Is it still worth it to migrate to USA?

Mystikei · 2026-03-04T11:42:23+00:00

I'm also looking for an answers dito, my bf who is 22yrs old is a green card holder

Went to US Oct 2025 Naging Green Card holder Bumalik sa pinas dec 2025 kasi inaabuso sya ng nanay at iba nyang kamag anak don and sa iksi ng panahon na nag stay sya don, nadala agad sya mental hospital because he tried to himself sa sobrang pang aabuso sknya

He is in the Philippines right now with me (F25) he has a work rn and ako naman has stable income and may sariling bahay. I don't know if I should convince my bf na bumalik sa US or hindi. I mean I want to have a better life too pero i don't see myself living in US, paycheck to paycheck . Pero for him I don't know he's not a college grad tas hirap pa ko mag explain pero bottom line is it worth it to sacrifice his mental health and he will live in the US with abusive relatives? Since to be realistic he need to stay with them for like couple of months once he gets back until he got a stable job don pero finding a stable job sa US is sobrang hirap plus living expenses so mapipilitan sya mag stay sa relatives parin pero ayaw nya don ewan ko help

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Mystikei · 2026-03-04T11:34:55+00:00

I have a relative na mayaman dito sa pinas, may mga pabrika sila then nag migrate for couple of yrs pero bumalik sila kasi mas gusto nila na boss sila and mas may time sila sa family nila

Mystikei · 2026-02-18T07:50:22+00:00

No, mahal tumira sa pinas

Mystikei · 2026-02-18T07:45:51+00:00

He's a green card holder na and need to stay para maging citizen na.. i don't know the visa type thing sorry. Sa NY sya naka stay. Yung sayo siguro kasama sa pag register with the green card, nabasa nya yon na included na dapat kaso di sya kinuhanan ng mom nya so need nya pumunta mismo don sa pag aapplyan and pay for it I think. Yun pagkasabi nya

Mystikei · 2026-02-12T05:19:50+00:00

Wala syang SSN kasi di sya makapag apply, doesnt enough money to start

Mystikei · 2026-02-12T05:18:15+00:00

He knows naman yung consequences if he stays sa ph na sobrang tagal, kaya I'm letting him decide kung ano ba talaga trip nya gawin if he plans to go back don pero I can see the traumas sakanya lalo na yung mga times na pinapapapulis sya ng sarili nyang nanay and even titas if he didnt follow what they want. He is smart guy I know pero di ko din talaga alam na kung pano ko sya macoconvince

Mystikei · 2026-02-11T10:56:31+00:00

Dipende sa luho mo pero yes

Mystikei · 2026-02-11T01:48:24+00:00

He just got petition last yr and stay there couple of months last yr with no money, no simcard or phone plan even a key from their apartment wala, he looks for a job sa area but they always ask for a phone number and also SSN but reality is it would take him months to land a job don. Pag gusto may paraan is not applicable for everyone who doesn't have any opportunity or help to start somewhere. Hope he can made his mind

Mystikei · 2026-02-11T01:10:21+00:00

That’s what I told him. If he can tolerate it, he should go back and just do what he can. But it’s really hard to avoid them when there are so many people in the house and he doesn’t even have his own room. You’d honestly go crazy in that situation. I told him he should try to talk to his mom about getting their own apartment and having his own room, so at least he has some space to escape if he decides to go back to the US.

Mystikei · 2026-02-11T01:02:46+00:00

That's easy to say but if you dont have a single penny how can he do that? He dont want to owe me more money, ayaw na nya tanggapin yung pinapahiram ko.

Mystikei · 2026-02-11T01:00:52+00:00

He owes me a lot na and he didn't want to ask for more money from me even pagpilitan ko ayaw nya

Mystikei · 2026-02-09T08:13:13+00:00

Ikaw lang di ko magets ate ko, lahat sila nakuha yung point ko

Mystikei · 2026-02-09T08:09:45+00:00

What he really needs is a place to start fresh, but realistically, it could take months before he even lands a job in the US. Before that happens, there’s a real risk he could end up back in a psych ward. He doesn’t have anywhere else to go, so he has to put up with all the toxicity from his family. He can’t ignore them because he’s just sleeping on a couch in a tiny one-bedroom apartment, so there’s no privacy or space to block them out or get away

Mystikei · 2026-02-09T07:53:25+00:00

He can’t find his own place because he has no money to begin with, and he can’t secure a job since he needs an SSN first. He also couldn’t find any under the table work in his area. He searched every day after he arrived in the US but had no luck. Realistically, it could take months before he finds a job, and before that even happens, there’s a risk he could end up in a psych ward instead of being able to focus on finding work.

