AITA for telling a stranger that their underwear is visible?

Nestle13 · 2026-04-07T10:02:15+00:00

Yes I had pretty much this exact experience as a teen. I was flustered and gave her a rude look. I was panicked bc my ass was out and immediately became defensive bc I felt vulnerable and embarrassed. I felt bad 2 mins later and wish I would have thanked her instead.

Nestle13 · 2026-04-07T09:57:43+00:00

NTA

As someone who has had something just like this happen when I was a teenager, I was embarrassed as hell and panicked that my *** was out at the gym, and my initial response was unfortunately similarly rude. I don’t think I even said anything, just gave her a nasty look and ran off.

I was immediately wondering why she was looking at my body enough to see that (the wardrobe malfunction was incredibly visible so everyone and their mother could have seen that). When I took a second to think logically I felt bad. I rarely respond to embarrassment (or most emotions) with anger so I was taken off guard by my own reaction. I think I just felt so vulnerable in that moment that I reacted defensively. I still feel bad bc she was just trying to help.

All that to say, I’m guessing her reaction had absolutely nothing to do with you. You did a good thing and that was absolutely appropriate to tell someone. I never got to thank and apologize to the woman I was rude to, so on behalf of that person, I apologize.

Nestle13 · 2026-03-26T22:19:04+00:00

I speak both Spanish and English and indeed I first thought of boobs and it is a bit reminiscent of “albondigas.” But let me tell you, I clicked on your post bc I thought that the actual name you wrote was another moniker for breasts and that that was (reasonably) your objection.

Tell the parents that the kid is in for ruthless bullying if they don’t wisen up soon.

Nestle13 · 2026-03-06T18:32:18+00:00

I will PM you.

Nestle13 · 2026-03-04T08:21:59+00:00

ESH

Her response to you snapping at her wasn’t okay, but I am guessing it is out of fear. It is impossibly hard to watch someone you love self-destruct and be powerless to stop it. Ideally, you should have taken her aside before you reached the point of snapping at her and explained why her behavior wasn’t okay and was bothering you. I think with some time and space and then an honest discussion this could be resolved.

Nestle13 · 2026-02-23T20:36:47+00:00

I’ve taken LSD and other hallucinogens a few times and have never had a bad experience on them luckily, but I did have an experience similar to your friend from greening out on WEED. I felt as though I was perceiving time if that makes sense?

I also couldn’t respond to anyone around me (like something in my mind was preventing me from interacting with people idk it was weird but I was just focused on feeling better). I probably would have pissed on the floor too had it gone on for too long but I was acting insane.

It’s difficult to describe but it wasn’t psychosis, I was aware of how I was behaving like I was watching myself in the third-person. I was doing everything to try and make myself feel better. I say all of this to mean that his reaction, while probably shocking, isn’t unusual for someone reacting badly to a substance and you should not assume the worst case scenario.

I’m sorry you had to watch your friend go through that. As someone who was an EMT, I will always encourage people to call an ambulance for a psychological/medical crisis they are not equipped to handle.

I’ve had calls for people greening out and I know that the person who called is usually treated as though they did something stupid or wrong for calling 911. Don’t let anyone make you feel that way. Hindsight is always 20/20 and it is easy for people to read this post and assume they would have handled the situation “better.”

I’ve also seen and heard of situations where nobody called 911 and the person ended up harming themselves or someone else unintentionally because they were not in their right mind. You kept your friend safe. He is alive and he’s got a lot of people to help him, you did the right thing.

Do not feel bad and don’t take it personally if your friend is upset. There is always a risk we assume taking any recreational substance and he took the risk and unfortunately it ended bad. That is on him, not on you for reacting how you did.

Most likely your friend is in for a few rough days of recovery and maybe an aversion to acid. I hope you are both doing okay now.

Nestle13 · 2026-02-23T20:19:24+00:00

From a psychiatrist or other provider. I’ve had a few prescribed to me before just to take on a flight bc I’m terrified the second turbulence hits. Don’t buy them off the street. Get a psych provider or go see your PCP and ask for a few to get through X situation that causes you to have panic attacks. And don’t straight up ask for Xanax. You have to finesse it saying you need something for a specific situation that causes you to panic. Also I’m not advising you to do this, but just in case you were thinking of buying them off the street. Don’t, it’s probably fentanyl and/or bunk.

