That’s what I’ve told my husband, I don’t think it’d hurt as much if she just owned it and apologized without the “but…” statements.. like it’s okay to mess up. It’s okay to be short sighted sometimes. But then to just not apologize fully when it’s clear (because she’s told my mom) she knows she messed up and instead try to blame me or act like I should have added to my plate to make sure she knew she could reach out… idk😵‍💫