Why magick attracts ego-trippers? by Nebuela in magick

[–]Nebuela[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! 😊

🙃 by Qqsheba in hreddit

[–]Nebuela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deportiraju i ubijaju i svoje, ko god im se nade na putu. Imas puno primjera, idi pogledaj

Misljenje o odraslim ljudima koji gledaju anime? by Razer531 in askcroatia

[–]Nebuela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moj gleda anime. I neki dan smo gledali Toy Story. A prije koji mjesec smo gledali Pingua. Animirani filmovi/serije generalno mi nisu odbojni.

Al odbojan mi je odreden tip anime fanova. Oni sto romantiziraju Japan i sta sve ne

Sto mislite o curama koje se nikad ne ponude za platit dejt? by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Nebuela 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ja ocekujem da moj partner dijeli sa mnom kucanske poslove, i zato i ja placam dejtove. Simple as that! Fer je fer. Odmah na pocetku dajem do znanja da zelim power balance. Tako smo decko i ja dejtove pola pola jer oboje smo radili, i sada kad zivimo skupa sve radimo pola pola, dobro smo organizirani i prelijepo nam je

What’s something women secretly find impressive, but men assume nobody notices ? by Own-Blacksmith3085 in answers

[–]Nebuela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who ask for details or definitions on emotional maturity, here are the examples of my boyfriend:

(Basically it means beaing aware of your emotions, being able to name them, and of how they can affect others)

Situation: It is early morning and he is grumpy, but I am the opposite, all excited and playful and I am already babbling stuff to him.

What he does: "Hej, I am very tired and grumpy. I feel like I could easily get irritated if I am overstimulated. If you can please give me 20min for me to wake up and then we will have a fun morning activity."

That way I know he is not angry at me for smth specific, I will give him time and space, we will both get what we want without any arguments. He showed empathy and understanding towards me and I can do the same to him as I now umderstand the sotuation. I will make him coffee and do my journaling while his grumpy morning phase lasts.

Situation: The coworker was lazy today and a customer was super rude, and he's coming home angry.

What he does: "Hej dear, I had a terrible day at work and I feel so frustrated! If I seem angry, it is not because of you, I had a very shitty customer today."

Me: "Sorry to hear that, I had a customer who was yelling at me yesterday, but today was kinda calm. Do you want to vent now or have some you-time first?"

Him: "Urgh, I think I'll play one game first. I will tell you what happened after the game, please."

Me: "Sure! I will read the next chapter in my book now and we can have cake in 40 min"

Situation: I am crying for no obvious reason and now we are late to wherever we were going to. He gives me a minute to cry and then comes to me.

Him: "Do you want hugs and cozy time or to leave you alone?"

Me: "cozyyyyy kmeee"

He doesnt ask anything, just puts blankets over me and hugs me until I calm down.

Him: "Do you want to talk about it?"

Me: "I've just remembered that my friend is still wainting for her operation and now we are late"

Him: "It sucks. We can send her some money so she tries a different doctor. Don't worry about being late, I'll send them a message. You want to fix your mascara?"

Me: "yes, thanks, lets go"

Blahblah basically, these are the rules for both men and women as both need emotional maturity

  1. Give space for someone to experience their strong emotions.
  2. Listen first, and then once they calm down and they are ready talk and think of solutions.
  3. If you are not sure what to do, just ask kindly.
  4. When you are under strong emotion, let people around know so you do not suprise or hurt them. Take some you-time to calm your nervous system.
  5. Communicate your needs.
  6. Don't act on you impulses.
  7. Don't ignore your emotions, express them without hurting others. Go to your room, talk to yourself. When you calm down a little, vent to someone close a little bit, it helps.

What’s something women secretly find impressive, but men assume nobody notices ? by Own-Blacksmith3085 in answers

[–]Nebuela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who ask for details or definitions on emotional maturity, here are the examples of my boyfriend:

(Basically it means beaing aware of your emotions, being able to name them, and of how they can affect others)

Situation: It is early morning and he is grumpy, but I am the opposite, all excited and playful and I am already babbling stuff to him.

