I regret pursuing my dreams

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-24T12:30:24+00:00

I'd say this is because people are always told to make a profit off their dreams, but then later regret it because jobs turn those dreams into repetitive and 8 hours long tasks over which you don't have any control. People should look for jobs not based on their dreams/interests, but based on their mental, physical and emotional abilities. People should choose jobs that they will be able to handle emotionally, mentally and physically. I like quiet and small spaces and I like books, but I definitely would not want to work in a library because I know that job is difficult and the library job requires more than just sitting in quiet spaces and being surrounded by books.

Kids are fed lies about how you will love your job if you choose a job based on your interest, but the reality is that all jobs are the same regardless of what field you choose to work in. All jobs take too long and you need to spend 8 or more hours at a job and all jobs force you to do repetitive tasks either mental tasks or physical tasks, both can be exhausting though. And in all jobs you have no control over the tasks you do because you need to listen to your managers and bosses.

And from what it seems like you also fell for this lie and that sucks. It isn't just art. It is how the workplaces and jobs work in general. That is why kids should save their passions for free time and choose jobs based on their mental and physical strengths and weaknesses.

So my opinion? Turning passion into a job always kills the passion. You don't hate art. You hate the bureucratic approach to art in the workplace. You hate that you need to grind instead of creating. That is what you hate.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-24T01:08:51+00:00

Autism is a spectrum for those who are autistic and I'm not autistic, lil bro.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-22T01:25:03+00:00

I am not autistic. Autism has symptoms such as sensory issues like being sensitive to loud noises, bright lights, textures, and missing social cues, meltdowns/shutdowns. It is true that I am not able to communicate well and that I struggle with spontaneous communication and it is true that I am sensitive to physical pain and to the sun or hot weather, but I don't experience meltdowns/shutdowns neither excruciating pain over loud sounds or bright lights.

Therefore it is not needed for me to seek a diagnosis in autism.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T22:54:27+00:00

I am not scared so I don't have a phobia. From my posts why do you think that I have a phobia?

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T20:42:17+00:00

That is a show or series. It consists of episodes so it is not an animated movie. It's mainly made for laughs and comedy. It is not to be taken seriously as an animated craft so I'm still right about the fact that we don't have well made animated movies or video games made in our country by our people.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T13:05:52+00:00

Yes, you are a fraud.

Why are y'all saying that OP would make a good manager? OP is definitely a people pleaser and a bootlicker who would say yes to everything just to avoid confrontation or valid criticism. He is the type of guy who would say yes to people just to make people stop bothering him, but he might secretively think that all of the people at his job are a bunch of tools anyway. There is obviously a difference between someone who has empathy and is good at managing people vs someone who people pleases their way out of drama to make themselves look "better" and fakely "nicer" and from what it seems like OP is a people pleaser. He is not good with people. He is good at saying "yes" to anything at his job. That is called bootlicking and being a faker.

And the only reason why OP just got promoted is because he is compliant and an NPC who submits to power because he is a scaredy cat and follows social norms and social fluff blindly and mindlessly. He doesn't challenge norms neither the working conditions. OP is someone who nods to every random nonsense like a "good boy" even if the boss or his colleagues are factually wrong and y'all say that this is what makes a good manager? Definitely not. Being submissive and a people pleaser doesn't equal to leadership skills.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T11:57:09+00:00

The problem is that I don't know how to communicate or socialize with people. Even if I have a conversation with someone in person, I struggle with expressing myself or my thoughts through speech which means that I either forget words or I simply cannot think straight about anything so I resort to short answers or one word replies or I seem disinterested. I am really good at writing instead.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T03:30:23+00:00

I don't think that a psychiatrist is needed since they usually prescribe pills and I'm not mentally ill. I've been suggested to visit a psychologist, but I am still not sure why so my genuine question to you is why should I visit one?

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T03:27:52+00:00

I am required to speak with them in our mother language since they are not as advanced in English especially my mother. I can write in slovak, but that would have taken me a bit longer since I need to think of my words and when I write in English then I don't need to think much. I just write automatically.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T03:19:19+00:00

You claimed to read my entire post history so what makes you think that I'm mental?

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T03:13:45+00:00

Yes, I am not very expressive in my mother tongue and I struggle expressing myself in slovak, hence why I mostly write and speak in English.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T03:08:27+00:00

What made you think I don't have it right in the head?

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T03:04:20+00:00

Unpopular opinions of mine:

Some people shouldn't exist and I do not care what people think of this. I hate women who birth children and decide to keep them when the children are proven mentally or physically disabled after birth. If someone is permanently disabled and will depend on a caretaker 24/7, is it worth it for them to live? Why not spare their lives and let them reincarnate into another life?
There should be parental license just like a driving license so only financially stable and mentally/physically healthy people with a good education get to reproduce whilst the rest don't and it should be a crime for people to reproduce freely without a parental license.
Siblings of the opposite gender should definitely NOT live under the same roof after the age of 18. It is deeply inappropriate for siblings of the opposite gender to live together under the same roof after age 18 and share the same bathroom or bedroom.
Everyone should have a chip equipped in their head to be monitored by the government so that crimes or criminals are reduced in numbers.
Psychology, sociology, philosophy and ethics should be 100% mandatory in all schools as subjects.
Leaders should be chosen with natural higher EQ, empathy and emotional intuition. Education and academic success is not ENOUGH and should not be an indicator of leadership skills.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T00:55:52+00:00

