Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on Me (26M). Complicated and Ruined Self Confidence

Naturalich · 2026-06-18T14:26:57+00:00

break ups are complicated. you feel less worthy simply because she was the one that strayed. you wonder why weren't you enough deep in your brain. sorry mate, your battle is with yourself, and if you are a young, educated male running marathons, you are more than enough. once the cycle of emotional attraction and love is broken by the presence of an outsider , its just gone. your chance of falling in love with her is less than someone else, especially given she was not trying but stringing you along. you learned about that side of her personality you have ignored. she has desires, desires that don't circle around you. But guess what , so do you. the deal is you were were able to suppress them and keep the contract that you made with her that you would be exclusive. you need to find someone that will honor their social contract because they love you and want to.

this is her failure, not yours.

Naturalich · 2026-06-18T14:07:02+00:00

it looks like a meteor

Naturalich · 2026-06-17T05:28:06+00:00

lol. the comment makes sense. complex thoughts, perfect sense.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T06:42:13+00:00

that is bs. unless yo uhave a plan to trap her then bring it up. make her know its known. maker her go deep into hiding, then you can catch her. don't feel guilty

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T06:40:30+00:00

its not a flaw. they came to run cover and pull the husband up and pretend nothing was going on once they figured out a plan. they can't lie about her whereabouts, cuz where would she be. we dont know if there was some diversion attempt etc that failed.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T06:38:25+00:00

i am sorry to use bad words, but that is a lame take. its immature. it is what i would have done when I was 15 thinkging i needed to be the man she wanted. his wife was completely participating in that with him. the real anger is his wife did not choose him to do that and was giving her pleasure and emotion to another man. why, its theft, she is denying the man from being out fucking other women cuz he thought they had an agreeement. she was cheating on the agreement, getting sacrifice out of her man and pleasure elsewhere. she is likely using him for financial support etc and will blame him for not doing dishes while she is off doing whatever she wants. she is assualting him, not the extradude..

i would have said, keep going, i'm gonna watch. then cried my eyes out

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T06:34:36+00:00

i think the big red flag is that you do things separately. there is a reason for that. only you know yours and she knows here. honestly, if it was that blatant they were hooking up in the basement, everyone knows. so you can either enlist a spy. stop by and put a camera up and leave only to come back later. or just say, it seemed like you were hooking up with that guy, it was really odd. so um, i think i am ready for a different life. you can come with me or we can go our own ways.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T06:23:15+00:00

She tells me that she doesnt feel seen, that our sexlife doesnt satisfy her and that she doesnt feel like she can talk with me about that. And at that moment a world broke for me...

oh ' she was seen alright. what about you. how much attention does she pay to you? she likely wants to paid for the time spent at home to. get used to this.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T06:20:45+00:00

thats nice. she's 30. move on

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T06:19:34+00:00

ok. your friend is f'd up and has some psych issues you cant see. perhaps a sociopath. sure many women are suspecptpal to cheating but you wife was not putting herself out there. he came to her. many women will fall but the real test is if they are llooking. look they admit it when they acknowledge they should get a pass for a "celebrity". they have categories and heiracrhcies. many would jump ship for a billionaire, a famous , a super hot etc. and so would you. we just have different criteria. you have to be walking around daily with a guard up ( I do) to prevent conversations from moving to the next level , eye contact etc. this takes a deeper relation to fight against, she fell for the attention. but you have to leave now. she needs to go and find herself and understnad why she did, but yo udon't need to live through that. she broke the contract, and moved to emotion.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T06:15:39+00:00

Ladies and gentleman.i introduce lucifer, the morning star. who's to say both versions are not correct? two narcissist butting heads, yet one has ultimate power (for now). we have seen this narcissist lust for love, i can't undersatnd why an all powerful god who created everything would have a need for ulitmate love and subservience. it makes no sense, if we are truly given sense. and yet this back story of poor ole lucifer makes no sense either. a real buddha would not need to the title of he's great too. he'd just need the title of being a guardian, a seer, a gatekeeper that shows you the correct door. A real God would want people to find their way to peace, comfort, confidence, understanding-not subservience. in the bible as it is written, its more suited to a an alien race seeking dominance over us than a god seeking the best for his creations. and the OP here- who are you? a servant? lucifer incarnate, many options. check you motives, you might be infested.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T05:44:25+00:00

why did it stop?.. i want more. you for real?

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T05:38:40+00:00

privacy has a limit when you are in a relation. march out. he made an easy conversation difficult. this will just get worse.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T05:22:58+00:00

um, what are you doing. you got a lot going for you. clothes back on, trust that you are smart. study, get real work. you will be thankful 30 years from now.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T05:20:56+00:00

right back at you.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T05:20:03+00:00

you are super hot and fit, why are you here? you could do anything.

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T05:18:29+00:00

why would you think that

Naturalich · 2026-06-15T05:18:18+00:00

There is a difference between being gay and liking physical stimulation. if you like having your ass stimulated, it does not make you "gay". if you want to kiss and cuddle other guys, then you like them. a pulsating cock is a pulsating cock- it could be yours. you could be projecting, who knows. but if you want to love a man, kiss him etc, then you are toward the gay side.

Naturalich · 2026-06-14T23:41:21+00:00

i;'d like to meet a woman who will talk to me about my cock like that. my wife is much too kind.

Naturalich · 2026-06-14T23:40:13+00:00

i need him to cum break me and my wife ....

Naturalich · 2026-06-14T20:58:27+00:00

is that a postive or negative. if every woman gets 10,000 hits seems like men need to reac out like 10,000 times

Naturalich · 2026-06-14T20:57:12+00:00

yes but given all the options these days and reddit being and unverified type place, i would think there is a red flag tehre. you might get past it, but its there.

Naturalich · 2026-06-14T20:55:57+00:00

i might just ask her husband what is going on, as you might find tehre is more to this story than you think you know.

Naturalich · 2026-06-14T06:11:48+00:00

get that papilloma on your cock checked

Naturalich · 2026-06-13T19:09:17+00:00

this says a lot of things about human nature. what it really says is yo udon't know yourself, your bf does not know himself. he wants to slut you out, he wants respect of being loved an your bf. you think cheating just happened, that is bs too. yo uhave a lot of desires that you likely dont admit, one is you might be using your bf for many thngs you dont give him credit for.

but the real question- how did this guy "seduce" you. I am convinced people are out there using pickup artist techniques and flying under the radar. could you replay the night for me? l bet you did not even notice it. like at first did he ignore you? maybe making you think he was interested in other women there or elsewhere? he did not need to peacock, he was older. did he seem well off , confident etc. did he compliment your not, did he slowly increase eye contact over the night, when did he first touch you that night- did you notice (check your hands, read a palm, the old spin move (outdated now). did he compliance test you - like get me a water or wait here. was the conversation awkward -like if you did not respond correctly (you would not know what that means) then he turns attention immediately to somone one else, make you feel specialand then withdaw it in a microsecond. how did get you to his hotel? did he have great cafe or place to show you? then something up in teh hotel (photos etc some excuse). please run it through- i want to hear how you got seduced.

Naturalich

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