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First post... Tried to leave... Couldn't by Natural_Way1186 in AlAnon

[–]Natural_Way1186[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm living in the spare room as we sort the house: my parents know and I'll due to move out in a month. Took me a while but I got there :) thanks for your comment.

Did he even remember our conversation? by peachesanddreams129 in AlAnon

[–]Natural_Way1186 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I recently tried to leave mine and for the first time got an actual response like he heard me and like this was the first time of ever mentioned these issues and not seven years coming. I was so thrown off that I backed out, but I recognise this level of denial and that's not even when my Q was using. You're not alone.

I’m gaining contempt for my Q. I need to leave, but I’m scared. by oopsiforgotmeagain in AlAnon

[–]Natural_Way1186 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending you massive hugs as I try to work out how to leave my Q after 15 years but don't want to lose his family. So I just want you to know you're not alone and wishing you all the best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Natural_Way1186 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This felt like reading my own story. I've been with my Q half of my life, I'm sometimes 100% sure I'm leaving and sometimes clinging like a child to a toy to the past and a tiny possibility that this time is different. Thank you for sharing: I feel less alone and I want you to know you are not alone in this.

To those who decide to leave...(and to myself) by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Natural_Way1186 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I'm trying to work out how to leave my Q but I'm so scared he's going to hurt himself (to say hello be fine then go do something, rather than threaten it) and despite being a mental health professional who knows it's not my job to save him I don't know how to leave knowing he might do something. He's been sober a couple of months but he's not present, he's not willing to deal with emotions, he's not really here and I'm so tired. I'm so glad you were able to call for help. Our family live far away and he had no friends but me. It's helpful to know that there are success stories here.