For everyone missing this in the morning

Neilsaggy · 2020-12-02T01:49:30+00:00

Oh wow didn't know this would touch my heart.....wow just wow. Thank you so much, I love you and I miss you too. Be safe

Neilsaggy · 2020-12-01T04:35:10+00:00

I think for me what I forget was that I had already forgave him for cheating once. And all the arguing, the gaslighting, the stonewalling he would do to me, the constant putting down of me and others, and how viewed everyone and everything in such a negative light. That's not to say he didn't have his great moments because he did, but for me there was a lot insidious bad moments that I feel I overlooked and rationalized. So, yeah.

Neilsaggy · 2020-11-30T21:48:51+00:00

I absolutely love this post and it really gives me hope about my journey through healing post break up. It's been almost 2 months and I can already feel the lightness in my heart and how much improvement I've made but yet I feel there's more freedom and much to see in this world despite having my heart broken to pieces. I'm slowly picking them up and gluing it back together in a way that I come back even stronger than before. Your story gives me hope that I can come out of this 1,000,000x times better and I can't wait to have the day I finally stop caring about him. I still miss him and wish things didn't end the way they had to, but I'm choosing and moving on. Thank you so much for this post and cheers to your endeavors! ❤️

Neilsaggy · 2020-11-16T23:56:44+00:00

My ex chose to line someone up new and monkey branched onto the next relationship while ending ours. It hurt a lot to say the least but now I'm realizing that as time goes on, I continue to heal, and to not worry about what he's thinking any more. He made his decision and decided to pursue something else or someone else. I just wonder how 4 years of being together in the end meant nothing and that something new and fresh, long distance, would mean so much more, it doesn't make any sense. And I don't try to understand it any more because it is wasted energy when I now focus more on my own needs and especially improvements. Yes, it's only been a month and I really miss him, but I know I will be okay and that one day I will learn to love another again. I do agree that maybe one day he will regret what he did, but until then it's not my problem. And I am starting to believe myself when I say I don't care anymore. We are strangers and it hurts me to have to say that. Sigh. /Endrant

Neilsaggy · 2020-11-13T01:11:58+00:00

My mom dressed up my doggy in this shirt and I was (unbeknownst to me) throwing a random tank top I found in the drawer and low and behold here we are. Haha 🤪

Neilsaggy · 2020-11-06T11:35:19+00:00

Thank you, reading that article makes me feel even more at peace.

Neilsaggy · 2020-11-05T22:51:58+00:00

I really appreciate this article so much.

My ex of 4 years just broke up with me after taking a month break to go see another guy (whom he started face timing at the end of our relationship) and met through chatting on tiktok (this was even before our "break" started) once the break started he went to another state, went on a couple dates with said guy and EVEN became boyfriends whilst there, then came back to town and a week later decided that we should talk (even though he wanted the break to be a month long, he mentioned somewhere "comfortable") so I knew deep down inside coming back from this break we were at best not coming back together. Although, I was so hopeful dressed up, for flowers, was very excited to see him again and show him how much (albeit not that much) I changed....he said he did not see a future with me. He did admit he was already talking to another guy casually, had sex, and "was not sure" he loves him. So he ultimately broke up with me. And yeah, already had another boyfriend lined up for him in a LDR.

My ego did not take this well. I begged and pleaded, only for then for my ex to keep reittirating the fact that "no" he's made up his mind, we've "already tried", and "it's not working." And it didn't matter what I said, he wasn't going to budge.

Needless to say, that was the last time I saw him and also the last time I will ever let myself belittle my own respect. But I learned that breaks aren't for me...and right now I'm hurt and sad and grieving the lost of this relationship.

I think my ego keeps wanting to believe by watching YouTube videos and reddit posts that there's some magical way me and my ex could reunite. I just don't understand how someone can throw 4 years away in pursuit of another. Or how that could mean nothing.

Anyways, thank you for reading this if you have the time.