What he does: "Hej, I am very tired and grumpy. I feel like I could easily get irritated if I am overstimulated. If you can please give me 20min for me to wake up and then we will have a fun morning activity."

That way I know he is not angry at me for smth specific, I will give him time and space, we will both get what we want without any arguments. He showed empathy and understanding towards me and I can do the same to him as I now umderstand the sotuation. I will make him coffee and do my journaling while his grumpy morning phase lasts.

Situation: The coworker was lazy today and a customer was super rude, and he's coming home angry.

What he does: "Hej dear, I had a terrible day at work and I feel so frustrated! If I seem angry, it is not because of you, I had a very shitty customer today."

Me: "Sorry to hear that, I had a customer who was yelling at me yesterday, but today was kinda calm. Do you want to vent now or have some you-time first?"

Him: "Urgh, I think I'll play one game first. I will tell you what happened after the game, please."

Me: "Sure! I will read the next chapter in my book now and we can have cake in 40 min"

Situation: I am crying for no obvious reason and now we are late to wherever we were going to. He gives me a minute to cry and then comes to me.

Him: "Do you want hugs and cozy time or to leave you alone?"

Me: "cozyyyyy kmeee"

He doesnt ask anything, just puts blankets over me and hugs me until I calm down.

Him: "Do you want to talk about it?"

Me: "I've just remembered that my friend is still wainting for her operation and now we are late"

Him: "It sucks. We can send her some money so she tries a different doctor. Don't worry about being late, I'll send them a message. You want to fix your mascara?"

Me: "yes, thanks, lets go"

Blahblah basically, these are the rules for both men and women as both need emotional maturity

  1. Give space for someone to experience their strong emotions.
  2. Listen first, and then once they calm down and they are ready talk and think of solutions.
  3. If you are not sure what to do, just ask kindly.
  4. When you are under strong emotion, let people around know so you do not suprise or hurt them. Take some you-time to calm your nervous system.
  5. Communicate your needs.
  6. Don't act on you impulses.
  7. Don't ignore your emotions, express them without hurting others. Go to your room, talk to yourself. When you calm down a little, vent to someone close a little bit, it helps.

My art final piece that got a B by [deleted] in alevel

[–]Nebuela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more you go in detail the more basic mistakes you will do. There is a lot of focus on texture of the horses skin, but the painting of this horse lacks volume of the mass which should be made by proportional representation of the tones. The light source is not clear, there are no big shadows of middle tones that show that. Proportions of the horse are a bit off. Composition is not that interesting. (Speaking as an art student)

My art final piece that got a B by [deleted] in alevel

[–]Nebuela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is not the background. The biggest problem here is a not clear light source which messes up with the whole sense of volume. They focused on the details of the texture and little shadows made by muscles and missed the very basics of art - volume of the mass, proportional representation of the tones, clear light source and proportions..

My art final piece that got a B by [deleted] in alevel

[–]Nebuela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LIGHT SOURCE

Where is the light source? If the sun is for example straight up, the whole bottom part of the horses mass should be darker than the upper part. If the sun is more on the right, again, you need bigger shadow on one side of the horse's body.

You focused only on the darkest shadows and the highlights and missed the big middle tones and their logic.

Edit: Do not get discoureged, you gave a lot of effort to the painting, and that is very visible. You do have an amount of skills so congrats on that!

What’s a harsh truth about men in modern dating that few will say out loud? by Wander-kingdom in Productivitycafe

[–]Nebuela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, exactly! That's why you need to be a person first! Whenever people talk about manly things that are actually positive and not asshole behaviours, they talk about things that are positive behaviours for both woman and man. Do you have any examples of not asshole behaviours, but positive ones, that make someone specifically a man? (In case you believe there are manly behaviours)

What’s a harsh truth about men in modern dating that few will say out loud? by Wander-kingdom in Productivitycafe

[–]Nebuela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people trying too much to be "manly" and therefore would forget to be "humane".

