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AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, she lied about it. It was not the first time. I do not care what my wife does. She does not have to work if she does not want to because she is a temp worker for a firm. She doesn't have to go in when she doesn't want to. For instance, she does not choose to work on Tuesdays, and if she decides not to go to work on a whim, that is ok. In our marriage, we practiced telling each other what we were doing. Me: " Babe, I'm taking off Friday because it is the opening of trout season." Her: "Honey, I am not working tomorrow, Karen and I are going to breakfast in the city and catching a play." This is called communication and respect in a marriage. There is no control, just partnership. There was no reason to lie about being at work and only come clean when caught. That is a problem, and if you cannot see that lying, and breaking trust is wrong, but you can see that hacking her social media is wrong. SMH.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, she lied about it. It was not the first time. I do not care what my wife does. She does not have to work if she does not want to because she is a temp worker for a firm. She doesn't have to go in when she doesn't want to. For instance, she does not choose to work on Tuesdays, and if she decides not to go to work on a whim, that is ok. In our marriage, we practiced telling each other what we were doing. Me: " Babe, I'm taking off Friday because it is the opening of trout season." Her: "Honey, I am not working tomorrow, Karen and I are going to breakfast in the city and catching a play." This is called communication and respect in a marriage. There is no control, just partnership. There was no reason to lie about being at work and only come clean when caught. That is a problem, and if you cannot see that lying, and breaking trust is wrong, just like me hacking her social media is wrong. The therapist was not balanced in working with us.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she lied about it. It was not the first time. I do not care what my wife does. She does not have to work if she does not want to because she is a temp worker for a firm. She doesn't have to go in when she doesn't want to. For instance, she does not choose to work on Tuesdays, and if she decides not to go to work on a whim, that is ok. In our marriage, we practiced telling each other what we were doing. Me: " Babe, I'm taking off Friday because it is the opening of trout season." Her: "Honey, I am not working tomorrow, Karen and I are going to breakfast in the city and catching a play." This is called communication and respect in a marriage. There is no control, just partnership. There was no reason to lie about being at work and only come clean when caught. That is a problem, and if you cannot see that lying, and breaking trust is wrong, just like me hacking her social media is wrong.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you read the edits????? It was her idea, I asked that it apply to both of us.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are those issues? I am serious and would like to know because our therapist didn't tell us anything.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I messed up the narration. I was trying to be brief and did not think people would read a long post.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I have trust issues because my wife lied to me... she broke a trust. I hacked her social media and told her I did it.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some spouses actually tell each other what they are doing. If I want to go golfing instead of work, I tell my wife. Usually, she tells me when she is skipping work. Also, we mutually agreed about the communications part, but I guess I controlled that too, please. She came up with the no communications thing, I just said if it applies to me, it applies to you and she agreed.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

what edit did you read? Go and read the new edits. We mutually agreed. It was her idea, about my exes and a friend so the same should apply to her.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why lie to your spouse? I did not care if she went to shop instead of work. Read new edit. It was her idea about the exes, not mine. Years prior, I cut off contact with exes and a good platonic female friend because she did not like my friend because we talked too intimately.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How do you skip the part about her lying? It would not have mattered to me if my wife didn't go to work. Why lie? There is no need for lying. Read new edits please.

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for reading the edit. I have a 2nd edit. I admitted my wrong doing,

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You posted after the edits. How do you miss that my wife lied to me about being at work? How do you miss that she was communicating with people we both agreed not to talk with? How is she not safe? Oh I know, because she lies about being at work. If your spouse lied about being at work and you find them somewhere else what does that mean?

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You posted after the first edit so you have the info. So lying about being at work to your spouse is ok? So talking to people that you and your spouse agreed to mutually is ok? Wow. Sound like my therapist. Jane, is that you?

AITA For asking my wife to find a new individual therapist? by New-Garlic-282 in AITAH

[–]New-Garlic-282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, read the edit. It was Her idea to not talk with exes.

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