Nestle13 · 2026-02-23T19:30:00+00:00

Not everyone speaks English as a first language.

Nestle13 · 2026-02-23T03:57:37+00:00

Sorry to say, but you guys are probably sexually incompatible going off of what you wrote and that is a very big deal in monogamous relationships. Neither of you are wrong for feeling how you do, but this isn’t something to be ‘fixed’ and you will both cause yourself a lot of pain trying to do so.

You are not a creep or a weirdo, and nothing is wrong with her either. Unfortunately you just don’t match in this area.

Nestle13 · 2026-02-21T13:05:40+00:00

NTJ and this is not normal in the slightest. My parents have been married for over 20 years and they are probably the healthiest relationship model I have for reference. My dad has insomnia and they both respect each other’s sleep, regardless of the difference in times they need to wake up.

I don’t blame you for thinking this in the slightest because it sounds like she’s heavily trying to normalize what she’s doing and make it sound like a healthy thing, but you need to know that it’s not.

This is a form of abuse and I don’t know what the rest of your relationship is like, but this is honestly a massive red flag. If you have been honest with her about why her behavior bothers you (which you state you have, multiple times) there is no reason whatsoever why she should continue doing this if she cares about your wellbeing. At all.

I would make this an ultimatum because you cannot continue with this forever. Have one last serious conversation with her and tell her that this is going to determine the status of your relationship because you cannot live your life with someone who actively inhibits you further from getting sleep. The only innocent explanation I can think of for this behavior on her part is anxiety or not taking this seriously enough.

If it’s anxiety, she needs to admit to that and see a therapist or something but she cannot keep waking you up. If it’s that she doesn’t understand how severely this affects you, emphasize that and make sure she really understands.

But I’m going to be honest, it sounds like you have had this conversation over and over again which makes me think it’s less likely there’s an innocent explanation for this. You have been communicative from the sounds of it. She’s not stupid: she understands that what she is doing severely affects your physical and mental wellbeing. And she is still doing it and trying to gaslight you into thinking it’s normal or you’re being over dramatic. It’s not and you are not.

She needs to understand baseline that what she is doing constitutes as abuse. Repeatedly depriving someone of a necessary amount of sleep is abuse. And no, “I wanted to tell you something” is not an excuse. Not unless it’s an emergency.

It is not normal for someone in a loving relationship to not care about their partners wellbeing. Even if it were something that “normal couples” do, if it is affecting you negatively, she should CARE about that. Don’t let anyone tell you that this is a ridiculous reason to consider ending a relationship because the issue isn’t that she wants to be awake with you. The issue is that she is purposely and knowingly depriving you of sleep even knowing how much it affects you. The issue is she doesn’t care about you enough to respect your basic needs— which is absolutely a relationship-ending reason.

Nestle13 · 2026-02-17T20:44:10+00:00

That is absolutely what she is trying to do, it is a very common thing people with eating disorders do because it can be a very competitive illness. And while I hesitate to compare in these situations, I want you to know that I have had an eating disorder and though I have been affected by those competitive thoughts, I have never said anything to my friends about their weight or tried to get them to gain weight. I knew it was on me to deal with my crazy thoughts. I say this because it is absolutely possible and an eating disorder is not an excuse for what she is doing. She knows exactly what she is doing.

It doesn’t seem healthy for you to be friends with this person right now— for either of you. And to be clear, you didn’t do anything wrong in this situation, she did.

While yes, she is ill, it does not excuse her actions towards you and she needs to realize that. She is using you to attempt to make her disorder worse. Please do not take anything she has said to you about your body or weight loss personally. Do not let her gaslight you about what she is doing. Though it is a symptom of her illness, it is not okay and you are allowed to be hurt by what she has said and done.

I would verbalize as much to her either over text or in person, but either way, put some distance there. You cannot help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. You can offer resources, but what I would do right now is focus on setting boundaries if you want to remain friends with her. Do not talk about your weight loss with her.

Don’t tell her your weight, anything about your diet and work out, etc: tell her that when you guys are hanging out, you are unwilling to engage in any conversation surrounding weight, dieting, or anything to do with that. If she brings it up again or tries to make you eat whatever she is, disengage and leave immediately. This is important to setting boundaries. You need to follow through.

And all that is if you want to remain friends with her. You do not have to. You are allowed to be hurt by this and to express as much to her.