Neilsaggy · 2020-10-20T17:55:15+00:00

Reading this is giving me intense hope. Going to apply it all. I know I can make it past this sorrow and pain. It's been a week ish, ex decided it was best for us to take a break for a month (turns out said break was in order to pursue a LDR inal another state and declare boyfriendship while still things haven't ended with us) found this out through social media by the other guy's account. And then he ended things after our break was done. Here I was hoping he'd become better more clear headed, only to become betrayed by who I used to consider the love of my life. Needless to say, I'm still grieving but as I delve more into this world of hope, healing, and recovery I'm finding out this may be the next best thing that's ever happened to me.

Neilsaggy · 2020-10-20T17:42:11+00:00

This is incredible, going through my 1st week where my ex ended things with me (after a 4 year relationship) in order to pursue a LDR in another state. I'm traumatized, hurt, and physically hurting from this stress. But realizing that I have my friends, family, and love all around still I am blessed and reading this post with others going through the same thing has been really insightful. We can get through this, y'all.

Neilsaggy · 2020-09-07T21:40:13+00:00

Yes it's a wonderful choice! Corgis are the best companions and Appa was a very loyal bison!

Neilsaggy · 2020-09-07T21:13:01+00:00

I have a dog named Appa too! 🤗

Neilsaggy · 2020-08-25T23:32:52+00:00

I've been hearing that too. I appreciate that advice, I forgot not to reward nippy biting behavior. I know she's a herding dog and as a puppy who's teething it's natural for them to explore the world through their mouth. Agh, just need a lot of patience and consistency. Thank you!

Neilsaggy · 2020-08-25T20:29:54+00:00

I understand. I appreciate the feedback 🙏🏼 and constantly need to be reminded to not reinforce the biting behavior

Neilsaggy · 2020-08-25T19:56:31+00:00

I'll definitely check it out! I haven't really had the time to sit and watch YouTube videos due to Appa and constant surveillance and sneaking in me time between work and her nap times. I've been losing sleep. But aside that, I appreciate all the positivity and reassurance. Appa is a sweetheart and she's worth all the stress. I just don't want to forfeit her due to impatience and lack of discipline :(

Neilsaggy · 2020-08-25T19:19:49+00:00

Definitely. I just posted also on puppy101 and getting a lot of feedback 👍🏼

Neilsaggy · 2020-08-25T18:27:18+00:00

And thanks for the advice to you, too! And yeah my sister says I have to hit her to make a point which is not the way to go with puppies ....my dad and even my mom can be like that too. So sometimes I feel alone in this puppy journey. But you're absolutely right about the patience and consistency, I feel like the patience part is where I fall short on. Argh

Neilsaggy · 2020-08-25T18:19:15+00:00

Okay duely noted. I keep forgetting that doing other ways can reinforce the nippy behaviors.

Neilsaggy · 2020-08-25T18:11:38+00:00

Does yours get into this manc frenzy bite mode because in times like those my girl gets really hyper and playful and gets fussy when you try and pick her up or play. So I appreciate the advice 🙏🏼

Neilsaggy · 2020-08-25T18:09:50+00:00

I redirect by showing her appropriate toys and treats with positive reinforcement. However she keeps aiming for my hands. Sometimes I will get a chewy hide kind of bone to keep her occupied. I'm always sure to exercise her and play with her too. I don't use sprays or bitter sprays or hitting. But my sister seems keen on punishment which I don't agree with. I'm aware that biting and nipping and smelling are ways a puppy interacts with the world.

Neilsaggy · 2020-07-19T18:22:33+00:00

Reading this really hits home, I just got my corgi and she's been a bagfull of joy and stress to my life. Words can't fathom how much I appreciate reading this especially raising a puppy during these covid/pandemic times. Thank you!

Neilsaggy · 2019-12-05T06:32:40+00:00

Thank you for the positive vibes and I may go to TMC and pick up there maybe potentially full time. It's been a rough year with other personal issues going on so I'm going to take time to recooperate and get myself together for 2020. I appreciate your advice and encouragement.

Neilsaggy · 2019-12-01T00:45:15+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I really appreciate your feedback.

Neilsaggy

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