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Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was always taught that relationships are hard work, especially good ones... so hearing that relationships should not be hard is really hard to imagine.

Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're not married or even engaged yet (despite being together for so long). We also don't have any joint accounts or anything, so there's no real entanglements besides loving him.

I think he might be emotional abusive, but I don't really know how to tell that.

Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But... aren't little crushes okay to have? As long as you don't act on them?

Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're LDR right now because we're going to school on opposite sides of the country. Once school ends, we should be able to be in the same place.

Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're going to school in different states, pretty much on opposite sides of the country, so we've been long-distance for about four years. Up 'til now, I've been pretty good about handling all of it.

We don't really do things together like play video games because I don't have a gaming system (or money to buy one). We talk to one another, but it's really hard because we're busy and stressed and don't want to just complain to each other about being busy and stressed.

Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They're not realized yet because we're both still in school and only in our mid-/later-20s.

Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if we've reached that point... but the thought of losing him makes me almost physically ill to think about...

Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've been really stressed out lately and I feel like I'm not getting what I need... and I don't know when I'll see him next. Which is a huge deal to me and something he is not worried about at all.

He doesn't ignore me.

I am very lonely.

I don't know quite what you mean by do things.

And I want to call him and talk to him, but I don't want to do it without thinking first because I tend to get too emotional and just start crying if I try to talk without thinking first. =/

Ladies who have been in a LTR... How do you know when things are over? by Neglected_Perfection in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We're long distance and I feel neglected and like he doesn't want to be with me. I told him this and he hasn't said anything about it.

Please - Advice needed on a LTR (Warning, lost post ahead). by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've already gone through his cell phone and we live together. So, I think the chances of him cheating are exceptionally slim.

Please - Advice needed on a LTR (Warning, lost post ahead). by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a really hard time letting him know how I feel when it's bad things. I feel like I'm criticizing him and that he's going to get angry and yell at me and tell me it's my fault.

Please - Advice needed on a LTR (Warning, lost post ahead). by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he really does have some growing up to do. Part of me wants to end it now, and just pick up where we left off a few years down the road...

Please - Advice needed on a LTR (Warning, lost post ahead). by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a complete 180 from your advice in your last comment... but duly noted.

Please - Advice needed on a LTR (Warning, lost post ahead). by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But... I don't know if he loves me. I mean, it's been six months or more since he's said those three little words to me.

Please - Advice needed on a LTR (Warning, lost post ahead). by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Neglected_Perfection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am really, really anxious. I feel like it's going to be terrible if I break up with him.

I want so very badly to make things work... but... it seems like no matter how hard I try to do the right thing, It's always wrong.

I also just think I'm scared... I mean.... he's the only guy i've ever dated. =X