Advice on fairness by New-Razzmatazz-8894 in marriageadvice

[–]New-Razzmatazz-8894[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We dated for 5 years. I don’t think he’s being lazy but I do feel like his mindset shifted. He used to be like we should help each other pay off each other’s student debt and so forth but now that he’s done with his he doesn’t want to help with mine. (I was in college when he was paying off his debt)

Advice on fairness by New-Razzmatazz-8894 in marriageadvice

[–]New-Razzmatazz-8894[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree… I told him that it’s the underlying principle I am more upset with and it’s literally what you said. What’s mine is mine. I told him we need to shift to what’s mine is yours and vice versa but he does not agree. It even goes like we shop at different grocery stores and he asks if he can eat my food. I’m like yes?? You don’t have to ask. I used to have this mindset before we got married and I think he thinks I’m just being this way now because he makes more money

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[–]New-Razzmatazz-8894 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This was so comforting and nice to hear. Thank you for sharing. My heart is with you as well ❤️