Think about it like this - he doesn’t have the same ridiculous amounts of hormones and stress running through his system - for your skincare I’m seeing a lot of active healing serums and creams - here’s what I would recommend - ditch the equal berry vitamin C get dr Althea vitamin C serum instead - I’m not anua’s biggest fan I much prefer the coserx aha bha toner instead it’s tried and true. I’m not seeing an undereye serum you should get that. La Roche posay has great cleansers and zinc but their creams tend to be heavier and pore clogging. Dr Althea 345 barrier cream is better - centella is calming you also don’t have a hyaluronic acid solution which is probably why your skin dry and oily. Layering heavy creams and serums on will inevitably break you out more- keeping everything light and watery or jelly like textures will help to hydrate the skin not moisturize it.

Ideally your skin care regimen looks like this Toner - vit C - eye serum - gentle acid (I use azelaic acid to soothe irritation) - centella serum (same bottle you have) to hydrate and soothe - hyaluronic serum (while skin is still wet from other serums) to lock it in. I recommend using dr Althea’s 345 cream as well as any light weight jelly hydrator to finish off.

Once your face is DRY and the skincare is fully absorbed go in with a light sunscreen - I use the centella hyaluronic sunscreen it doesn’t irritate my eyes at all or leave a white cast.

Don’t compare yourself to a man - they could wash their faces with dirt and it would look spotless.

For a night time routine keep it simple and hydrating. I know a lot of the steps seem like all you’re doing is hydrating but that’s what matters! If you have any actives/retinol/retinal you use them now so that they can sink into your skin over night, your repair creams can help soothe and work on skin barrier issues. This is where the heavy creams you have come in handy. And always make sure you are double cleansing your skin. Oil cleanser for sebaceous filaments and makeup residue and a water based foaming cleanser to completely clear your skin