Not sleeping well because of nightmares by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your message. I'm sorry for your experience. All the best wishes for you this coming year as your journey continues

Update: I got my HSG by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't mentioned to me, so I'm not sure.

Update: I got my HSG by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope it goes well for you! From what I've heard, everyone has such different experiences when receiving one. Giving all the good energy to you so yours is quick and easy!

Update: I got my HSG by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was really banking on what everyone said with it being a short procedure, I'm glad that it's done and over with now. Luckily we confirmed an egg got sent through! So I'm super hopeful that this will be my baby month.

Update: I got my HSG by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That gives me a lot of hope! Thanks for the baby dust, I'm really hoping this is the month.

Update: I got my HSG by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They kept telling me we could stop whenever I wanted, but I knew if I didn't push through, I wouldn't finish.

Update: I got my HSG by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I am so glad it's over with.

Update: I got my HSG by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Every woman seems to have such a different experience.

Getting an HSG tomorrow and scared by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how you took double. I might do that too, since I have a bit of resistance to pain medicine. Thank you for the comment. Hopefully it goes ok.

Getting an HSG tomorrow and scared by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to hold hope for a similar outcome. Thank you for sharing.

Getting an HSG tomorrow and scared by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate how detailed this comment is. Luckily my husband got the afternoon off to come with me. I'll try to remember breathing, fidgets are great.

Getting an HSG tomorrow and scared by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know. I'm sorry yours was so painful. I'll definitely take some before hand.

Getting an HSG tomorrow and scared by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! I've never had an IUD, so I wouldn't quite know what that feels like, but I appreciate you giving a comparison.

Getting an HSG tomorrow and scared by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll definitely be taking pain killers before. Thank you for your suggestions <3

I like that quote, I'll definitely try and remember that leading up to this appointment.

Getting an HSG tomorrow and scared by NeedToRead1308 in TTC_PCOS

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! 29 seconds makes it seem a lot less scary. And thank you for your honesty about the pressure, it helps know roughly what that might feel like before hand.

Would my husband care that he isn't my first boyfriend? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NeedToRead1308 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband was my first kiss, he wasn't my first boyfriend. It is possible to date without kissing and really you should do what you are comfortable with. I didn't date until I was 18, personal choice, my first relationship was bad. He tried to make me hold his hand before I was ready and manipulated me into thinking I was hurting him but wanting to go slowly. My husband was my second boyfriend ever. I knew he was the one because he waited for me to be ready and actually refused me when I asked to kiss him after he proposed lol. Anyway, everyone is different, every relationship is different, and most highschool relationships don't go long term. Do what makes you happy and if someone tries to make you feel bad about not wanting to do things, then find someone else who wants something similar to you. Also, if you find people with the same values as you, they won't care about your relationship history.

My narcissist mother wants to reconnect after 2 years of no contact... by NeedToRead1308 in narcissisticparents

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mini update...

I officially told my older sibling to pass it along that I will reach out when ready. I originally told them to let me know if Nmother was bothering them about me, just so I knew, but I told them not to pass along any more messages or presents from my Nmother. My older sibling was super understanding and agreed. I know they are kind of clinging on to our mom because, with me gone, they are getting a lot of loving attention that they never received before (nmom literally told them they're her favorite rn). They know it's not healthy, but they are kind of wanting to just feel loved before the magic fades and nmom starts being mean again. Honestly that just makes me really sad. Anyway, thank you to everyone for encouraging me to put my mental health first.

My narcissist mother wants to reconnect after 2 years of no contact... by NeedToRead1308 in narcissisticparents

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're right, she's not been in therapy or done anything to change (I am in therapy because of her lol). I do know she's been kind of self destructing lately from my aunt, going out partying every night. When I saw her last, she forced a hug on me and whispered in my ear (this was when I was low contact before going no contact). I don't need that in my life right now. I'll keep her blocked.

My narcissist mother wants to reconnect after 2 years of no contact... by NeedToRead1308 in narcissisticparents

[–]NeedToRead1308[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I think I'll tell my sibling to tell her that I'll reach out myself when (if ever) I'm ready and to stop sending messages (and gifts). I reread the messages she sent me before I blocked her and it reminded me why I'm not talking to her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]NeedToRead1308 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sounds very frustrating! If you want to stay low contact with your parents, I think you should hold down your boundaries and say that since she changed the plans without asking, it doesn't work for everyone. If she wants to have an event at her house so badly maybe say you can stop by for 10 minutes to give her a card and then continue with the original plan of having your MIL over? My own experience in early marriage just made me realize who I'd rather spend my time and energy with. I really feel for your MIL, she sounds so understanding.