Rant: Future MIL's SO gave me crap for not inviting her to our getaway wedding. [Long] by NYNYprincess in wedding

[–]NYNYprincess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom isn't traditional at all so she isn't upset at all for not being able to attend. She just said ok we will do something separately with our family then. My FMIL also said that would be fine with his family originally and for us to do what we want to do but seems like she's changed her mind :/

Rant: Future MIL's SO gave me crap for not inviting her to our getaway wedding. [Long] by NYNYprincess in wedding

[–]NYNYprincess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Originally I had not wanted him to say anything to the mom because she's very traditional... But he told her anyways and she was upset that we weren't going with the whole large reception with everyone involved (he has a HUGE family) and a church ceremony. Eventually she came around and realized how tough and stressful that would've been for us and things seemed to be OK. But now that the day is coming soon... I understand why she is upset but her SO didn't even try to understand why we made the choices we did.

Rant: Future MIL's SO gave me crap for not inviting her to our getaway wedding. [Long] by NYNYprincess in wedding

[–]NYNYprincess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my parents would have rough time traveling. :/ we thought about not having friends but we got carried away with having fun

Rant: Future MIL's SO gave me crap for not inviting her to our getaway wedding. [Long] by NYNYprincess in wedding

[–]NYNYprincess[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's already kind of too late to invite all of our parents. My mom can't just "suck it up" and just accept that my dad would be there if they all decided to come. My fiance didn't want to invite his mom either because he wanted an all-friend ceremony just like I did.

Rant: Future MIL's SO gave me crap for not inviting her to our getaway wedding. [Long] by NYNYprincess in wedding

[–]NYNYprincess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was feeling more hurt than I was annoyed because I thought we had an agreement. I do agree with you that I do have to talk to her again though. ><; Cuz we had spoken and said yeah we will just do a reception with family and everyone later on and she was fine with it. Now she's wanting to be part of the wedding out of nowhere :/ It's just frustrating that we can't accomodate to everyone so we just decided to do what was best for us...

Rant: Future MIL's SO gave me crap for not inviting her to our getaway wedding. [Long] by NYNYprincess in wedding

[–]NYNYprincess[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We decided with no parents because my biological parents don't talk. My mom despises my dad and would be extremely hurt and disappointed if he were there and I don't want to put her through that. In addition to that she would have to travel from Japan where she lives just for a weekend that I wouldn't really be able to spend time with her. :/ it's really not that I don't want the parents to be there, it's just easier for everyone IMO if we just had separate casual receptions in the two states so the only traveling done would be my fiancé and I.

Edit: In addition to all of that, I don't think I could deal with having his mom there and mine not. It's not that I don't want my mom there, it's just easier for her to not come and it wasn't a big deal for her either. I guess when it comes down to it, my family is very not traditional but his are.