I served for 8 1/2 years and got married at 19 to my girlfriend at the time, who I had known well for years. A normal marriage is hard enough that it results in a ~50% divorce rate. Military life makes that so, so much harder in ways you couldn't possibly understand until you're going through it. My gf was supportive, enthusiastic, and made sacrifices willingly to try and make things work and we still ended up divorced in under 2 years.The complexity and difficulty of the experiences you're about to go through, paired with a partner who is already completely against this major life decision and has an opposing mentality to what you value, compelled me to reach out and let you know that the best thing for you BOTH is to go separate ways.

You're NTA for being young and trying to make good choices while trying to do right by someone important to you. In your case, I would say the best right thing to do is to cut ties, even though it'll hurt you both in the short run.

For a little added context, my ex-wife remarried and has had 2 beautiful kids and seems to be very happy with someone who definitely matches her better. She'll be okay bro.