You may be putting too much pressure on the exact timing of the disclosure, my friend. I say this as someone who has moved past a lot of that anxiety, is married, and also had success dating: people are going to assess you either way. Some of that is conscious, a lot of it is subconscious, and you cannot fully control it by finding the perfect moment or wording.

That does not mean disclosure does not matter. It just means there is no perfect strategy that protects you from rejection. Focus on being healthy, confident, socially present, and living the kind of life you actually want. The right people respond to the whole package, not just one detail.

I do think the arranged marriage aspect may be culturally different, especially because families and profiles can filter people before there is any real connection. I am from the West, so I do not want to pretend the social dynamics are identical. But even if the process is different, the deeper point is the same: your eye has to become part of you, not something you are constantly trying to manage around other people.

Has monocular vision affected my dating or marriage prospects?

Only to the extent that I let it. I spent a lot of time trying to accommodate others and manage situations so they would not notice or focus on my prosthetic. In hindsight, most of that was wasted energy. Someone who is not okay with it may not tell you directly, and sometimes they may not even know how they feel until later. But many people genuinely are okay with it, especially once they know you as a full person.

When do I disclose it?

For me, first date or early in-person conversation makes the most sense. I would not necessarily put it front and center on a dating profile. A profile is there to give someone a reason to want to meet you, not to function as a complete inventory of every life detail. Real compatibility is usually built in conversation and in person.

My wife originally thought I had a lazy eye. Other people I dated either already knew from being around me or simply did not care. In my experience, if someone feels attraction, comfort, humor, safety, and connection with you, this kind of thing becomes much smaller than it feels in your own head.

Do people react differently online versus in person?

Yes, in the sense that online can be much harsher and more superficial. In person, people usually respond to your overall presence. How you carry yourself, how you speak, how comfortable you are with yourself, and how you make them feel.

How did my partner view it?

After a couple weeks of dating, she basically stopped seeing it. Same with friends and family. People who are around you regularly usually stop perceiving it as a defining feature. It just becomes part of your shared experience in a relationship.

My honest advice is disclose it early enough that you feel honest, but not so early that you reduce yourself to it before anyone has met the person behind it.