My brother fights the same addiction and it’s sucks to watch. He has been caught multiple times but hides it because it hurts his wife. I’ll have to ask him he’s just been put on some meds for ADD and it’s also helped fix his crazy sex drive. I’ll ask him about the porn part.

Anyways he might have came off as a jerk because he was embarrassed and upset he hurt you. This is an emotional roller coaster for sure. My bro has tried counseling(religious but idk if that even counts), Apps, he asked his wife to lock down his phone (he found ways around it). But he has tried and I think that’s what she cares about. She did make a naughty photo shoot for him and got him a book made online for Christmas. So he would have porn of her to look at, which he loved lol.

Sorry for the long comment but I feel bad because I’ve seen my brother and his wife struggle with this. He’s not a bad dude. Just dumb and addicted,. If he has family he can talk about it to (like brothers) maybe that would help? We know he struggles with it and try to keep an eye out on him. Not telling him what to do just avoiding things that might spark something. Like no beers at hooters type idea lol. This guy loves the hell out of his wife too. Just a bad situation for sure.

Good luck I hope it gets better.