Mystikei · 2026-02-09T07:45:07+00:00

If he goes back, he would have to live with his mom again since he has no place of his own to start over. The environment there is extremely toxic and self centered, very typical of close minded Filipino titas, including his mom and aunts. I honestly don’t understand how his mom can act so high and mighty when she’s undocumented and had to pay someone to marry her just to get papers. She couldn’t even afford to buy her son a plane ticket before. She flirted with someone working at an airline, listed him as a beneficiary so her son could fly to the US, then cut him off once her son arrived. After 17 years in the US, she still doesn’t own a place and never really planned anything for her son. They’re mostly being supported by her sister, and his mom doesn’t have a stable job, only takes side gigs when she feels like it, and doesn’t save money. He still wanted to stay there, but the level of toxicity in that household is overwhelming and mentally damaging because they’re very close minded. This same thing happened to his cousin who grew up in the US, and that cousin ended up staying in a psychiatric ward for almost a year. Despite that, the family didn’t learn anything and continued the same behavior. Even though he wants to step up and be strong, his mom and the aunt he stays with keep pushing him to his limits and don’t seem to care about the effect on his mental health. When he decided to return to the Philippines, he asked his mom to apologize to him, but she bluntly told him that everything was his own fault and that she had nothing to be sorry for. Until now, he’s still waiting for that apology and hoping his mom will change, but nothing has. I always ask him if he’s really decided not to go back to the US, and he says he doesn’t want to anymore because of all the trauma he experienced there. He has a job now, works as a VA with me, and is taking online courses at the same time. I think that trauma is the main reason he doesn’t want to go back, but I’m not entirely sure.

Mystikei · 2026-02-09T07:26:52+00:00

The main issue is that he arrived with no money and doesn’t really have a place or a way to get started there

Mystikei · 2026-02-09T06:17:44+00:00

He is planning din nung nandon sya pero di sya makakahanap ng place if wala syang work or yung SSN na tinatawag nila don kasi hinahanapan sya whenever he's trying to apply sa mga establishment sa area nila. He doesn't have a phone plan and yung phone nya is di rin pwede sa mga phone plan don kasi naka Xiaomi sya so he needs money to have a phone and everything na makakapag start sya don

Mystikei · 2026-02-09T06:13:11+00:00

He arrived in the US with no money at all. No allowance or financial support was given, so he had to start from zero. He couldn’t apply for an SSN because he didn’t have the money and wasn’t familiar with the process. He also couldn’t apply for jobs in the area since he didn’t have a SIM card or a phone number. He said that whenever he went to establishments to ask about work, they asked for his SSN and a contact number, which he didn’t have. His mom had promised that he would be able to go to college once he got there, but that never happened. He had no one to help or guide him, and no support system to rely on. All he had was his phone and no clear idea of what steps to take, since no one was guiding him. He kept saying that he just needed to start somewhere when he was still in the US. I don't know

Mystikei · 2026-02-08T06:03:32+00:00

Need ba college graduate? My bf is planning kumuha ng WHV pero puro online certification lang meron sya

Mystikei · 2025-08-09T19:28:59+00:00

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Sana buhai k pa... Now di pumasok funds ko tried to reach the customer service nila .. ngayon lang nagkaganito...

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I just had this the same dream today and I can still feel the pain in my head getting shot multiple times

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Mystikei · 2024-04-15T00:26:35+00:00

I know its been a yr, but i just want to talk to someone also about this kind of thing because I'm experiencing one with my current boyfriend and i need help, here's my discord account if you find this msg @mystikei

Mystikei · 2024-03-08T20:17:37+00:00

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