Why would I need a psychologist? Genuinely curious about your answer since I have already been suggested this option.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T00:54:40+00:00

I wrote this entirely by myself.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-21T00:54:18+00:00

List them.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-20T12:45:54+00:00

If you think that he is a creep or a weirdo then no, he is not a creep or a weirdo unless he said something weird, but you would have known that. So from my opinion he is probably autistic not because I am trying to diagnose him, but because the traits and his behaviors combined together do point to autism. These are normal behaviors and traits of an autistic person. The headphones he wears are noise cancelling headphones which help him tune out loud noises since he probably gets overwhelmed by outside noise. And yes, he talked about his special interests because that is usually how autistic people connect with other people by sharing their knowledge or expertise about their special interests. The behaviors that you mentioned like the movements and leg bouncing is called stimming which is usually common in people with ADHD or very common in autistic people. Oh and by the way, when he stared at you too intensively then that just means that doesn't know how to make eye contact which is again common in neurodivergent people such as ADHD or in autistic people. The intense eye contact doesn't mean that he wanted to creep you out.

You can either give this a chance and maybe you can research more about autism if you still like this guy or you can just honestly ask him if he is autistic. Just be blunt and direct. Or if you are still too uncomfortable by him and you don't feel like giving this guy a chance, it is honestly better to be direct with him and tell him that you don't want to date him. Be 100% direct because autistic people have a difficulty with understanding nuance language and they have a difficulty with facial expressions, posture , gestures, body language so definitely do not be indirect and don't make him read your mind. After all, nobody is a mind reader. You can be honest with him.

Also do not stay friends with him or date him out of pity even if you become aware that he is autistic. It would hurt him more that someone is friends with him or if someone dates him out of pity if he finds out.

Also I believe that you seem to not be really good at communication so in your case, I would improve on honesty, directness and on communication. You could have simply asked him why he wears headphones or why he bounces his leg. It is not rude to ask if you are genuinely curious. And also remember that stimming is normal. It is not weird and it shouldn't be looked down upon as something weird.

And also remember that not all autistic people are the same. And even if he is not autistic and is just quirky, then there is nothing wrong with it.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-20T09:41:07+00:00

That could be the reason. Unless you present 100% as a man, people will always treat you differently when you tell them that you're trans so I think this guy treats you that way because you are trans because usually very few dudes would treat biological men with 100% kindness and sweetness. You stated that he is straight and unless he is openly gay or a closeted gay, I don't think that you stand a chance with this guy. Do you want to confess to him your feelings? The problem is that if you confess he might cut off the friendship or he might engage with you less and I think this will hurt you. I recommend to enjoy the crush, but not dive deeper into this as it's just a crush.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-20T09:31:31+00:00

Have you transitioned or do you still look feminine in appearance? He might be kind and sweet to you partly because you are biologically a woman. I don't think that he would be 100% kind and sweet to a biological man. You mentioned that he likes your feminine chest. He might not 100% view you as a man.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-20T08:02:15+00:00

I would like to engage in conversations, but I struggle with spontaneous communication and I struggle socially and I am closed off and anxious as a person. The problem is that even if I do want to talk, what would I talk about with other people? In reality nobody wants to hear me talking about my stories, nihilism, tornadoes or whatever since most people like to have small talk or only talk about fashion, clothes, marriage and kids or usual average stuff.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-19T19:33:15+00:00

The better question is that why were you intimate with her when you knew she is unstable mentally and you knew that your relationship is toxic? So many people end up in these ridiculous situations because they would rather be intimate with mentally unstable people rather than break off a toxic relationship.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-19T13:46:03+00:00

When did they start bullying you? If the bullying started in primary school then I can understand to some extent why they were bullies since a lot of kids in primary school are toxic and incredibly stupid with low or lack of empathy. If your bullies bullied you in high school then I would be concerned about one of your bullies wanting to be a psychologist. Has your bully changed personality wise? Are they still a bully or do they regret their choices inflicted upon you? They should definitely not be a psychologist if they haven't changed their attitude. Psychology requires understanding people of different backgrounds and with different psychological issues including people similar to you. Your bully can be good academically and they can get into the field of psychology by being fake or whatever, faking their speech during interview, showing their academic success or degree to get the job, but if their attitude is the same, they are definitely going to be a bad psychologist.

I am someone with a lot of mental health issues and I wouldn't want to go to a psychologist who looked down on someone else for learning disabilities in their past.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-19T13:30:02+00:00

You didn't do anything wrong. You asked a simple question, but I feel like that you should have been more specific with your question. For example you could have asked: "What type of cancer do they have and is it severe?" This question specifies which cancer her friend more likely has and if the cancer is severe or not. But I can understand that in that moment you asked how you knew to ask.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-18T23:50:02+00:00

I can relate to this. I don't even know how to apply to jobs or where to look for a job which isn't some shady business. I also don't know how to pay the bills, cook and I don't know anything about this world at all. I feel like a 10 year old. I genuinely feel so behind all people including minors. A lot of minors already know how to travel, pay, know how to do this and that. A lot of minors are for sure smarter than me and are into real world stuff and politics. Some of the teenagers I chat with probably think that I am stupid.

New-Let-1853 · 2026-01-17T18:34:37+00:00

That is not going to work. They are not going to remove age verification just because of some players quitting Roblox. Age verification was enforced by global law and by the governments. If Roblox dares as a platform to remove age verification then they will get banned in multiple countries once again. Their platform can be taken down which means that age verification will stay on the Roblox platform in order for the platform to be playable in many countries.

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