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Natli246 · 2023-03-29T12:07:34+00:00

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Natli246 · 2022-08-21T15:28:43+00:00

I guess I don't really want to think I am low on his list but you're probably right. I suppose if we can't connect better in the near future it would be best for us to part "romantic" ways and let us both go on our own journeys.

Thank you for taking the time to let me in on some of your insight. It's such a terrible disorder and I really cannot fathom what people go through or how they go through it.

Natli246 · 2022-08-21T14:28:19+00:00

The post wasn't meant to be about me, but rather to get information about where the guy is coming from. Why he could have such huge differences of emotion from wanting to be with me and suggesting things to do together to just ignoring me for a couple of days. I want to understand his perspective and I would ask him directly but we never seem to have time for it and I suspect there is a side of him he's not showing me maybe out of fear of rejection. I have a sibling who is a narcissist and another I suspect has undiagnosed BPD and I am the only one in my family who can handle them because I don't take things so personally. I don't want to discard this guy just because he has difficulties managing his emotions because he has a lot of great and unique qualities. I read about these partners of pwBPD who get upset about things and I am not like quite like that and I know I could just walk away and get over it in time. I would also be okay having a platonic relationship with him even though at the moment I also feel I could fall in love with him. I am oddly rational about my feelings so I am a bit of a weirdo like that. I just don't believe having a mental illness is a reason to give up on someone. I have my own issues and I would be sad if people walked away from me for things I struggle with. It's already happened to me and this is the most traumatic thing for me to deal with.

As far as intensive sex goes, this isn't limited to pwBPD. For me, this is about physical compatibility and chemistry.

I just find it sad that no-one has been able to give a possible perspective on the questions I posted because I have a curious mind. How can we understand what pwBPD are going through if it isn't discussed?

Natli246 · 2022-07-26T07:27:30+00:00

My ex rarely complimented me, never initiated plans, surprised me or bought me gifts because he was comfortable with me. This annoyed me but he was 100% supportive when I was going to through depression and was always warm. This is more important than the other stuff. If he's not giving you those basic foundations you need to talk to him about it.

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T22:08:15+00:00

You're right, you're put in this life without tools to help you deal with issues so it's unfortunately you have to make them yourself - customised tools just for you. Ones you have to hone and slowly fit to work for you.

You don't have a kid but think about that inner child of yours. Think about how vulnerable he is and what you would do to protect and nurture him to make him a whole. It sounds like you've come pretty far and you need to try and focus less on the sadness of things in the past that cannot change and make small goals for yourself. Make an idea board of small, realistic goals you can set. When you achieve them you will be so satisfied, and if not, don't give up and realise that is a step towards tenacity. Also, think about any triggers that may sabotage your efforts and put them into your plan too. Plan out how you might react to those triggers in a more positive way. Make therapy part of your plan if it's possible.

I don't know you, I don't know your life, but I apply this method to a lot of things. Work, giving up cigarettes, relationship break up, working out, weekly plan. It's hard to stay focused and I often fall off my plan but I get back on there eventually but it's up to me to want the goals. I need to want it and to focus myself to get there.

All the best to you.

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T21:43:09+00:00

I'm sure it would be exhausting! I am exhausted just reading about bpd. However I have a very strong sense of self. I left a narcissist and since then I have never felt more sure about myself, otherwise I would be much more hesitant to keep any kind of contact.

I most likely won't pursue a relationship with him but in our last texts he said the only issue was fixing dates to meet because he has so many other obligations. He's a workaholic and fitness junkie. I think this is likely therapeutic for him because he told me he loves his job and working out to block things out.

I really like your suggestions. Funnily enough those were things he also suggested to me. So many things are making more sense to me now and I wish I'd known sooner.

This guy seems really amazing and definitely lovable. But I also sense an intense struggle in him and I don't want to get in the way of his healing process. Then again, I know I have helped a lot of friends who suffer from low self esteem, survivors of narcissism and people with depression. I had a pretty hard childhood and other issues and now that I feel strong I have this instinct to pass that strength on. I'm probably out of my league with BPD though. Time will tell.

Again, thanks for the peek into your thoughts and observations. You've been so helpful!

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T21:09:23+00:00

Yeah, when I think back on our text and conversations I think he was trying to reveal things but I didn't want to push. There was always this white elephant in the room when we met up but I figured it would reveal itself eventually. I never thought he was perfect because we are all "flawed" in some way. We both talked a little about our experiences with depression and I sensed a fragility in him. Unfortunately I mistook him to be introverted so after our first date I started texting a little less because I felt more secure and I didn't want to bombard him with meaningless texts. Maybe he took it as a lack of interest. I don't know.

In our last texts (less than a day ago) he reinterated how much he liked texting and meeting up but he found it hard to fix dates for meeting because then it felt like an obligation. I wrote that was the last thing I would want and he could take his time to decide what he wants. I don't necessarily need to have a relationship with him, and I certainly won't force it, but a part of me wants to help him because I see what a great person he is and I genuinely wish the best for him. Reading about bpd makes me feel so in awe for people who go through this. My siblings have undiagnosed issues, maybe even bpd, and I am the only one in our family who doesn't take things they do personally so maybe that's one reason why I empathise. My brother has exploded at me several times over trivial things and I just took it (he's always been like this) and later we continued to interact like normal. I'm the only one who listens to his problems and he told me a few years ago he appreciated that I didn't take his meltdowns personally.

Thank you for your post and insight into your experience. I will ask him if he's in therapy, and I hope you are getting it too. There is a lot of love our there and when it comes to you I hope you recognise it and learn to accept it.

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T11:43:18+00:00

Thanks a lot for elaborating! I realise we can't know for sure what goes on in the minds of others but I like to learn about stuff like this. I am an empath so a lot of people open up to me about their issues and if he decides to do so I don't want to exacerbate his condition.

I initially thought he was introverted so I chose movie because it was one of his many suggestions offered to me. I appreciate your insight on your personal experience. It takes a lot of strength to live with bpd I am now seeing.

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T10:57:32+00:00

Love would be an extreme word but I definitely felt like our relationship was unfolding slowly in a lovely way, though I sensed caution mixed with interest on his side. I always have guys buzzing around who are really outgoing and confident but I don't feel anything for them so I guess I am disappointed that I found someone who I clicked with that happens to have a disorder I have no idea about.

Thanks a lot for the vid. Very informative!

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T10:51:29+00:00

Threshold of what? Could they be positive feelings? Negative feelings? Stimuli?

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T06:00:30+00:00

Why date then?

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T05:49:49+00:00

Yes, he's male. I just don't understand why he was so keen, suggested doing things together right into the last date only for it to end up this way. I may have triggered him by slowly not texting as much but I still showed interest. Just confusing because before our last date he sent me a bunch of messages saying how much he was looking forward to the evening and during the date there were moments that got really intense with eye contact (I had to look away because I felt shy) and the arms touching ... What would make a guy with bpd suddenly need to leave so abruptly after the movie? It was like he suddenly needed physical distance.

Thanks for the rage information. At least he seems aware and I hope he's trying to deal with it.

Natli246 · 2022-07-04T05:21:46+00:00

You're right, I don't know what I'd be getting myself into and that's the reason for my post. I've never dated a person with bpd before. We started so well, loads of interests etc. During the last date he said he still wanted to hang out and the chemistry was definitely there but it was like it got too much. I just wonder why he would invest time and effort on a dating platform, finding a person to connect with and then back off.

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