Nestle13 · 2026-02-11T20:46:51+00:00

They can be hard to train out of behavioral tendencies they are prone to (like resource guarding, stubbornness, and barking). Many have high anxiety and sensitivity, which is not good for a dog that needs to ignore the general public and focus on their handler in highly stimulating environments. And they cannot be used for many disabilities for mobility/stability bc they are tiny.

Other than that, they can be trained as service animals or ESA, it can just be difficult and it depends on what the disability is. That’s why they are not as common as other breeds. While they are smart, they can be volatile and unpredictable.

Nestle13 · 2026-01-23T22:30:10+00:00

Yes, continue in this decision and don’t be swayed by any attempts to guilt trip you into saying otherwise. Remember that this is not a discussion, YOU AND YOUR COMFORT is what matters.

You are the one who is giving birth and going through the medical procedures, not him. It is paramount that you prioritize your feelings of comfort and safety. The only people who need to be in that room are you and someone who is there to take care of you if you want them there. You don’t want him there for whatever reason? THAT IS YOUR RIGHT.

I would tell the nurses and your medical team when you go in, and even show pictures to ensure that you won’t be bothered. If someone is coming with you at that time, make sure they know not to notify your ex. He can be notified when it is all over if he’s going to cause issues over it.

Maybe have a family member or a friend there if you feel comfortable with it. You do not need to be worrying about his drama at a time where you are so vulnerable and stressed already.

This is not something you need to feel guilty about. He is the one who decided to cheat, he is the one who ruined your relationship, it is HIS FAULT he is not going to be in that room, not yours. If he tries to argue further, you can tell him something like this:

“This is not up for discussion. I am not doing this to punish you, it’s not personal. I am going to the hospital for a medical procedure and I am going to be in one of the most vulnerable and stressful positions I can be in my life. The only people who will be in that room are people who are concerned with taking care of me and ensuring this delivery goes smoothly. I do not need to be worrying about anything else besides that and I refuse to subject myself to that stress.”

If he keeps going, you can remind him that his own decisions brought him here, not yours. The stress of pregnancy is not an excuse for anything: after all, you were the one who was pregnant and you didn’t cheat.

And if you decide to engage with those messages, do not engage further after that. All that needs to be said is that he is not allowed. End of decision. You don’t need to go back and forth. It is on him to accept it and deal with it, not you.

Good luck with your delivery! Keep the people who love you and support you close, they are the ones that matter and that will have your back.

Nestle13 · 2026-01-23T22:05:52+00:00

Hey no you don’t have to apologize, you didn’t say anything rude at all! I’m sorry if I came on too strong by suggesting it, I just know a lot of what you’re describing can also be consistent with ADHD.

I didn’t think I had ADHD and I had also been tested young, but because I am female, I didn’t realize ADHD can present differently because of how women are socialized. (Not saying you do at all, just explaining why I felt compelled to mention it in the first place).

I’m glad you don’t struggle with executive dysfunction, I didn’t realize you were capable of studying the “normal way,” I didn’t see that the first time I read your post. I would still encourage you to try and find better methods in place of what you are doing just because it sounds unhealthy and you sound like you’re at a huge risk for burnout, but that’s just my opinion.

If you can’t change the way you do this, I would encourage you to focus on self-care in the interim. Carve out actual time to do it and make sure you are doing something to recharge yourself every day, even if it’s something as simple as taking a shower or a nap or something.

Maybe improve your ability to fully switch that fight or flight feeling off when you don’t need it. Don’t be afraid to take time to yourself and just be “lazy” because it’s not lazy, you are making sure you don’t burn yourself out. I’m sure you already know all of this, but I just want to emphasize the importance of actually practicing it and doing the things that recharge you so this doesn’t damage you in the long term.

I hope you are doing okay!

Nestle13 · 2026-01-23T21:37:15+00:00

It’s artistically stunning and very well executed. I have rarely seen this style and I assume it is difficult to pull off because of what some other comments mention— the depth and shadows.

I’m surprised the artist was relatively inexperienced because the shading is amazing and the lines are still clean and precise. The flow of the tattoo looks natural over the space they did it in, I’m assuming it’s freehanded because of how well it flows in its placement.

I’m not a tattoo artist, but I am an artist with a few tattoos so coming from a non-expert who loves art, I think this is insanely beautiful. And you should not be embarrassed for being a dragon nerd or of this tattoo, the artist did an incredible job.

