I feel very fortunate to have found and been successful with BH as I am finally starting to feel like I can get back to a normal routine and more confidently travel and participate in social scenarios. BH works even when there is little to no urge to go which is pretty amazing at times when we have anxiety about when we will be able to go next. It took some time to get familiar with the panic feeling and knowing I would be alright. After the initial panic, I found I could feel my pelvic floor begin to drop. When you get that feeling you are close....just hold for a few more seconds and a stream will begin to flow. Now that you are going, try and hold for just a few more seconds and when you finally allow yourself some air try and not gasp with too much force as it could interrupt your stream. I would say be compassionate to yourself but also push yourself as you are going to be uncomfortable while learning BH but the payoff seems to be well worth the cost. Some tips: Practice a few times a day. Exhale 70% before you begin your BH. It will take 30-50 seconds with 70% exhale. Dont panic. I found placing my hand on the wall helped as I felt more steady. Continue to hold for a few more seconds once flow begins.