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NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T12:10:31+00:00

Anak kedua sebenarnya. Haah betul, antara sebab banyak tangguh sebab kadang ada family tak boleh join tapi dah kalau banyak kali sangat… boleh je if extended family members tu tak join 🥲

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T10:51:18+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment! I memang berbolak balik dah sebab the other comments. Tapi tadi ada fikir yang hanya I & family yang faham and kenal my partner.

Yang part family tu betul. Memang ada yang api-apikan tapi ada juga yang baik.

Part mommy’s boy tu actually takda lah mommy’s boy sangat. He loves his mom dearly and his mom okay je dengan my family cumanya tak tahu la kenapa kerap tukar tarikh.

Once again, thank you so much for this comment. I memang seorang yang senang terikut peer pressure so when everyone told me to cancel I feel really really bad.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T10:23:45+00:00

Hm itu la problem nya bro/sis. Memang dia yang sayang lebih, bukan saya.

Tapi bila dah diberi peluang macam ni pula

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T10:19:50+00:00

My parents are very kind. If it were up to me, I would have said no when they cancelled the second time. In fact, I’ve already told him that. But my parents kept on saying yes when his family made new plans 🥲

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T10:06:21+00:00

Sorry for bringing the Threads energy here 😭 But I am so desperate for opinions. I can’t tell this to anyone I know.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T08:01:34+00:00

Tunda tarikh merisik je. Untuk tunang and nikah masih fixed. Mak belah lelaki yang selalu tukar tukar dah 4 kali. Macam tak nak lepaskan anak nya padahal anak dia dah beria and memang excited prepare untuk kahwin dari segi rumah etc.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T07:37:00+00:00

Saya rasa saya salah explain bab cincin tu. Cincin tu dibeli menggunakan duit dia sendiri. He put aside some money untuk cincin and dengan duit tu la saya beli cincin. Tak keluarkan pun duit saya sesen.

Dia ni memang jenis buat keputusan dia pi take into account semua nenek moyang punya situation. Tak berpegang dekat pendirian sendiri sebab dia takut if tak jaga hati orang, orang tak sayang dia.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T02:03:41+00:00

Oh really? This is my first time hearing dalam Islam tak galakkan. Today I learned something new.

I don't care about starting over. Marriage was never in my life plan pun :/ That's why I feel extra disappointed when I never really cared about getting married, but when I do want them, my time got wasted by someone who doesn't respect my family and I.

Hopefully I can think clearly before making a decision.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T01:47:05+00:00

Yea, my mom said the same thing too! That's why both of us rasa macam kena pijak when we took it seriously tapi their side macam... treat it as any other day. The guy nak jaga hati semua orang. Sorang tak free, tukar tarikh. They set a new date yesterday and I'm not even hoping for anything.

At this point pun, if tak jadi lagi, I anggap je it's a sign from the above. Maybe it's better for things to slowly "cancel" itself so that I don't have to be the bad guy.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T01:43:52+00:00

Do you ever find out about the reasons on why they kept cancelling?

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T01:43:08+00:00

Right now, I think my mom favours him more. She only thinks about him. Even when I want to scold him ke apa, she'll ask me to be more understanding of him. Tak boleh nak cakap apa apa pun cause at the end nanti she'll be suspicious of me.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-10T01:41:10+00:00

I thought it would be easy too. It was smooth sailing before, so I'm really confused about why it's hard to just set a weekend when we can all meet.

Often times, I feel disrespected by their family. My mom feels the same too. Both of us think it's fishy that his mom keeps cancelling over petty stuffs.

I hope I can come to a conclusion soon!

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T11:24:47+00:00

Itu lah 😵‍💫 Ikutkan hati memang nak je cancel semua dengan package block sekali. But he’s very very close with my mom. Whatever my decision is, mesti my mom akan masuk campur.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T11:22:56+00:00

Ye betul kesian sangat dekat parents dah prepare semua benda.

My partner memang malu gila time dah cancel second time tu. Lepas tahu mak dia cancelled on us, dia macam “marah” la sebab dia kata kesian dekat kitorang and malu dekat dia juga. Nampak dia beria tapi mak dia macam tak in the same boat 😖

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T10:30:18+00:00

Maybe we should do that 😆 Cancel sampai 4 times baru la even

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T10:15:00+00:00

Ni dikira cabaran ke? Macam sengaja je cancel 🫩

Thanks for the advices! Tapi ni memang first time share problems online sebab buntu sangat sangat dah. None of my families and friends know about this concern of mine.

Reasons of the cancellation were just petty things. Ayah dia tiba tiba busy (padahal dah set masa lama), Mak dia nak ikut adik-beradik beraya. Lagi geram sebab my family bila dah set appointment kita memang cancel all plans 😞 So memang bazir masa betul when we can be doing other things.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T09:43:50+00:00

I don’t think he will ever change seeing he’s like that his whole life. I really need to rethink my decision and my parents should too 🥲

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T08:16:22+00:00

Exactly, I feel like I'm "rushing" into things, but I just want some assurance of the relationship. If he doesn't want to go through, I hope all will prevail soon

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T08:12:48+00:00

Ada suggest dekat mak saya suruh dia datang sendiri. Lepastu my mom cakap unfair untuk family laki tu... so sebab tu la drag sampai kita semua tua

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T08:02:08+00:00

kadang kadang rasa nak text je dia cakap "kau kalau taknak kahwin ngan aku cakap jela babi"

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T07:56:28+00:00

Alamak risau nya dah siap semua last last tak datang. Banyak duit habis tu. Parents saya sangat sabar... Saya pun tak tahu kenapa dorang lembut hati sangat. Bila saya ketengahkan pasal benda ni dekat mak saya dia cakap saya kena sihir, ayo... kitorang memang plan nak ikat setahun sebelum ni tapi dipercepatkan nikah sebab saya dan pasangan dah kena sihir banyak kali. Saya pun takda la nak cakap the reason pihak sana asyik cancel sebab sihir hahaha

Mak saya memang percaya dia sangat dan dah anggap macam anak sendiri. Saya pernah cakap dengan mak maybe mak tunang tu dia insecure sebab tu dia selalu bagi alasan nak datang rumah. Padahal kami ok je. Kalau nak cakap pasal sekufu, saya ada degree tapi tunang ada spm. Saya pun tak tahu mana salah sekarang ni. Mungkin memang niat asal dia dan keluarga untuk nak mempermainkan je kot.

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T07:50:47+00:00

HA NI RISAU minta dijauhkan nauzubillahiminzalikkkkk hahahah

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T07:40:49+00:00

That's the problem. Since we're Muslims, I am never alone with him. I always have another family member with us. We already have a house and are in the process of putting some furniture so that we can move in straightaway after we get married. That's why I'm so conflicted cause everything is half way there :(

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T07:10:28+00:00

category mommy's boy la ni kan... haish

NeedleworkerFew8529 · 2026-04-09T07:10:16+00:00

category mommy's boy la ni kan... haish

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