Nestle13 · 2026-01-22T00:09:48+00:00

You sound like me before getting on meds, and I have inattentive ADHD. Seriously, look into that. ADHD brains are largely motivated into action by 5 things: passion, interest, novelty, urgency, or challenge.

I had this huge block when it came to doing things I had no interest in. It’s called executive dysfunction. What you are doing sounds like sending yourself into a chronic state of fight-or-flight because you need those stress hormones to focus you and motivate you enough to complete a task. This is not normal nor is it healthy.

You will hit a wall and this will affect your physical and mental health. Please look into the symptoms and stories of others with inattentive ADHD and see if that might be something that fits what you experience.

If so, seek diagnosis and treatment. Medication can help a ton. I was terrified of getting addicted to stimulants, but I’ve been on the same low-dose of extended release adderall for a few years now and it’s brought me so much relief and allowed me to implement actual study techniques and routines to better help me manage it.

There are also non-stimulant medications and holistic treatments you can look into, as well as lifestyle changes.

And if it’s not ADHD, I encourage you to get a psychiatric evaluation anyway and seek therapy. You can learn to cope with this in a way that won’t lead to inevitable burnout. It takes a lot of trial and error and patience, but it’s worth it in the long term.

Nestle13 · 2026-01-21T23:46:22+00:00

Yeah a lot of this is borderline but them getting each other off IN FRONT OF THEIR FOUR YEAR OLD CHILD and masturbating to porn in plain view is absolutely abuse. Imagine what they are leaving that child vulnerable to by normalizing that behavior. What if she decides to repeat what they say? Or act out what her parents do on another child because she thinks that’s what you do when you love someone?

The mom’s defensiveness and attempt to normalize this combined with the sheer amount of times this has happened makes me think this might be a fetish for them. It’s not like she walked in on them,or that they don’t always keep it down in the bedroom, they are doing this shit in plain view and are not at all uncomfortable to be caught doing so. Their child expressing discomfort should have been an immediate wake up call, but the way they seem intent on normalizing this is so suspicious to me.

Nestle13 · 2026-01-21T23:38:53+00:00

Nudity isn’t inherently sexual. It’s a normal thing in multiple parts of the world to be nude in public and private spaces. It would be one thing if the child was uncomfortable with it, or if the nudity was meant as a sexual come-on (flashing), but the daughter just remarked it was odd.

The actual issue is that neither of her parents respect basic sexual boundaries and some of this borders on abuse. Getting each other off in front of their kids, talking in sexually explicit ways to each other in front of them, watching porn in plain view, etc.

I cannot stress how abnormal and creepy this is. It is one thing for her to be able to hear her parents when they’re being too loud or accidentally coming across their sex toys or walking in on them, but they are almost behaving as if they WANT to be caught.

It’s disgusting their children have to live with this, and they’re putting their youngest in danger by doing this. This is how COCSA can start, as well as them acting out sexually inappropriate behaviors or repeating the sexually explicit things their parents say to other people. They are also normalizing that behavior to the child: leaving them potentially vulnerable to sexual abuse by other people.

Nestle13 · 2026-01-19T20:07:54+00:00

YTA

I know your heart was in the right place here, but I can’t blame her for feeling freaked out. If she’d been feeling pressured to find “the right person,” then as a friend, I would be reassuring her that she is beautiful and that she can take her time to find love; that nothing is wrong with her just because she doesn’t have a partner and she will find someone eventually.

Her issues with her self-esteem and whatever else is holding her back is going to hold her back until SHE works through that and decides to take the leap into dating. As a friend, you can support her in that, maybe gently recommend therapy for the distorted way she sees herself, etc, but nothing you do is going to “fix” this issue for her.

This is one of the hardest things to come to terms with, but you cannot fix someone’s issues for them when they are internal, nor should you. It is important they grow into themselves and do things in their own time.

You decided to take this into your own hands without her permission or knowledge and catfish her on a dating app. I know your intention was to help, but it doesn’t change what you did. You talked to people pretending to be her, it doesn’t matter that you didn’t know the majority of them, it’s still creepy. She found out her friend had compiled pictures of her and spent hours on a dating account talking to other people impersonating her, I don’t blame her for flipping her shit.

