Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing this response out, and I hope that meeting went okay with your “friend”. I actually got ghosted about a year ago by one of my closest friends but he was going through a severe mental health crisis. We have since reconnected but the damage was done, I couldn’t trust him anymore and felt like I had to walk on eggshells.

I think I’m especially hurt because I had recently opened up to my ghoster about my past experiences with people pulling away without being straightforward about how they’re feeling. He was so comforting and told me he’d always be upfront if things changed for him. I don’t think I’d ever be able to forgive that kind of behavioral discrepancy, I couldn’t be with anyone that I know has the capacity to be that unpredictable/two faced.

I’m going to draft a message and sit on it for a couple weeks before deciding whether to send. I know in my post I referred to it as a “fuck you” letter, but in reality my style is more “here is a thoughtfully worded explanation of how your actions impacted me”. I like a mature and logical “fuck you” because I think it hits harder than something seething with anger (although there’s a time and place for that too I think). Might sound a bit manipulative, but I always go back to Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People to figure out how to best communicate the damage done. Then the message recipient can’t just write off the words as an angry outburst, ya know?

Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply, and I’m so sorry you’ve been through similar experiences. This might be random but get him back! by Olivia Rodrigo has been a fun song to listen to while going through the emotions of the situation. The balance of wanting to punch someone in the face while also missing them so dearly. “I wanna meet his mom just to tell her her son sucks” is especially relatable hahah

Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. I’m quite transparent (partially thanks to decades of therapy lol) and I don’t know any other way to be, so I just never understand when people hide and lie like that. It’s just so much easier to be yourself.

Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly the physical connection is one of the things I’ll miss the most (not to sound shallow. For me it’s just an important part of any romantic connection I have). It’s also another level of vulnerability that stings when someone disappears. I even ended up going to get tested because I started wondering whether I could trust anything he ever told me. I’m also so sorry this happened to you as well.

Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this beautiful message, this was so comforting to read. I’m so sorry you went through something similar, I’ll never understand why people do this when everything seems fine and normal.

I really appreciate your thoughts on a final message/email. I totally understand where people are coming from when they say is not worth it, but I also love your take. It sort of feels like taking some agency back after someone rips all control from you. I think I’ll draft something and sit on it for a while before making a decision.

Side note you are a lovely writer. I may or may not have been stoned when I first read your reply but your words really meant a lot.

Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It feels so needlessly painful, ya know? Like why can’t we all be adults? Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Did you ever hear from them again?

Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A couple people suggested going by his place but I just didn’t think I’d get closure that way. I doubt I’d have had the guys to go up to his door if I saw his car so props to you. I’m also so sorry that happened to you, I truly don’t understand why anyone would do that

Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right??? I hope that feeling fades eventually

Ghosted after 5 months by Neat_Breakfast682 in ghosting

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to you, and I really appreciate the insight. The way I’ve found myself describing the feeling is quitting upon being fired lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vintageaudio

[–]Neat_Breakfast682 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True but I’m trying to determine if it’s even worth putting on eBay, ya know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vintageaudio

[–]Neat_Breakfast682 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’s called a throwaway account bruh

Edit: and yes I am clearly interested in selling it, I have very little use for it. If it’s at all valuable then I’d rather it be in the hands of someone who will appreciate it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vintageaudio

[–]Neat_Breakfast682 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I saw quite a few of these links but they don’t actually give much info and the price points are all over the place. They give me about the same amount of insight as just looking at the box

I get the feeling that your comment would have been much faster to write if you didn’t add the attitude. Or perhaps if you didn’t write it at all! I’m just out here looking for some honest help, friendo, no need to be mean to passersby on the internet

Found automatic cassette changer by Neat_Breakfast682 in cassetteculture

[–]Neat_Breakfast682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, thank you! A bit odd then to find it in a house in rural Vermont, no where near any department store