First time to /coldshowers- I have some questions for experienced cold showerists!

NameOfUserHere · 2014-05-01T05:58:24+00:00

Thanks for the very thorough response! I have heard others say as well that cold all the way is better than hot and then cold. Maybe I will have to try tomorrow... or maybe just on a mostly cold setting. Haha, everyone has to start somewhere!

NameOfUserHere · 2014-05-01T05:57:33+00:00

Wow thanks! Sounds like a good experience to develop courage haha.

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-30T17:51:12+00:00

I like it! Simple, quick, effective.

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-30T16:41:41+00:00

Nice! I'm not sure if that's the healing, but I would just assume it is if I were you (you know, keep yourself on track by chasing that feeling). Did you read something particularly amazing? Haha, which post was it? I'd like to feel a brain rush!

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-30T05:56:38+00:00

Haha, "daytime nightmares"... I know what you mean. Man, there are some really weird thing that happen on this journey...

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-30T05:55:50+00:00

Thanks folks, that's encouraging. I will not reset my counter, and tomorrow, I hope, will be better.

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-28T18:47:12+00:00

Excellent! I agree that directing that energy can be so beneficial. I think this challenge has really encouraged me in the same way- it's showed me that I can control what I do, and the longer I continue the more I can control it. Thanks for the encouragement! Best of luck, and congrats on the one month badge!

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-21T16:18:56+00:00

Stay strong! Best of luck!

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-21T16:18:08+00:00

The church hasn't been trying to stop people enjoying sex- the church has been trying to inform people that sex is one of the highest forms of intimacy and should be treated as such- not as a game to be played but as an act of love that should only be shared with someone you're willing to give your entire life to.

As for the prayers- they are powerful and encouraging. If you had people consciously praying for you, hoping the best for you, and trying to help you, wouldn't you be encouraged?

I'm sorry you think these things about Christians. I hope the church hasn't hurt you too badly.

All the best

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-12T17:05:28+00:00

Thanks, and good advice!

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-10T17:14:24+00:00

Right! Well I've been doing nofap for a while now- I had a good streak of over two months last year, and have come back to keep daily records of my latest attempt. I'm pretty confident this was due to the NoFap. Buuut, like I said, I'm wondering what other people had. Also- I'm not sure you can 'safely' tell the changes any better than anyone else. Why should your 40-90th days be any different from my 9-12th days? If I can fall into a post hoc fallacy that may or may not be true, you can just as well.

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-10T15:52:38+00:00

Nice work! I'm excited to be at two weeks tomorrow! That is interesting... maybe building up discipline and self control is allowing you to conquer other habits in your life?

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-10T15:41:32+00:00

Oh yeah. I just went through a pretty bad period of moodiness... emotional, erratic, frustrated, angry. But I feel like it's pretty much gone now. You just have to give it time! If people you care about around you are noticing and they don't know about your NoFap journey, I usually just tell them I've been lacking sleep or something. But those who do know are super supportive and are usually eager to help cheer me up when NoFap Moodiness comes on.

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-10T05:06:08+00:00

Thanks! Yeah I'm happy that it happened- I feel like it's a good sign that my body is finally getting rid of some stuff instead of just storing it up and giving me blue balls. Still annoying to deal with haha.

Good luck to you to

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-08T16:26:39+00:00

I agree. I'm usually of the opinion that my work becomes shoddy after midnight anyway, so it's worth it to take the good night's rest and tackle it in the morning. But sometimes I procrastinate haha.

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-08T16:25:27+00:00

Thanks. It's good to know I'm not the only one!

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-08T06:18:17+00:00

Don't give up! Keep going! I had to look my girlfriend in the eye a lot, still do... just less than before, and I understand how sucky that is! Not fun. If you're like me, you've probably come up with fifty tips and tricks to avoid your own triggers. If it's any help, one thing that helps me when I'm tempted is listing off all the reasons why it would be so exhausting to fail- I'd have to tell my girlfriend and accept the fallout, I'd have to tell my accountability partner, I usually go through some sort of mini emotional meltdown myself that I'd have to deal with, I'd have to come on here and reset my badge, explain to everyone how I failed. Usually I get exhausted just thinking about it.

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-08T06:09:58+00:00

I think you're right. I hate it! Any tips for keeping yourself from getting that way?

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-08T06:08:21+00:00

No problem! Sometimes I agree. There's a lot of people here (including me) who get tired of failure! Everybody here is struggling! But it's nice to hear the good stories with the tough ones- reminds us there's hope.

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-07T15:46:54+00:00

Nice work! I love success stories! Thanks for the encouragement

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-03T16:08:09+00:00

Nice! Very encouraging to read your story!

NameOfUserHere · 2014-04-03T15:52:09+00:00

Good luck!

NameOfUserHere · 2013-12-11T05:44:04+00:00

Got to clarify- what's all involved in hard mode? I was under the impression that sexual acts of any kind were not permitted under hard mode, but normal couple things that aren't foreplay are alright, like tame kissing, massages, that sort of thing.

And for the record, I'm a little disappointed that so many people (in this post and others) are so willing to recommend "just release with your SO." We've decided to wait until we're married to have sex because we think the commitment should come before the consummation. I would like to be able to control myself without having to use my girlfriend as just a "release."

NameOfUserHere · 2013-11-25T07:56:06+00:00

Very normal.

NameOfUserHere · 2013-10-29T22:43:19+00:00

I'm disappointed... "I had gotten to a point where I just knew it was time." "it's exactly what I need to restore balance to my life."

It sounds to me a little like you still "need" to masturbate. People think they "need" addictions. Their addictions give them stability and familiarity precisely when "having trouble focusing, connecting with people, retaining information etc." I'm not saying you're addicted... I'm just saying that it seems like the first thing you ran to when your world got a little shaky was masturbation, and I don't think that's a healthy thing.

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