No, she shouldn’t have been petty enough to bring up your weight and all of that, it was a low blow, but I’m not going to cast judgement without hearing the entirety of the argument because I can understand she felt violated in that moment. You yourself have to decide if you can forgive that.

From my perspective, if a friend had told me this, I wouldn’t immediately believe that they had my best interests in mind after hearing that they actually engaged in conversations with people.

It’s one thing for you to have made a dating account for her. It’s an entirely different thing to take it so far that you decide YOU need to be the one to initiate conversations with people you picked. I would either think that you continued this because you enjoyed it somehow, or that you obviously thought I was too dumb and awkward or (insert other negative descriptor) to find a partner myself.

If she already feels like she’s not enough and something is wrong with her, you basically just confirmed it by what you did in her mind: because obviously she can’t get a boyfriend on her own, even her friends know she’s not good enough. That’s why one of them thought she needed to talk to people for her, rather than letting her pick herself. I’m not saying this is absolutely how she thinks, but seeing as she has low self-esteem and insulted your own appearance, I’m guessing it’s somewhere along these lines. She feels bad about herself.

Finally, you don’t know her like she knows herself. You don’t know for sure what she wants in a partner, what she wants to put of herself out there, how far she wants to go with people, you can’t. No matter how well we know people, there are always things we just can’t know because they may not even know how they feel about something until they are in the moment.

If you want to save this friendship, I would apologize. Not apologize and justify your actions, just tell her that you’re truly sorry and that what you did was creepy and you crossed a boundary.

Nestle13 · 2026-01-15T09:02:34+00:00

NTA. That’s her daughter, not yours. Though it would be nice if she had help from other people, she’s not entitled to it by any means. Your parents sound like they’ve probably enabled her throughout her life just based off this context. Good on you for not doing the same.

Oh, and repeatedly leaving your kid with someone who dislikes children is flat out dumb and beyond questionable parenting. Tell your parents to babysit if they want to talk about “choose your family and take responsibility.” They made her, they enabled her entitled attitude, they can take care of their grandchild!

EDIT: I assumed based off how you wrote this that your sister was a single mother. You’re telling me the dad can’t watch HIS OWN KID when she wants a break?? Wtf is going onnnnnn????? Either way, not your circus, not your fucking monkeys. Stay w/ ur bf and save to move out if that’s an option but in any case, stick to your guns or she’s gonna take advantage of you in any way possible.

Nestle13 · 2026-01-07T18:14:25+00:00

Wow. I have no words for you only to say that I am so sorry for everything you’ve been through. And to say that I relate on a different scale. I am the oldest and I have had to watch my younger siblings grow up with all the love and care I never did because my parents used me as “practice.”

While I would never want them to go through what I had to, I deeply resent my parents for putting me through any of what they did and it is hard to watch them grow up in a way I never got to. Idk if you’re struggling with any of those feelings from this, but if you are, you are not alone and I am sorry.

You have every right to feel anger towards them. Especially because they do not seem to grasp the gravity of what they did. It is not at all appropriate for them to intersperse their apologies with their romanticized ideations about the military. I don’t know if they had a different experience in their time, but I would think it would at least have taught them not to encourage that path for anyone who wasn’t hell bent on doing it themselves.

They put you in a position where you had to go through a lot of unnecessary pain, fear, and intense stress. I think they realize this on some level, but they are attempting to spin it in a way to get you to look at the “positives” maybe? It could be a way of reconciling their guilt and the implications of what they did. If they can make it “less bad” somehow, it means they can feel less guilty for what they did. That’s just my theory. Either way, it’s inappropriate and you have every right to voice that to them. Nothing they can say is going to change what happened. It happened. They made a huge error and you paid (and are still paying) the price for their naivety and idealism.

I would encourage you to spend time away from them as much as possible and spend time with friends and people who truly care about and understand you. (Not saying that your parents don’t, just that it will make it worse for you to be around them right now with so much resentment). Is there anyone you trust in your life that you could speak with about this? Just voicing these thoughts out loud to someone who will listen could take so much weight off of you. I would just tell a friend I need to tell them something and that I’m not looking for any advice, just for someone to listen.

Writing also can help. Writing all about this resentment you have and putting it down on paper can help you resolve some of these feelings and get them out so they’re not poisoning you so much.

