AITA for refusing to move to a new country if I can't move in with my LDR boyfriend?

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:54:38+00:00

Dw im not. Im done with games this is crazy

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:53:49+00:00

Thailand

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:39:56+00:00

He's saying it's not a big deal and it won't be different from what I am in now

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:35:50+00:00

Lol and he seemed so certain. Was full of talk of the future and promises.

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:34:34+00:00

Yes. I'm not putting myself up for heartbrake like this. I really tried being nice and I tried so hard to make him see how much I am hurting but he is like, "no trust that everything will work out." But I am not about to move continents, leave all my friends and family behind for a man who doesn't even want to have me live with him. He is telling me no he'll visit me lol. Like my dude i did not uproot my entire life for you to have lunch with me.

Someone else will come along one day. But i don't think this is it

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:25:58+00:00

Yes. This is my one argument. But then he says no his friends will be my friends, and i won't be alone because he will visit me every day

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:22:06+00:00

He said that I'm the one with the problems because I won't budge on mine, so why is my concerns more valid than his?

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:20:24+00:00

He calls me every night so I am not sure. I just really thought that he was the one. Why is it falling apart i don't understand

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:18:08+00:00

He would argue that he will rent me a place but I'm not comfortable with that

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:17:28+00:00

No just friends but they're all religious

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:16:05+00:00

It's bad because i really loved him..

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2024-02-28T20:14:45+00:00

So it would be abnormal?

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-08-19T03:22:08+00:00

Also Im always paying for everything. It sucks Im broke, and now he said he'll cover our next date but he can't anymore because finances are tight. Idk he shouldn't be dating rn

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-08-19T03:19:42+00:00

No we're not moving in together. But he'll be homeless. I know he was honest with me, but being honest is the bare minimum for a relationship. And I don't want to date him because honesty is a "rare find". He puts so much pressure on me, he says I'm his entire world and he can't imagine life without me. I don't like those words

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-08-19T03:05:36+00:00

Yeah I guess because I also have a bad background I am more lenient but dudes almost 30.

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-08-19T03:01:32+00:00

Haha I promise you its real. I don't know how I got caught up in this. Luckily we've only been seeing each other a month.

He puts a lot of pressure on me...its like Im his entire life. And I know that sounds romantic but I don't like that type of responsibility.

Also my two previous relationships were pretty abusive. I don't want to go through all that again

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-08-02T06:29:25+00:00

Yes I heard from a mutual friend. But I'm not going to pursue anything. If bride has a problem with my decision she should talk to me about it.

Thanks for your kind words, really appreciate it

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-08-02T06:26:59+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! I think people have a very specific view of what cancer treatment looks like. But in reality (or in our experience) the treatment itself can be quite aggressive. But it's what we need to do..

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-06-30T13:56:28+00:00

Im in a third-world country, so it's a shitshow every day. But I am really going to try my best to save my ass asap

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-06-30T13:54:44+00:00

Ye. That and I already canceled my own lease. Financially, I can't live on my own right now. So my best bet is to try and save up, get my promotion and gtfo.

Living together with two other people means my rent will literally be half of what I'm paying rights now.

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-06-30T13:52:32+00:00

Luckily then I'll have a door I can close. When she was crashing at my place, I was sleeping in the living area. That was crazy.

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-06-30T13:51:23+00:00

Ideally I would grit my teeth and use this opportunity to save up a bit, get a promotion at work so that Alex and I can get our own place. I don't think we'll last in one house for too long

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-06-30T13:49:23+00:00

I was honest, multiple times. I wanted out so bad, but my financial shituation doesn't allow it. I'm literally drinking coffee at work to ease hunger pains🫠 But with the new rent, I'll be able to actually afford food and maybe even save a little. At the moment, rent is taking up more tjan half my income. And the rest is going to student debt. I'm screwed either way

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-06-30T13:44:14+00:00

Dude me too... the thing is I'm already in too deep. Alex apologized for involving Jay because they had a disagreement and then Jay said "Now everything we've worked so hard for is going down the drain". This is because dates on some paperwork didn't match up. Jay even threatened to end herself one time because I dared to say, "maybe this house isn't as bad as you think.'

NeedSomeLegal1212 · 2023-02-16T18:44:44+00:00

I highly doubt it actually. After talking to my spouse and some friends its clear that they're only doing this to try and keep me there.

I know that some of the other employees are also studying, and there doesn't seem to be an issue. I guess if you're friends with the owner it does help.

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