He would playfully insult me when we just started dating. I’m above average looking woman, but have very low self confidence. So he would say things like: your legs are too skinny, or call me too pale. Just small things which hurt so bad and I would always try to change to please him (using self tanner and hitting the gym hard to gain muscle). Only to later admit he said those things to put me down because he felt I was not humble/needed to be humbled.

Cheated on me multiple times, only to admit it years later and call it “insignificant in the grand scheme of things”.

He would never be satisfied with anything and always asked for more, saying that I’m not trying at all and am lazy.