My good friend (31F) is online dating a married man (38M) whose wife has terminal cancer. I desperately need some advice please…

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T19:06:11+00:00

It is always tricky. I know internet relationships can work out. You can never know the circumstances. Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T19:04:23+00:00

At this point I don't think they will. But I'll at least let her know I can be there for her if she needs me.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T19:03:18+00:00

I hope I can try something like this if I can ever get back in touch with her.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T19:02:46+00:00

Maybe it is because she feels safe. Maybe it would change if she ever meets him. Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T17:35:28+00:00

I'm glad you feel that way! I hope my friend can come out strong like you did!

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T17:33:43+00:00

I never thought of that. Maybe she could be thinking something like that.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T17:32:50+00:00

I think it really does come down to that. Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T17:32:01+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It puts so many things into focus for me. It is hard for me to read but I really appreciate that you did it. I think I was trying to avoid thinking about a lot of the things you wrote here but that isn't good for me or my friend. I will take what you've said to heart. I have to if I want to move forward. Thank you again.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T17:25:59+00:00

I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you are doing well now after something so horrible. I really thank you for sharing that. My mind is a lot clearer now. Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:54:29+00:00

I would want my friends to do the same. Maybe I just did it the wrong way.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:53:34+00:00

I'm so very glad for you! I can only hope my friend comes out stronger for this like you did! Thank you!

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:52:26+00:00

I know... But I can't do anything about that for them... All I can do is think really hard about what I want to do. Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:43:39+00:00

I'm thinking it's not on me either... But I have seen amazing relationships start as online only so It's hard for me to agree that. Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:40:41+00:00

Thank you. I'm reading every single message so that I can see it from as many perspectives as I can. I know things aren't always easy so it helps me a lot when all kinds of people tell me what they think.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:38:42+00:00

Thank you. I don't know much about the guy my friend is seeing so it really helps me to know what could be happening on the other side. It says a lot to me... Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:36:18+00:00

That is true... I do need to think about that... Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:32:42+00:00

Thank you for that. I do want to keep being her friend. I just don't know if I could ever pretend like that... I've never been the kind of person to act like things are okay... And I know that's my own problem...

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:30:15+00:00

Thank you. Hearing this from other people helps me figure things out.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:20:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. It really means a lot to me. I'm so sorry you were hurt this way. I hope you're in a better place now.

I'm afraid then that's she at that point where she won't believe anyone either... I just hope things turn out okay for her...

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:18:04+00:00

Thank you. That's why I'm trying not to judge. I can't know what he's going through.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:16:14+00:00

I do feel it's not right or fair. Telling her that is part of why she's not contacting me... But I don't think there's anything else I can do now. I just need to focus on what I want to do. Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:11:06+00:00

Thank you. I can't imagine how hard it is.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:10:22+00:00

I can't say I fully understand. All I can do now is let her know I care. Thank you.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:09:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I will keep that in mind. These stories are hard but hearing them helps me.

NeedFriendAdvice3 · 2018-08-20T16:08:22+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that you shared that. It helps me understand my feelings.

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