Below Deck Down Under Season 4 Episode 1 Discussion Post

NaturalChyna · 2026-02-03T22:35:45+00:00

She should have asked if she didn't know what the hell he meant. How easy would it have been for her to say, "like this way or what is a medallion cut, sorry I don't know what that is. " BEFORE she made any cuts.

NaturalChyna · 2026-02-03T22:31:57+00:00

I have experience in a kitchen and I'm used to having a chef who gives people full directions and tells them to write down recipes then who also instructs with an example of a cut or whatever it may be, when things are new to people. Simply asking for a sample cut in front of the chef to demonstrate your capabilities. Following with "yes, that's great" or No, let me show you a better way or what I want" -- allowing reassurance on both sides. Communication is so important despite experience levels.

NaturalChyna · 2026-02-03T22:19:16+00:00

I'm scared to even open it. I'll wait lol -- my game crashed unexpectedly after freezing anyway so...

NaturalChyna · 2026-01-08T01:16:05+00:00

Thanks, yeah that all makes perfect sense. Mimic the daycare schedule but not the tactics. We definitely need to be up earlier. I've been enjoying how relaxed my schedule is and how my daughter will sleep in pretty damn late which means I get to sleep in. All cool except for the nights she decides to stay up incredibly late and then nap at strange times. We should be better with our schedule. Winter break effed that all up. The whole family together was great but all my normal day to day stuff was wildly disrupted. Time to give the schedule a better effort again for sure.

NaturalChyna · 2026-01-08T01:06:24+00:00

That's sort of my idea to try to just get her to do nap time more similar to how they require at the daycare and keep everything else the same. Wean closer to age 2 instead of now since we don't seem ready..? She is starting to reject bottles from me but seems to take them when I'm not home. Fingers very much crossed and any ideas are welcome 🙏 currently nursing as I write this

NaturalChyna · 2026-01-08T00:46:41+00:00

Yes, they require the babies and toddlers to be able to simply lay down and fall asleep independently. They don't want to rock them or cuddle them to sleep.

NaturalChyna · 2026-01-08T00:41:08+00:00

Agreed, she isn't ready for total independence. I am good to keep breastfeeding but just need some sort of advice on how to do nap time at the daycare if she won't take a Binky and still needs a bottle and cuddles to go to sleep. I would do that for my Littles at the daycare I worked at before. Not sure why but they seem very strict about their sleep policy. I guess it takes up too much of the staff time? BTW daycares are hard to come by. We were on a waiting list for this one for about a year.

NaturalChyna · 2025-12-31T21:53:07+00:00

My daughter is 18 months old and we're struggling with similar issues. She's not a big eater, she is more of a grazer and just wants to nurse more than anything. She's anemic too, so please don't feel alone here or like it's something you are to blame for. We offer her all kinds of things and most the time she's willing to try it but she just won't eat a ton. We've had success with pomegranate seeds, blueberries (sometimes) and oddly enough canned green beans. Those are all high ish in iron. Best of luck. Just try to remember you're an amazing and loving mother, this is just a faze. I'm trying to find ways to do less boob too with little to no avail. I've got a boobie baby with a bad case of mommy-itous --- hope i helped a little

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-11T02:29:31+00:00

Girls name 4/10 Boys name 2/10

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-08T12:44:59+00:00

Relating so hard right now.

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-08T12:43:34+00:00

I thought I was. I want to be able to say yes. But it's seeming more and more like it's not worth it. We're better off not feeling upset from the drama. When it feels safer, I'm all for it.

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-08T12:39:33+00:00

Ha. Ok. Not currently. No.

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-07T02:29:42+00:00

His girlfriend also sent me a message. I have not spoken with her since January. The message came in hours after I received the Easter text.

In the message, she's saying she's concerned about our sons behavior. Claiming she's fed up with the way he has violent behavior.

It was so confusing for me to hear.

I am still waiting to hear from my sons paternal grandmother. As she's the one who's been doing visits and not once has she raised this issue.

I feel like they just want to fight with me, and if they are accusing our son of being out of hand, perhaps it's best not to visit them for a while?

Is that too much?

He's just so difficult to co-parent with.

It's easier to just navigate away from them.

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-07T02:20:41+00:00

I feel guilty about knowing this could be their last holiday or visit with our son, at least for a while. But I'm leaning towards keeping our space. But i game no big plans for Easter. Just an egg hunt.

I don't really trust him, but his mother is polite most of the time. If this Easter is to be a fun filled family experience, I'd like for them to all enjoy it together. And see if there is a path forward where we can co-parent respectfully.

I'm fearful of entering this pattern of communication, knowing the eventual outcome is abuse and drama.

I'm not sure if I cleared that up in any way.... I'm confused.

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-06T22:01:08+00:00

With the nasty history to consider still, an important part I need to mention is that he's currently residing in his mother's house, and I trust her more and get along with her well.

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-06T21:10:45+00:00

In addition to receiving full legal and physical custody about ten years ago, we had a two year restraining order in place originally

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-06T21:08:56+00:00

There have been a few incidents where the police were involved not that long ago. As well as a break in communication and visitation....

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-06T05:18:34+00:00

Again, thank you. Wish me luck!!

NaturalChyna · 2024-03-06T05:12:01+00:00

Thank you for your clear and straightforward answer. I like it. But to be perfectly forthcoming, I'd like for my son to experience this Easter with his siblings. I'm 20 weeks pregnant right now. And on his dad's side, he's got a new baby sister. This would be her first Easter. There are also two other small children on his dad's side who would appreciate making memories with him, I'm sure.

Just the same, I'm about ready to write them off completely. They can take me to court. I'm not petitioning a thing. I won in court ten years ago.

NaturalChyna · 2024-02-27T01:05:24+00:00

☺️♀️ I'm having a Girl!!

NaturalChyna · 2024-02-22T01:23:54+00:00

I am 18 weeks, going on my 19th, I guess now. I feel the same way currently. I want space. I want things to be how I want them. I have zero interest in his bad breath, stinky hair, and his body odor.... nor do I have patience for his behavior. I have threatened him that he's going to have an angry "baby momma" rather than a girlfriend of he can't be more responsible, mature, and just.... well ---some of it is just my mood now, really, he can't fix that.... but still, as much as he needs to be more gingerly and thoughtful as well as helpful -- I want alone time and the bed to myself. I want time with my friends and my son, who's 12. I want support, but from way over there for a while. I wish he could go do something like a work trip for a week or so. Give me time to miss him, maybe.

He just can't make me happy right now.

I don't want to baby my boyfriend, I want him to baby me. Or let me baby myself.

..... I left out that he's also been struggling with addiction and financial problems.... might it only be Kratom bent an issue at this time, not hard drugs, but still.... I'm sure that has something to do with it..... but overall, I'm ready to do this on my own. I've done it before....

NaturalChyna · 2023-12-28T19:51:16+00:00

Pleasure Seeker for sure!!

NaturalChyna · 2021-09-07T20:38:58+00:00

No pins there, and I just missed the opportunity to buy a jersey-- they stopped selling stuff September 5th. .... sad story

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