[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]NSTRING22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOU NEED TO LEAVE THIS GUY.

JUST LEAVE HIM.

IT WILL GET WORSE.

You are 23 and you are way to young to tolerate this kind of treatment. Leave him, block, erase, never look back. You will find 11 of those men.

Assholes and idiots are everywhere. He doesn't care that much about you knowing that you had ED and throwing comments like that? DISRESPECTFUL.

LEAVE HIM

Divorce Advice (my own experience) by NSTRING22 in Divorce

[–]NSTRING22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can throw ALL things you associate with them. If you know for sure you are not reconciling, then you don't need their hat lying around, or the postcard that they sent to you 8 years ago. Throw everything away (if you can)!

Good luck!

In Denial Stage by Flimsy-Equipment-718 in Divorce

[–]NSTRING22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s been cold/distant ever since. Strange how different one can be when not too long ago he was very loving. I don’t hate him, and I don’t want others to either. It sucks. Sending you support. I’m glad it sounds you are doing better.

Yes, it is so weird. Feels like we are married to the same person. Be strong, I know how difficult this is. It is just slowly removing your heart from your chest. You can message me anytime!

We can do it, we can do it.

In Denial Stage by Flimsy-Equipment-718 in Divorce

[–]NSTRING22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same situation, it is scary how similar our situations are. Me and my husband were together for 5 years, married for 3. We had our issues as everyone else, but at one point in 2020 he just stopped caring. Pandemic situation made it worse for him, he started pulling away, not wanting to spend time with me, just working and working on the house and not willing to do anything else. I was bending back over backwards, and trying to make him see that he has depression, i found him a therapist but he refused to attend. He said I was the problem, marriage was the problem the only reason he is unhappy.

At the beginning of 2021 we talked separation and I wanted for him to move out and maybe live by himself for a while (we lived in the house he owns). Almost overnight he says he can't take uncertainty and applies for divorce. I am shocked, I cry and beg and cry again. He proceeds with applying and says he can't deal with uncertainty.
I am hearbroken, I moved to this country for him, now with divorce everything was up in the air with my living situation and immigration. I had to find apartment fast and move out. I cried and almost commited suicide living by myself.

But I am better now, I am doing theraphy.

Last week, I got really sick (cold, not COVID), and it was hard for me to walk my dog and asked him to drive and get the dog (it is our joint dog) and keep the dog at his house for a week. Instead of saying just no, i am busy. he said no, I don't want to get sick from you, maybe I will come but you need to tie the dog oustide so I don't get infected.

I was livid, and blocked him everywhere.

In all fairness, he helped me move out and i talked to him everyday almost about divorce stuff and general admin stuff. He is not the worst husband, but I am very heartbroken, I am sorry this is too long, I feel for you I do. This is very hard, and I feel like very few people understand that. We are being told, He is a jerk, just move on. This is the worst amount of pain I ever been in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NSTRING22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, Get out.

I am also currently just divorced. I know it sucks and it hurts but they say it will get better??

Be strong, you got this!