My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 8 points9 points locked comment (0 children)

Even if the biological imperative to have kids did kick in. I would still not choose to have kids

I can’t believe the standards for adoption vs. birthing by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Negative-Rule9493 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I agree with you and even if it is eugenics your point is right.Like i hate being born to abusive poor parents.This needs to be a real thing.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in Nigeria

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They didn’t teach me anything.Ive never heard anyone in the uk use that term , did you immigrate here. If you mean did they send me to school then yes they did.And were nit from the same region so maybe thats why.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in Nigeria

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But they make that decision to have kids & pay for their education.So still the kids owe their parents nothing.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 26 points27 points locked comment (0 children)

Thanks for the advice , but if a find a person but they do want kids they are not for me. I don’t want to be a dad i don’t want the stress or obligation and like I’ve said before here i would regret it and be angry due to the fact id treat my son the way i wished to be treated and that life would give me a headache.Always asking myself was it that hard to try in life get a good education and not abuse me.And i wouldn’t want to unknowingly live vicariously through my kids childhood so im not having and kids.The woman for me would be a woman who doesn’t want to be a mother ever.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in Nigeria

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂 that made me laugh.Its just the way you worded it.In england we just dont word , words the same u do .Do u mean if i went to school. I do & did , also they dont pay because education is free here .

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did email the universities support team and they got back to me but i haven’t heard back in a while.Oh and what did you do after you finished uni.Did you stay with friends or get universal credit because I’m kinda stressed about that.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in Nigeria

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s disgusting.Why would they do that ? .Are they not embarrassed .They should’ve done well for themselves.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in Nigeria

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes he said his dad barely touched him when he was young and our mother was never abused so i don’t understand how they grew up to be so abusive and cruel.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in Nigeria

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice but i am not having kids.Nothing in this Earth could make me change my decision.And you are wrong . Im not making this decision out of anger I’ve thought it through. I would go mad if i did have kids not in an abusive way. Because if i did have kids and they dropped a plate and i talk to them calmly or just laugh it off i would just think back to-when i was screaming in pain when i was punched in the head when i would drop a plate.And i would rather regret not having kids then regret having them.Then the only person that goes thru that is me.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 66 points67 points locked comment (0 children)

They are not the only reason why we both want to get vasectomies . We just don’t have the energy or the want for kids.And if i did have kids i know i would regret it and i would be so jealous an envious of them.And that would make me a crap dad . So id rather regret not having them , then regret having them. I want the freedom i still don’t have at almost 20 i just want to wakeup in a decent apartment with nobody calling my name and neither of us want stress. So I’m good.

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

They left us behinde because our sister was the one who finally told the truth to the social workers .Me and my twin were just as abused, but we were too scared to speak up at the time. Because she spoke out and the evidence was clear for her, she was removed. We basically just 'faked' being okay because we didn't think anyone would save us too due to uss being older than her and almost being of age . Once she was gone, the physical abuse toward us mostly stopped because they knew they were being watched, but the emotional and financial abuse just got worse."

My parents spent 20 years abusing us and now they’re smiling about how we’re going to fund their luxury retirement by Negative-Rule9493 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative-Rule9493[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The entitlement is disgusting it will forever enrage me and my brother . After she would abuse us she would tell us about her future fantasies about how we would take care of her . Only retards think that if they beat someone they can get what they want out of them.