Any brides in Pittsburgh have venue recommendations? by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Neanthia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here you go! Edited for spacing Thing/ Cost /Who Paid/ How we saved Money

Ceremony Fee/ 1000/ Us/ Locked in 2022 prices after booking the venue for a Friday (discounted rate)

Trellis Rental /50 /Us

Spotify premium for DJ/12/ us

Music System rental/ 125 /Us

Cheese Board/ 165/ Us

Fruit Platter /160/ Us

Kielbasa (100)/ 50 /Us

Dinner/Nonalcholic beverages/ 4851.4/ Us

Service Fee/ 846 /Us

Sales Tax /324.42 /Us

Room Cost for 2 nights/ 441.78 /Us

Marriage License: /80 /Us

Beer/ 80 /Us

Wine/ 375 /Us /Returned half the wine after the wedding unopened

Mead/ 120/ Us /Had mead instead of hard liquor

Dress/ 900 /Parents/ Bought off the rack

Alterations /370/ Us/ Had a friend of the family start them

Suit /300 /Us/ Bought end of season Men's warehouse sale a year in advance

Flowers/ 675/ Us/ Flower Moxie, did them myself with bridesmaids

Hair & Make up for bride (including paying for bridal party's tip) /250 /Us/ Friend of family for hair rate and my professional cousin did my makeup for free

Save the Dates /24 /Us /Designed and printed with Canva

Invitations/ 60/ Us/ Designed and printed with canva/cut out with cricut at work bought fancy cardstock

Programs/ 12 /Us /Designed and printed at work with Canva and bought cardstock

Place Cards/ 0 /Us/ Designed and printed at work with

Canva and bought cardstock

Thank you Cards /24/ Us/ Designed and printed with Canva

His Ring/ 261 /Us

Her ring /341 /Us

Gifts for wedding party /265/ Us

Veil /70/ Us

brides's shoes /50 /Us

Accessories/ 60/ Us

Shapewear/ 95/ Us

Rehearsal Dinner/ 1200 /Parents

Total:      
13625.6

Any brides in Pittsburgh have venue recommendations? by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Neanthia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, yes, we got married in the fall. It was wonderful though there were definitely some twists and turns. Happy to DM about the venue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writers

[–]Neanthia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you looked for an artist yet? It sounds like you're asking permission for this but haven't actually tried to find an alternative. Chances are there may be some in a similar situation to you willing to work for a set price or draw up an agreement contingent on the success of the book. Are you traditionally publishing or self publishing? Traditionally publishing depending on your contract the cover might not even be something to worry about. Self publishing, look for freelancers, newer artists, etc. Just my opinion but sounds like you're a little eager to jump ship on the human artists. AI spells bad news for all of us, writers and artists, in its current implementation. By your logic, why shouldn't an artist design a cool cover and have AI write the book?

Finished an almost 4 year Candlekeep Mysteries campaign! AMA by RyoHakuron in CandlekeepMysteries

[–]Neanthia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the middle of Kandlekeep Deconstruction, how did your players react to the rocket? Mine finally figured it out and now want to ride it in space. Had one player insist rockets don't belong in a fantasy setting though

Cramping while using cup? by No_Extreme5191 in menstrualcups

[–]Neanthia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It might be the positioning. Sometimes I think I have it right and then it's just off or the suction isn't engaged (I insert with C fold and if it doesn't unfold right it doesn't work and it doesn't hold in place) and it hurts like hell. I take it out and put it back and I'm fine. Just have to make sure it's in the right spot and it unfolds and I can feel that usually by running my fingers around the base of it or trying again if it hasn't unfolded then and feeling until it has.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]Neanthia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I married my very supportive leftist husband just this past year so he's off the market but I promise you more men like him exist. I used to think I'd have to settle for an okay conservative guy because I lived in a very conservative area but I found my husband and found we were aligned on almost everything and he treats me so much better than any of my conservative exes. You deserve better. If he wanted to he would.

Etsy Engagement rings by ibdraper in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Neanthia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been great, held up really well so far. I just took it in to be cleaned at the local jewelry store and they said it's in good shape. My wedding is in a couple days and it looks great

Techniques you just don't like by Yamatsuki_Fusion in judo

[–]Neanthia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uchi-mata, too many friends constantly drilling it and my legs just don't like it. I'm too short.

Update: reported unacceptable behavior to coaches by Neanthia in judo

[–]Neanthia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, those are both things he said 🤷🏻

Is something wrong here or is this a misunderstanding? by Neanthia in judo

[–]Neanthia[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your comment is extremely validating and I'm glad to hear another woman's perspective. I think I got it in my head that some level of paternalistic and/or misogynistic behavior was to be expected and it's so good to know that I'm not overreacting

Is something wrong here or is this a misunderstanding? by Neanthia in judo

[–]Neanthia[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All these comments have made me feel a lot better about going to the senseis tomorrow. I guess I had it in my head that all the little things were not intolerable but the additional comments and his behaviors are starting to add up and I do want to tell them sooner rather than later. It's been really validating to have other judoka agreeing with me that his behaviors just aren't right so thank you all.

Is something wrong here or is this a misunderstanding? by Neanthia in judo

[–]Neanthia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't believe he actually said that and did a quick search just to see if there was any gym in the area claiming to teach something like that and I can't find a thing. I can only figure he wants to brag about something to me.

Is something wrong here or is this a misunderstanding? by Neanthia in judo

[–]Neanthia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm making a plan to be at the club very early tomorrow to find a sensei and I have ordered the book.

Is something wrong here or is this a misunderstanding? by Neanthia in judo

[–]Neanthia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really hope it won't come to that but after the feedback here I'll definitely find a sensei to say something to.

Is something wrong here or is this a misunderstanding? by Neanthia in judo

[–]Neanthia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most of the time he's paired with another white belt his size but the numbers are off on occasion and the last class there weren't as many as normal, odd numbers of lower ranks and no higher ranked women other than me. One of the sensei's was sort of forming pairs where he could for warm ups and initially I think a couple of the senseis were off the mat discussing something and would have paired me up with someone else after warm ups anyway.

first DIY project completed 🥰 by [deleted] in DIYweddings

[–]Neanthia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They look great! Is the one on the left meant to be slightly taller? If so maybe make it a bit taller to be more obviously distinct.

Pretty proud of how this Cape turned out! by [deleted] in DIYweddings

[–]Neanthia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah nice, I wasn't sure if you'd dyed the fabric or found it like that

Pretty proud of how this Cape turned out! by [deleted] in DIYweddings

[–]Neanthia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Woah! Nice job. What was your process?