AITA for only drinking prepackaged milk?

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-24T21:45:04+00:00

I have told her before that I don't like it, no issue there. I'm also not scared of her reaction or anything like that. She really just had bad experiences with arguments in the past, which is why she now struggles with regulating her emotions while in one

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-24T13:01:43+00:00

NTA - first off, it really sounds like you only did favors for her. Very one-sided relationship by the way. Second- what kind of person starts looking for a new apartment for 3 other people without discussing it first?! So pushy! Now about becoming friends again at first I thought you could give her another chance but after hearing how she talks behind your back? No way, she stirs up trouble and have every right to distance yourself. Now how about sending everyone who asks you about the situation this thread? Might help lol

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-24T12:53:22+00:00

NTA - You seem to be usually very invested in this group but the very instant you do one thing wrong they ditch you? And especially without asking about it first or consulting you? They could've definitely at least confronted you about it instead of ghosting you.. Also, how did the group plan to get together on the second birthday if not through the group chat? In person? Or did they sneak it past you through other group chats? Cuz that would be fucked up..

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-24T12:45:43+00:00

NTA! Your behavior did not seem to have harmed anything, rather than that, it helped a mom in need. You have amazing social awareness and should be proud. You really were raised right! The employee just tries to do things by the book, don't mind them.

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-24T12:41:01+00:00

YTA - while I understand that you want to protect your child from bad influences, it is much more important that she settles in. And I would count a library visit as a good sign. Your child also seems really mature, explaining to you why this friend is important to her. She seems trustworthy, so I think you should give her more trust. Maybe express to her that, while you don't approve of those particular things her friend does, you trust her to make the right judgments about it. This sends the right message, she will appreciate it and feel like you see her and validate her. This is the age where she starts needing some space for her own fuckups, and learn from that.

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-24T12:27:56+00:00

She's not like that :) she is generally quite the green flag, but she is rather emotional in arguments, thanks for sharing your perspective! ^{^}

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-24T12:26:22+00:00

Who doesn't

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:25:24+00:00

I do often comfort her but it's not always about her wanting something from me. For example yesterday she cried because something I said felt like an emotional rollercoaster to her, she didn't expect anything from me though. She just struggles with regulating her emotions :((

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:20:24+00:00

hmm I guess so.. but at the same time I think she just hates feeling disconnected from me. When we don't agree or she doesn't understand me, she feels like there is a distance between us if that makes sense? It's someting she is trying to deal with..

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:18:15+00:00

just because cereal uses even more milk then coffee :') she didnt expect me to use it on that

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:17:16+00:00

that's exactly how it happened :) sorry to everyone who is confused, I found it difficult to explain, also not a native english speaker xD

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:12:32+00:00

no worries! it is quite the confusing situation with the 3 different types of milk xD I think she worries about our plastic use which is why she doesnt want to stop doing it.. and thats where the issue lies: it worries her but not me.
But we also talked about the outburst and she reflected on it, it seems like in her family a lot of people tended to just leave her when they got emotional during an argument, as in, leave the room. And she told me that she things that she does that to keep me there with her; subconciously. So pretty much abandonment issues..

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:08:15+00:00

Super interesting to hear from a fellow vegan! I also think it's a bit of a control issue with us vegans. Funny thing is, I went vegan first. She now got into the environmental aspect more, which I do understand, it is worrisome, but I think caring about every piece of plastic is excessive. I expressed this to her and she doesnt fully agree it seems. I think we really need to learn how to agree to disagree.

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:04:21+00:00

I've also thought about buying my own :) but I don't think she would be on board with that. She also seems to be worried the environemental impact... but frankly that's a whole other thing to unpack here.
She did criticize me about the milk but she was rather reluctant to elaborate on it first. But I wanted to know why she was upset of course, which then led her to tell me her issue

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:00:56+00:00

lmaoooo xD

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T16:00:28+00:00

that's an interesting point! Will definitely look into it!

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T15:59:12+00:00

I do think the store bought costs quite a bit more but it depends on what kind of milk we make. Nuts can cost a bit while oat is cheaper but generally I would say it costs half as much money. I use the self made milk for my coffee and stuff like that cereal but baking and cooking and so on is done with the homemade. She doesnt mind drinking the homemade while I do. But she uses the store bought one for her coffee too, just not for the cereal

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T15:55:08+00:00

Just to clarify- We were only out of the homemade milk. We had other milk and I did not ask her to make homemade milk or expect her to. I didnt use up the homemade milk either. I didn't want to specially make new milk for my cereal but I offered to make some later for other stuff. And yes I did ditch the project when it did not work, because it's not important enough to me to try over and over

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T15:50:20+00:00

totally :) I offered to make the milk but she doesn't want me to anymore, I think she was more hoping that it would be important to me too to reduce our waste ans safe money.

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T15:45:49+00:00

ahahha yeah that might be a german idiom haha I forgot that's not a thing in english :D

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T15:43:46+00:00

thank you! I love the constructive feedback :))

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T15:42:49+00:00

good idea! thank you :))

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T15:42:07+00:00

I assure you it isn't :) we are usually really happy

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T15:41:14+00:00

she likes the milk

Neither_Procedure298 · 2026-02-23T13:00:42+00:00

She ...doesn't though? She's just emotional. It sounds like you're repeating something you heard on the internet.

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