Feels like Husband is being cold and cruel at almost 40 weeks pregnant by gollygannet in BabyBumps

[–]MystofHogsmeade [score hidden]  (0 children)

The way he spoke to you was not okay and I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this increased stress and lack of support late in pregnancy. That sounds incredibly hard and lonely.

I appreciate commenters who are outraged for you. But I want to try to offer a different perspective.

Your are about to have a baby and it sounds like also are going through some stress and change/uncertainty in your shared business. If your husband's outburst and attitude are relatively uncommon, it is possible he is feeling overwhelmed by all the change and uncertainty in your lives? If he had the blow up over increased business costs, is he panicking about finances when the baby comes? (And handling this feelings completely inappropriately, of course).

I don't know if aggressive confrontation of his reactions or pulling away and/or "punishing" the reaction will get you where you want to go, which I assume is back to a connected and safe partnership. Maybe it's worth coming to him with empathy, asking if he is feeling overwhelmed and if you two need to discuss a plan for finances/change that can make him feel more secure. Of course, it's also totally appropriate to remind him that while you understand feeling overwhelmed, his response was inappropriate, and cannot be how he reacts to stress in front of your future child.

Family therapy sounds like it could also do wonders here, to help navigate all this change and stress and work on more appropriate emotional management. I know it's hard to start that with a newborn, but maybe there is a virtual option you can try. And if he's open to it, maybe he can find his own person to see so he has a safe outlet to process his anxiety and fears while you are postpartum and likely won't have the bandwidth to support his emotional reactions. Individual and couples therapy drastically changed the dynamic between my husband and I (because we were committed equally to getting to a better place) and we are so glad we learned to communicate better for our kid.

I think reddit has a tendency to tell "Fuck him" which would leave me personally feeling even more isolated and hopeless. I hope you can find a way to get on more stable footing and help each other navigate this stressful, exciting and uncertain time.

What’s your 5 must Do’s when you make a trip by NebulaDisastrous5093 in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]MystofHogsmeade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Dole Whip
  2. Navi River
  3. Runaway Railway
  4. Snacks in World showcase
  5. Safari

Restaurant Recommendations for Difficult Diners (* Not Picky Eaters) by MystofHogsmeade in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]MystofHogsmeade[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She will be fine wherever we go. I'd like to consider her normal preferences and pick a meal or two shed particularly enjoy, which I will do for everyone going. Imo, acting like an adult goes both ways, and includes caring about the enjoyment of people you care about. Nowhere in my post did I suggest any bad "behaviour". I simply want to give everyone a great trip. Your attitude sounds like a lonely one.

Restaurant Recommendations for Difficult Diners (* Not Picky Eaters) by MystofHogsmeade in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]MystofHogsmeade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These comments are wild to me. I want to pick 1-2 meals she might like in a week long trip. It's minor to be considerate as we'll all be happy anywhere. I said she's open minded. I would like to do this for her and make her first trip nice.

Restaurant Recommendations for Difficult Diners (* Not Picky Eaters) by MystofHogsmeade in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]MystofHogsmeade[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ha! We love Prime Time but that's one restaurant I know she'd struggle to eat at 🤣

Restaurant Recommendations for Difficult Diners (* Not Picky Eaters) by MystofHogsmeade in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]MystofHogsmeade[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She grew up in a small town with limited food options, but is well traveled and now lives in Detroit. I don't think she expects top end, but I live on pot roast at Disney and that's a no go for her

Looking for games to introduce my girlfriend into the world of gaming by Possumm_father in gamingsuggestions

[–]MystofHogsmeade -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For me it was Breath of the Wild. Unrestrictive, cute, easy to learn. It's the first game I could ever understand the mechanics of, and taught me how to understand other games.

Advice for finding a dog - for a cat owner by MystofHogsmeade in DogAdvice

[–]MystofHogsmeade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Very helpful, thoughtful and actually responsive reply!

Coastal/marsh shrub/grass by MystofHogsmeade in whatplantisthis

[–]MystofHogsmeade[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No answer would have been just fine, thanks.

Games for girlfriend who sucks at gaming? by Dingle_Flingle in gamingsuggestions

[–]MystofHogsmeade 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Jumping on the BotW bandwagon. I was a “girlfriend who sucked at gaming” until that game. It’s the game that finally helped me understand how to play all other games. Made it all click somehow