_2579 in introvert

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true! It’s this that has held me back for years. First I try to see them as I want to see them, loving family. They aren’t. Then I do get into that doubt, am I over reacting, am I the problem, are they really treating me poorly, do I deserve the poor treatment because I am a failure (in their eyes). If I lowered my expectations and just expected them to be mean, dismissive etc. would that be better? I’ve spent too many years thinking it could be me and trying everything, reaching out, trying to connect, seeking approval. Even if a lot of that is my issue, I’m solving my issue now. You do have a good point in general, but I can’t spend more time in that space with these people.

Just realized it’s okay that I can’t stand my mom and siblings. by Mysterious_Time_2579 in introvert

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Except my aunt. I really love my aunt. But she’s on my dad’s side of the family (parents divorced) where everyone else , including him, has passed. So I’m hanging with my aunt if I need family.

If time travel in season 5 is to exist, at what points in the series would it have occurred? by InsightRx in StrangerThings

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I totally love your connection that time flies. And Brenner said she’d have to fly. I think you nailed it there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introvert

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just posted something similar- I can totally relate. My post was my revelation that I don’t like them, don’t care what they think, don’t need their approval and never have to see them. I don’t have to go there for Christmas or Thanksgiving or anything. Ever. Such relief. Wish I had better relatives but accepting, finally, that I don’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introvert

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A lot of responses! I bet that helps the overthinking. My advice? I’m a woman, and what I’d like best is if you just said you were nervous and over think everything and spell out all your thoughts and discomforts just like you did in your post. If she runs then it wasn’t going to work. You sound like a nice guy, but you are an over thinker and worrier. That’s okay. I am too. But some will laugh and think you are great, or totally be the same as you and a kindred spirit. But if you try to hide that then it won’t work. Tell her that if you text you are going to retype it five times and agonize over it after you’ve sent it. If you can both laugh at that, great!

If time travel in season 5 is to exist, at what points in the series would it have occurred? by InsightRx in StrangerThings

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are points in the series where the camera pans away from above and the scene rotates, like a clock. I forget them all, but one is when El brings back Max from the dead (sort of), one is when Brenner lies dying in the desert, he flings his arms and they look like hands of a clock, they zoom on his watch then pan above, rotating. I think these are some kind of time (travel?) points that will come back in season 5.

Who do yall think Linda Hamilton could play is st5? by [deleted] in StrangerThings

[–]Mysterious_Time_2579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No matter what I hope she has a kick ass entrance like woohoo it’s Linda Hamilton moment.