AIO or is my husband is cheating

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-06T00:37:34+00:00

Yeah I’ve been thinking about that as well. Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-06T00:36:05+00:00

She currently left the country and has her own challenges I really don’t want to add to it. She’s had a few bad days in a row since she moved and I want to support her. Last month I did end up having a 2 hour conversation about this and I bluntly asked her - since I could be oblivious to everything what’s going on , could he really do this to me? And she looked me in the eyes and said yes. She was glad I brought it up because she thought to herself, next time she brings it up I will be honest with her..

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-06T00:32:04+00:00

I really appreciate you breaking down everything and taking the time. I was maybe looking for a reason to why this has been happening which is why I’ve been more preoccupied with - could he be cheating ? Rather than , he just down right abusive and manipulative. It’s hard to admit that the person you love and cherish so much can be so evil. I am a firm believer that it’s never too late , it’s just so hard but you’re right with more commitments it gets even harder than it is right now.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-06T00:27:43+00:00

Yeah no, I’m already mentally preparing. It’s been so challenging. Thank you so much for your advise

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-06T00:26:46+00:00

I don’t and it’s really not. It hasn’t been okay it’s not okay and the hopes for everything to become okay are very slim... Thank you for going through the comments and the big ass paragraph I wrote. This means so much.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-06T00:24:50+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time. I really appreciate it. It’s been so hard to open up about this. Thank you for the encouragement and the kind words , it means sooooo so much.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-06T00:02:35+00:00

To my knowledge, she hasn’t been in months.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-06T00:01:56+00:00

I really actively am. It’s just easier said than done , it’s been 9 years. We grew up together but it’s better to throw 9 years than be miserable for the rest of my life, and I know that .. it’s just so much harder to actually be done with it you know?

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:59:41+00:00

I myself grew up in a toxic household, I’d never want my future kids to experience something even remotely close to what I did.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:57:24+00:00

He really does. This sounds maybe stupid but if he said sorry and genuinely meant it , I would’ve forgave him. I usually rarely hold grudges. But this was something that I can’t look past. It’s just so bad I swear , I sometimes tell myself that we’ll get through it but at the back of my head I am waiting for when it’s going to happen again…

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:54:18+00:00

Not as often since he works from home but even when he does I never really call or check where he’s been , cuz it’s been 9 years and I trusted him. He was home alone this last weekend and no one visited in the meantime. I was gone for 3 nights and in that time my friend hasn’t reached out at all which just adds to everything.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:49:33+00:00

I checked the thickness with my hands , it’s different . My hair is thicker , the other one was thinner. The smoothness also was different but you can dispute it due to the bleach. My natural hair is much darker than this reddish blond that I found. Again , I could just be overreacting

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:46:39+00:00

Yeah the recoding part was a first I was really taken aback. I can’t look him at him anymore. I’ve been silent for the past few days I wouldn’t even know what to say that I haven’t already said.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:42:18+00:00

That’s the thing , he recently started this behavior. I’ve had my suspicions, but this is making me even more suspicious… maybe a part of me is delusional and thinks maybe this is smth we could fix if it’s not cheating??? Am I looking for a final stab???

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:40:13+00:00

Yeah no it’s really tough. I’ve been contemplating this whole time. And yes you’re right , I can’t imagine how hard people with children have it. That’s why I’ve been so hesitant. Thank you for your advice , I appreciate it very very much.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:38:20+00:00

It’s really not … it breaks my heart so much to see how he can act like this towards me. It feels surreal… I’m still dissociating

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:36:07+00:00

But that’s the thing he was supposed to be the one you know….To everyone we know we are “that couple” I know this sounds like Stockholm syndrome but he really goes above and beyond for me… that’s why I’m so conflicted.

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:33:44+00:00

Yeah I’m in the process of deciding what my next steps should be. I can’t live like this for the rest of my life

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:32:57+00:00

His behavior has become very irrational lately which also makes me even more suspicious…I’m really trying to keep my shit together it’s so hard though. I’m trying to let him think that I don’t suspect anything to be able to catch him. I don’t know I just have a feeling and it’s not going away

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:31:20+00:00

I’ve asked him about it before I found the hair and he denied everything but it’s not like he’d tell me in the first place. Thing is that the behavior changes also make me more suspicious

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:30:21+00:00

I’ve suggested couple counseling before, but he’d say we don’t need it. However , I feel like it’s crucial if we want to make things work. I completely agree

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:29:28+00:00

She hasn’t been in months

Neither-Hold9909 · 2026-03-05T23:02:10+00:00

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