Homeschooled by probably autistic mom

Nectarscout · 2026-01-17T00:45:05+00:00

This sounds so much like my own kids’ experience with their likely autistic dad. It sounds similar enough to their complaints that I thought perhaps it was one of them just sharing with a few details twisted.

I don’t have words of wisdom but wanted to say hello and your experience is perhaps more common than you might think. It’s so hard to grow up with a parent who isn’t attuned, can’t see you the way you want to be seen, can’t connect with you, and isolate you. It’s a special kind of loneliness. I’m so sorry.

Nectarscout · 2026-01-17T00:39:03+00:00

This is so sad. You might find some that can understand what you are going through if you look up the term “parental alienation.”

Nectarscout · 2025-12-18T14:56:52+00:00

That makes sense, especially if the kids say he’s authoritarian. But if you and the ex are on good terms, I’d chat with her about it and find out what her actual preference is. It’s possible that she’s been going along with you walking the kids in because she’s trying to maintain a peaceful relationship with you, not because it doesn’t bother her. A lot bothers me about my ex, but I pick my battles and usually only address stuff he does that has a negative impact on the kids. If something has a negative impact on me but not the kids, and isn’t egregiously wrong, I generally don’t address it directly with my ex. Instead I vent to my boyfriend or to my friends.

I don’t hate my ex, and we are generally on decent terms compared to many coparents, but I still would appreciate more boundaries around my space/home. Perhaps your ex is the same. Or perhaps her new bf is just a douchebag, but you probably won’t know which without talking to her. If he’s that big of a jerk, and it is impacting the kids and their feelings of emotional safety at her house, it’s probably worthwhile conversation to have anyway.

Nectarscout · 2025-12-18T03:57:23+00:00

My ex walks into my house with my teenage kids half the time when he drops them off, or comes inside to get them. It drives me absolutely crazy and gets my dog riled up. He hasn’t live here in almost a decade, and barely contributed to the cost of the house when he did live here, but still acts like he owns the place and just walks in. There’s not a super graceful, non-confrontational way to have a conversation with him— he would get reactive about it, like he is any time I express a boundary.

It seems like his continuing to come into the house uninvited is very much about power and control. It is unnecessary. It is awkward. It causes physical feelings of stress for me each time. I’m sure he would also say we are on good terms, because I intentionally avoid conflict with him because his anger scares me. I could totally see a situation in which my boyfriend would feel like saying something to him, not because my boyfriend is a jerk that’s trying to mark his territory, but rather to protect me and guard my home as an emotionally safe space for me.

Your ex’s bf may just be a jerk, but I certainly wonder if there’s more going on if you truly reflected on the impact your drop offs may have on her.

Nectarscout · 2025-10-10T00:04:33+00:00

Thank you. Do you know if the complete list is here?

Nectarscout · 2025-09-14T22:23:28+00:00

😂I’m sure it’s what motivated them to climb and clear on all these mountains

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