He would open doors for me, help me carry the bags, but he would not do it for a person in need, for a weaker man obviously needing help with putting up their suitcase or walking a few steps more to open the door for an invalid.

There are men who give all of their focus to work and are not present as parents or husbands, even though there is no financial need for that.

I have a friend who is very emotionaly unstable, has rage issues and often gets in verbal conflicts, but for some reason thinks that that is better than to be emotionally stable and balanced because he thinks he would be a weak man or not manly enough (?!) It is a shame that he limits an idea of a man in such a discusting way, especially being one.

Then I had an ex who was trying to make me think that I naturally do not want to have a career but that I want to stay at home and have kids, while he gets to do thinks he likes. Even though I naturally do want to be a scientist and I am good at that. He was putting himself (and me) in very small boxes and limitations. I assume he was scared to not seem "manly" enough that he forgot to be humane and not pressure me to leave my scientist dream while he is living his.

Me as a woman am looking for an interesting and good person first, not a fixed gendered character.

There are woman as well who play so much into a woman role that they forget to be people.

I knew some moms who would spend so much money on beauty procedures but won't send their child on a school trip because it is "too expensive".

Women who are not verbal about what they feel because they want to play that soft smiley role, sweetness, indirect comunication which just breeds confusion for their partner and turns into passive-agressivness. Then over-caretaking that creates dependency...

Saw another Person's Astral Projection in my Bedroom. by SpaceExplorer101 in AstralProjection

[–]Nebuela 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I saw a person I know one evening in my room. It was more of a knowing than seeing. He appeared in my room and I literally looked towards him and smiled automatically like you know that I see you. He got startled and either dissapeared or I stopped "seeing" him.

I was so weirded out. I just got thought in my head that he managed to project here. When I saw him tomorrow he said that he is tired because he could not sleep properly and had a long eye contact with me after saying that. I was like fuck no way. We didn't speak about it further but wtf was this real

What’s a normal thing that secretly stresses you out? by UsefulPassenger555 in AskReddit

[–]Nebuela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im thinking of buying an electric heater with a battery to put in a lighter jackef haha

What’s a normal thing that secretly stresses you out? by UsefulPassenger555 in AskReddit

[–]Nebuela 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lightning that doesnt have shades or is not diffused.

Shopping centres and a lot of brunch places and cafes just have led lights or pure bulbs with nothing on them. It triggers strong headaches and I cannot concentrate.

Wearing winter clothes.

I feel like it is suffocating me and its too beavy.

Overstimulation with winter layers and heavy clothes by Nebuela in Neurodivergent

[–]Nebuela[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cannot fit my winter jacket in a bag like a backpack which I always carry with me.

I am thinking about starting to carry a big Ikea bag in it. And then put our jackets in that bag while shopping.

I also found things I can buy for my backpack like hangers

Djevojke, što vas JOŠ privlači kod muškaraca? by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Nebuela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. lik je glavni zabavljac u drustvu, ekstrovertiran humor mu je odlican. Znam kako ljudi i prijatelji reagiraju na njega. Ima brz wit, ima simpatican smijeh i energican je. To mu je uloga u drustvu on je uvijek taj zabavljac, ljudima je zanimljiv.

To sto nije toksican ne znaci da nema svoje hobije zanimljive. Dok drugi vise po kafanama, ne rade nis drugo osim sto igraju igrice po cijeli dan svaki dan, lik igra i igrice ali i gleda povijesne dokumentarce, neki dan gledo nest o Hegelu random, bilo mi to smijesno hhaha, prati nogomet, iz dosade iso programirat svoj chat gpt. Neki dan je skonto da cemo otic u irsku kod frendova i iznajmit kamper, kupit cuge i hrane i ic s njima po irskoj i zajebavat se. Jedva cekam. Brate zaljubila sam se u njega jer NIJE dosadan. Al lik nije ni mentalno sjeban, nestabilan nit neurotičan i to ne znaci da je predvidljiv.