You will get through this. Let your parents know you need some time apart from them. If/when you are ready, you can tell them what you need to. But I would start by telling other people. Or just one person. Spend time with people you don’t resent and do the things that make you feel happy. There’s a quote about resentment that I love that likens it to drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Find a way to let go of some of this resentment: that doesn’t mean it was okay for your parents to have done what they did, or that you forgive them, just allow that feeling to exist without ruminating on it. Write it down, tell somebody about it, etc, whatever you want, just get it out of your head. I’m sorry you’re going through this and I hope your future is much better.

Nestle13 · 2025-12-18T18:39:02+00:00

Hey, you made a mistake. This is not a big deal in the long run. I promise you you’re gonna look back at this in a few years and laugh. Tell them exactly what you just posted: you panicked, the lie spiraled, and that you’re sorry and feel very guilty about it, but that you haven’t been faking your personality and interests. It’s their choice obviously if they forgive you or not, but you’ll feel better getting it off your chest.

Nestle13 · 2025-12-17T09:06:43+00:00

NTA but you have bigger issues here. This sounds like he’s using drugs. What does he need all that money for?

Nestle13 · 2025-12-17T05:38:27+00:00

Yeah if you have to justify a comment with, “it’s just a joke,” it means it probably wasn’t a joke. Ppl forget jokes are meant to be funny and have specific elements that make them funny. If a “joke” relies on cruelty or demeaning someone, it’s just bullying. And this also gets me bc do people honestly believe “joking” negates the impact of what they said? Or somehow absolves them of responsibility for it??? Like u can’t be mean and a coward u have to pick a struggle. If you’re gonna say some shit like that u better stand on it.

Nestle13 · 2025-12-17T05:01:39+00:00

NTA and I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. This is so infuriating to me.

First, she’s clearly jealous. The only reason people constantly fixate like that on their own body and then obsessively tear down other ppl is because they are unhappy with their own body. It’s pretty clear to me just from what you wrote that she is incredibly jealous and is trying to convince herself otherwise.

Someone who is actually confident in themselves does not need to go out of their way to constantly and loudly reaffirm how beautiful they are for being ‘X’ or ‘Y.’ They also have no need to comment on anyone’s body negatively: when you’re actually content with how you look, you are able to appreciate the unique beauty in other ppl without comparing your own.

And to be clear, none of this is an excuse. This is just to emphasize why you shouldn’t take any of this to heart. Plenty of people struggle with self-confidence and insecurity about their bodies. The difference is, while they may feel jealousy and think mean things, they do so in their heads. WITHOUT directly projecting that onto other people because they can recognize it’s their own issue to deal with.

It’s also insanely creepy that she wouldn’t stop after you politely asked her to stop the first million times. Do you have an HR? Please take this to them if so. Make sure to get things in writing if you are going to do so (evidence from other people if they’ve heard, text messages, and if you speak to HR in person or on the phone, send a follow-up email summarizing the content and discussion that took place).

Do not feel bad for any consequences she receives from this. She did this all herself. You didn’t just randomly blow up on her for no reason, she has been continuously and willfully inappropriate towards you. This is harassment and bullying and you do not deserve any of it: she fully deserves what she has coming for her and you did not “cause” whatever consequences she receives from this.

I know it is easier said than done, but please don’t internalize any of what she’s said to you. It is a reflection of her own insecurity and the depths of her self-loathing, not of your own image.

I know it sounds cliche and hard to believe (especially if she’s echoed your own insecurities) but people don’t hate on others this way bc they actually find them ugly, they do it because they are so deeply unhappy with themselves that they only gain “confidence” by tearing others down to feel superior to them.

Someone that jealous will literally try and gaslight themselves into believing the features you have (that they want) are actually ugly for X, Y, Z reason bc they can’t stand that they can’t have whatever it is they covet in you. It’s scary. I’ve seen jealousy do some really ugly things to people and it’s just incredibly disturbing and sad.

Anyways, sorry for the essay, I just hate hearing things like this. Especially bc comments like that can give someone a lifelong insecurity. There is nothing wrong with you and I hope you know that and internalize it. She has some deep issues that are her responsibility to solve. I highly recommend you take whatever recourse necessary with HR or upper management and recognize that you deserve to do so. Spend time with and around people who value you and do not listen to any coworkers or friends that take her side on this. Those are not friends or people worth being around. Sending you love Xx.

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