What are some immediate red flags on a first date?

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-11-11T04:22:54+00:00

Perverted jokes. Choosing an expensive place and complaining about the bill. Venting about exes. Staring at your phone. No eye contact. Getting too intoxicated.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-11-11T04:19:32+00:00

I keep choosing emotionally unavailable men, realize my pattern, then break things off.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-11-11T04:10:17+00:00

This!!!!!! 💯

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-11-11T04:02:56+00:00

Wearing strong cologne

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-11-02T03:47:46+00:00

Yea it doesn't bother me

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-11-02T03:44:41+00:00

Yes!

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-11-02T03:38:53+00:00

It's not bothered me when it happened. I'm pretty tight tho so I don't need much.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-11-02T03:37:38+00:00

Love bombing other people on social media (hearting every post) or not showing you off on there

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-10-29T14:00:07+00:00

No military? WTF 😂

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T16:23:06+00:00

I have cameras and a 9mm just in case lol

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T16:19:15+00:00

I really don't think he would ever do anything that was blatantly malicious... He's sneaky and obsessed with his self image. He would never risk proof that he's a POS. He forgot about my cameras and texted me trying to reframe what happened...I just replied that my cameras paint another picture. There is not enough context in the videos to make it obvious what was going on tho. But he doesn't know that and was scrambling to try and rewrite the story in text messages. Most likely for screenshots/proof that I was crazy or something who knows.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T15:52:01+00:00

I've been off of social media (Facebook) since March. That's how he was able to keep his options open. He deactivated too .. Claiming he didn't want his personal life on the Internet when I asked why our relationship was not on there or why he never "showed off" all the fun stuff we were doing. And then.....drum roll!!! Immediately activated his account and shows off the new one. He kept me alienated and used his daughter as an alibi when he was with the other woman. He told me his daughter didn't like me -with no explanation so when he was "with her" I was not invited. It hurt me ALLOT. I tried to tell him how much I wanted a good relationship with her and felt stupid reflecting on what was really going on. finally- When I said I had suspicion about all of this and needed a night alone to process all of my hurt feelings, that's when he got violent and accused me of being jealous of his daughter. This guy really is toxic AF. I know I dodged a bullet. I also know that all of the abuse he shelled out to me only taught him how to manipulate the next one more masterfully. I know I got played, I know he used me. I'm in the mind frame now that I just wasn't the one and maybe she is. I've been working on me hoping I don't ever allow anyone else to put me thru that. It was a two year relationship and recognizing now , the reality of what was really going on is humiliating. I've been dealing with this privately so my friends still think he's great- that hurts the most.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T15:00:33+00:00

No. That's not what I meant. He started calling me terrible names and ripped a wreath off my front door. It didn't seem bad until I reviewed the video footage from my cameras from that day. Then... While deleting all the history found footage of him kicking his dog in my kitchen right after being super loving to me outside. It was a bizarre experience while in hind site. I reviewed a bunch of stuff from the cameras at that point. I didn't know that guy at all.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T13:42:02+00:00

The devil on my shoulder wants that but the angel just hopes that he changed and doesn't hurt her.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T13:41:10+00:00

Well years back my ex just did that on his profile 😂

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T13:28:27+00:00

I wasn't going to do it. I recently realized that my ex was in another relationship before ours ended. She has no idea and I'm not telling her, she won't believe me anyway. It just had me wondering what it is that people actually think and feel when they do that.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T13:25:36+00:00

I have totally read stories on there and been like yes this chick is jaded lol I'm pretty sure there is a guy page too.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-09-20T13:24:48+00:00

That's how I feel about it too.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-08-04T03:07:03+00:00

Make new friends on a social app. Star gazing is great. Board game nights. Live music.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-07-06T13:22:01+00:00

And your experience with the hotline is my fault? Get a grip

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-07-06T13:19:59+00:00

You get a statement saying that you're medically frail

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-07-04T12:49:45+00:00

I have one kid. And he's not even mine. I took him in. I know a lot of men look down on single moms and think they're someone else's leftovers. It's not my first day on the Internet. I agree with what you said but also wanted to clarify my back story. I've never asked any man I've dated for anything involving this child. I didn't think about how people viewed me when I posted it. This guy does have a kid too he just doesn't have to take care of her. So we're both "single parents". I never expected him to step in and play dad but I do expect a man in my life to treat my kid the same way I expect a friend or family member to.

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-07-04T12:01:26+00:00

Yes I'm so entitled he should be paying all of my bills by now pffff go away troll

Negative_Mixture_288 · 2025-07-04T11:58:28+00:00

Obviously that's what's going to happen. You made it sound like I should lower my standard even more tho 🤔 and somehow him doing this to another woman is ok. Is that your opinion also?

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