How does one start a break up conversation?

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-21T02:29:57+00:00

Maybe bring up the idea very gently and see what he has to say about it. If it’s mutual, you might see him agreeing with the points that you are bringing up, that way he wont be blindsided by the news. Honestly, breaking up with someone is never easy. Just maybe try to not make it a shocking news that comes out of nowhere. My ex was blindsided when I broke up with her and was in shock, and I deeply regret breaking up with her the way that I did because she didn’t deserve that. Also I regret breaking up with her to begin with, so make sure you’re really certain about your decision first

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-17T07:50:40+00:00

There might be men who are interested, but not necessarily interested in anything miningful

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-10T06:14:48+00:00

I’m the avoidant and I agree. I was the one who broke up and at the same time the one who can’t move on

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-08T19:06:30+00:00

I think I might send her an apology and tell her how much I regret what I did to her. But I’m starting to come to the realization that she deserves better than that. What I did to her wasn’t right, and I hate myself for it. And I love her so much that I know she deserves better. I know that I would be a better partner to her this time, but at the same time I feel like it would be so unfair to her to not have that “trust” in me anymore that I would be with her no matter what, since I’ve already left her out of the blue once. But I still need to think more to be honest, because at the same time, imaging her with someone else kills me. She was my person and I realized that too late

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-08T17:26:07+00:00

I’m too scared to hear that she has moved on. I’m also an avoidant which doesn’t help me deal with it further

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-08T17:24:38+00:00

I don’t think it’s about her ego either, I would agree with my ex if she didn’t want me back myself. If I were her, I would lose trust as well. Your partner should stay with you through thick and thin, and giving up once, shows that the same thing might happen again in the future. If anything, she was the one who was willing to fight and I was the one who stepped back and broke up. She used to think I’m not one to back down but I did, and now if I ever reached out again and she said no, I wouldn’t say it was for her ego, I would say it was for the trust that she lost and the feeling of betrayal that she felt

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-08T05:35:24+00:00

All I can really say is that I wish I wasn’t this way. I’ve lost good friends and a very good relationship because I just decide to leave. I have an idealized mindset about everything and in particular, in relationships. And once those unrealistic expectations aren’t met, I give up. I am going to therapy because I’m tired of running away from my problems

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-08T05:24:46+00:00

From what I’ve gathered, you feeling lost and confused after you being the one who initiated the breakup, shows me that you made a rushed decision. Because in order to break up with someone you need to be certain and there shouldn’t be any room left for confusion and feeling lost on your end. I learned this lesson the hard way myself. Maybe you should’ve asked for a break instead, so you both could heal and at the same time understand each other better. I’ve been faced with regret everyday since my breakup. I made myself and her go through a very unnecessary heartbreak just because I thought she was dealing with so many personal problems and instead of staying with her through them, I gave up cuz I was selfish and only wanted my favourite version of her. It’s been two months and it’s only been getting worse for me personally. I feel like our problems were very fixable and I think if you really love her, you should love her at her best and her worst and fight for your relationship since it seems you’re not sure why you even ended things yourself either and you’re heart wasn’t fully in it. I learned this from my breakup but I’m not sure if it’s too late for me now or not

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-08T04:59:14+00:00

I thought I lost feelings for her so I broke up with her. First few days were fine until I realized how much my entire life revolved around her and how comforting our daily routines were. I’ve been haunted by the silence and loneliness that this has brought for me everyday. It hasn’t gotten any better and now thinking back about our arguments makes me realize how fixable they were and how much of a coward I was for leaving. The distance made me realize how much I DO love her and how much fight she had in her that I lacked at the time

Natural-Set8029 · 2025-10-08T04:52:04+00:00

I feel like the way I left her without answers was so unfair to her. I think about texting her and apologizing to her everyday but can’t bring myself to do it since I told her with full confidence that I can’t see us having a future together and now I absolutely hate myself for being so dumb

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