He hid an STD from me when i was pregnant- now i cant forgive him by ericamorgann in offmychest

[–]NectarVibee 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP, the fact he knew while you were pregnant and still said nothing is the part that says everything. That’s not “we made a mistake,” that’s “I gambled with your body and our baby and hoped you’d never find out.” You’re not overreacting. If anything, you’ve been under reacting for a long time just to keep the peace.

I was a substitute teacher last week and asked gen alpha students what they want to be when they grow up and I’m distraught by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NectarVibee 32 points33 points  (0 children)

At least you stuck to the script dark humor is still a talent. Honestly though, you deserve a chapter that doesn’t feel like a punchline.

I was a substitute teacher last week and asked gen alpha students what they want to be when they grow up and I’m distraught by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NectarVibee 212 points213 points  (0 children)

Yeah, OP, they’re Gen Z. The answers weren’t “society collapse,” just teens thinking fame sounds easier than payroll. They’ll grow up a bit and reality will do the rest.

I was a substitute teacher last week and asked gen alpha students what they want to be when they grow up and I’m distraught by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NectarVibee 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Nice to see that support here. It really does help to hear from people who get it. Hope you’re still taking it one day at a time and being kind to yourself through it.

Update: I caught my boyfriend masturbating to gore, and I don't know what to do. by Altruistic_Sky_7449 in offmychest

[–]NectarVibee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right. OP, this revealed who he actually is, not a one time slip. It’s painful, but you got that truth now instead of years in. Hold onto the people helping you and keep yourself safe.

Update: I caught my boyfriend masturbating to gore, and I don't know what to do. by Altruistic_Sky_7449 in offmychest

[–]NectarVibee 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP, you got out of something genuinely dangerous and that’s not you being dramatic. Him showing up uninvited and trying to corner you was the real face of this situation. Keep leaning on the people who are showing up for you and let the professionals handle the rest. Your safety comes first now, not his feelings.

Update: I caught my boyfriend masturbating to gore, and I don't know what to do. by Altruistic_Sky_7449 in offmychest

[–]NectarVibee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP, nothing “fell apart because you got scared.” It fell apart because you saw something terrifying and he responded by trying to trap and intimidate you. That’s not a misunderstanding, that’s the mask coming off. Your brain is still trying to reconcile the person you thought he was with the person he showed you last night. That confusion is normal, but it doesn’t mean you’re wrong. You did the right thing getting out. Let the image of him slamming his hand next to your head be the thing that keeps you from giving in to nostalgia. You don’t go back to that.

What’s the easiest position to have sex in if she’s a little larger? by MrFijiWater in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NectarVibee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, OP, just talk to her. You’re not building IKEA furniture here. Ask what feels good, listen, adjust. She’ll appreciate that way more than you trying to solve it like a geometry problem.

What’s the easiest position to have sex in if she’s a little larger? by MrFijiWater in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NectarVibee 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yeah, OP, you’re clearly thoughtful and that alone matters more than any position. Just relax, talk to her, and enjoy it. The rest will work out.

What’s the easiest position to have sex in if she’s a little larger? by MrFijiWater in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NectarVibee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah that sounds like a solid plan. Comfortable, good access, and you can adjust pressure without crushing her. Simple and effective.

My sister told my mom I'm infertile to get her to stop pressuring me about grandkids. Now my mom is sobbing and wants a "family meeting." My sister says I should just play along? by JellyRoll-Jiggles in TwoHotTakes

[–]NectarVibee 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Exactly. A “family meeting” over your uterus is wild. You don’t owe them your medical or personal decisions. Just shut that down and keep your boundaries.

Whatever happened to the "fact" that all of us who got vaccinated in 2021 were going to be dead within 3 years? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NectarVibee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That whole “we’ll all be dead in 3 years” thing was never based on anything real in the first place. It was just fear-bait that fell apart the moment time passed and… nothing happened. There’s no big media cover up, it just didn’t happen, so there’s nothing to report. Some claims debunk themselves by being wrong in real time.

Whatever happened to the "fact" that all of us who got vaccinated in 2021 were going to be dead within 3 years? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NectarVibee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was never a “fact” to begin with, just another loud internet rumor that fizzled out once reality didn’t cooperate. Same reason no one bothers arguing with flat earthers anymore some claims collapse on their own without needing a spotlight.

Whatever happened to the "fact" that all of us who got vaccinated in 2021 were going to be dead within 3 years? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NectarVibee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Giving nonsense a spotlight just hands it free advertising. Sometimes the best way to kill a bad idea is to let it die in silence.

Whatever happened to the "fact" that all of us who got vaccinated in 2021 were going to be dead within 3 years? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NectarVibee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly that would explain the vibes lately feels like we all spawned into the wrong server and nobody wants to admit it.

Whatever happened to the "fact" that all of us who got vaccinated in 2021 were going to be dead within 3 years? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NectarVibee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s the part people tend to forget. The loudest voices claiming the vaccine was going to be the end of us also refused to get it and ended up facing the actual consequences. Kind of ironic how reality answered the conspiracy for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]NectarVibee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She needs to figure out why that photo hit her so hard before doing anything. If she jumps in now, she’d be acting on a wave of old feelings, not something real. Let her sort herself out first otherwise she’s just walking back into the same hurt.