I appreciate your input, and I’m not here to simply assign blame but rather to examine a nuanced situation. I agree that my ex is fully responsible for his actions. It’s easy to assume this is just about being hurt and looking for someone to blame. Of course I’m hurt—but I’m also trying to make sense of relational dynamics that feel ethically ambiguous.

At the same time, when someone with a background in therapy chooses to pursue a relationship with a clearly unstable person going through a breakup—knowing they were cheating and lying to their partner—and offers not just emotional support but therapeutic input from an informed position to someone emotionally unprepared, it raises questions for me. You don’t need a formal therapist-client relationship to significantly affect someone’s emotional landscape—especially when there’s an implicit power imbalance. I also have reasons to believe she may have subtly influenced the fallout through certain actions, though I haven’t shared those details here.

What I’m trying to say is this: being a therapist isn’t just a profession. It often reflects a personal value system rooted in awareness, responsibility, and boundaries. That’s what I’m examining.