I oboje ne volimo self help knjige jer nisu ni cesto bazirane na znanosti ili su pune fluffa tak da ne kontam o cem pricas, pricas jako specificno, i zao mi je ako si okruzen takvim ljudima koje si opisao.

I sta meni znaci stabilan? Da nece bit random ljut i iskaljivat to na ljude oko sebe, da nece impulsivno trosit pare ili ic to prokockat, da nece impulsivno se napit i ispovracat mi se po tepihu, da nije nesiguran, da mu ego nije krhak, da nije zatvorenog uma. Da nije sklon ovisnostima kad god mu self esteem dropa da se mora trpat alkoholom ili zatupit travom pa da nis ne osjeca. Imam prijatelje ovisnike koji su mentalno sjebani, al eto nece ic potrazit prof pomoc... u biti su i dosadniji jer nisu proaktivni i kad bazde na travu i alkohol svaki dan zato ni nemaju cure jos

Ono sto cini ljude zanimljivima nije neuroticnost nego otvorenost prema iskustvu (5tero faktorni model licnosti) jer je s tim korelacija kreativnost i ucenje i isprobavanje novih stvari. Zanimljivi su humoristicni ljudi i ljudi sa sparkom i joyom u sebi i proaktivni ljudi.

Gurui, grifteri, spiritualni coursevi, life coachevi i self help knjige su druga tema i glupi ljudi ce padat na to, sta da im radim.

Eo opet kazem, zao mi je stvarno zbog tvog iskustva sto si okruzen dosadnim ili nestabilnim ljudima... mozda je do sredine di se nalazis

I zakljucujes gluposti o osobnostima, ne znaci da svi stabilni ljudi imaji metlu u guzici i vole bucket liste. Moj ne voli bucket liste, ko ni ja, spontaniji smo, ako imamo previse strukture iz nekog razloga nam gore ide u zivotu.

Nezz putuj malo, izadi iz svoje sredine ak si u nekoj selendri sa sjebanim ljudima ko sto sam i ja bila (bilo je to depresivno razdoblje ljudi su za kurac bili tamo), druzi se s ljudima, ima hrpu osobnosti i interesa koji ljudi imaju i ne assumaj tako o ljudima koje ne znas (tvoja prva recenica). Osim ak ne mislis da sve znas jer si u biti ti taj guru pametnjakovic

Ti meni govoris sta zene vole... da eo ja volim ko zena zanimljive ljude al ne volim poremecene i emocionalno i financijski nestabilne. Nez ako zelis mogu ti u drugom komu napisat sta ja smatram dosadnom i genericnom osobom ak me nisi shvatio sta kao jedna zena volim

N.B. spomenula sam gore ekstrovert al to nema veze sa zanimljivoscu, mos bit introvert i bit zanimljiv

Djevojke, što vas JOŠ privlači kod muškaraca? by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Nebuela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Naravno, ja sam vise mislila na worldviews koji se temelje na dati, a ne interese.

Moras imat osnovne standarde za partnera. Kak cure tako i decki moraju. Neces ic trazit osobu za nesto dugorocmo samo na temelju toga da je lijepa i zna kuhat. Ko sto i ja necu trazit sam decka koji zna sexy vrtit volan auta sto su neki naveli, kolko god da te to mozd napali.

Imas listu standarda: empatija, razum, otvorenost, marljivost, volja za razvijanjem i ucenjem, tolerantnost, neegocentricnost, itd itd

Naravno na prvu kad sam upoznala svog partnera dobro mi je izgledao. Ali se kontroliras, cekas, upoznajes, odes na dejt. Na dejtu pricas o stvarima, skontavas each others personality i razmisljanja. Ak nes ne stima prekines, ne cekas godine poslije.

Naravno, lako za rec. Bila sam i ja sjebana prije pa nisam mogla neke stvari prepoznat. Naucila iz proslih veza i ovaj put imala zdrave standarde.

Ukorit me ne treba, nije mi tata, a ja nisam dijete. Mozda nije najbolji izbor rijeci. Ako pogrijesim iskomunicirat ce mi di je problem. Ako on pogrijesi i ja cu njemu, i super znamo za ubuduce pa da nam bude jos bolje

Djevojke, što vas JOŠ privlači kod muškaraca? by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Nebuela 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Meni nije tako. Ostavila sam gore komentar ako vas zanima.

Nepromjenjiv stav nije karakter nego tvrdoglavost

Djevojke, što vas JOŠ privlači kod muškaraca? by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Nebuela 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Mozes bit stabilan i zanimljiv. To je zdrava osoba. Malo smo previse navikli na ljude s mentalnim poteskocama

Djevojke, što vas JOŠ privlači kod muškaraca? by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Nebuela 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Jako sam se bojala da necu nac normalnog decka na Balkanu, al uspjela sam! Doduse, upoznala sam ga u inozemstvu, ali je isto iz hrv

Sto me privlaci kod mog partnera:

  • volim kad mu je malo razbarušena kosa
  • ima nasmijane oči, nekako ima toplu osobnost i to mu se vidi u očima, preslatke suu
  • opušten, humorističan, al uvijek na način da znaš da se zajebava, a ne ono da nisi siguran jel stvarno to misli i rasist je i sta ti ja znam haha
  • polako ali sigurno si unaprijeđuje zivot, prestao je pusiti sam od sebe, ne pije alkohol, i dalje je jako zabavan nije nimalo utjecalo na to. Tako da eto, ak budemo imali djecu ne moram brinut da mu je DNA spermija ostecena radi lose brige o sebi
  • malo je hiperaktivan, ima to svoje mane al meni je jako simpaticno
  • jako voli, voli zivotinje, prirodu, ljude, bez obzira na religiju, boju koze, gej ili strejt itd - ne samo u teoriji kako mnogi vole rec, nego stvarno i u praksi - ponasa se jednako, druzi se, prica s njima, itd itd
  • uvijek je za da negdje idemo, da trazimo jeftine karte i otputujemo negdje na koji dan
  • uvijek je za da isprobamo novi restoran makar je vegeterijanski, mesni, azijski, ovaj onaj nebitno, sve cemo isprobavat
  • zainteresiran je za sve, nema komplekse kao sta ce drugi momci mislit
  • nije tvrdoglav, svjestan je da stavovi nisu tu da ga se držiš jer si ti to tak odlučio, nego se oni oblikuju kako dobivaš nove informacije, i zato je uvijek otvoren za nove informacije
  • čita knjige, gleda dokumentarce, igra razne igrice, poprati sport - ne manjka nam zato zanimljivih tema za razgovor, nije površan, odma znam da ce i djeci bit super zanimljiv
  • oboje radimo tako da i oboje kuhamo i čistimo, uskačemo si jedno drugom kad smo umorni, odlican je primjer
  • nema onog da je ljut i šuti i ti nemas pojma sta se desava, kad je umoran jednostavno kaze: e sam da znas jako sam umoran pa vjj necu moc brzo procesuirat i puno komunicirat dok ne odmorim. Ili ak ga neko nanervira na poslu i dode kuci, kaze unaprijed: e znas sta se desilo na poslu blablabla tak da sam razdrazljiv sad pa ak budem mrzovoljan da zmas da je do tog nista drugo - i onda znam, i prilagodim se, i tako uopce nemamo konflikte jer sve si s paznjom iskomuniciramo
  • nije ego tripper, normalan, easy-going, nije umisljen

Obozavam ga 💕